BeeMine Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 (edited) So I will start off in a cheesy traditional way; so I met this boy and I should mention that it was completely unintentionally that I began to have feelings for him. In fact I met him at a church camp for all girls, go figure right?. My mother convinced me to go with her to a weekend at a church camp. I was a bit depressed so I thought it might help being away from home and away from everything. when we arrived they lead us to a dinning area and made us take our seats. which were in age groups so my mother and I where across the room from each other. They gave us our dinner a few minutes later and when I turned to search for my mother across the room I spotted a guy, which was completely funny because he was the only guy in the entire place. He was standing in a funny looking position and sure he was good looking but I was completely taken away and intrigued by the way his eyes looked so sad yet beautiful all at once. (cheesy I know) Like his eyes had some deep something hidden that I couldn't quite begin to even imagine. He was looking straight at me as well and when as soon as we noticed we were looking at each other we both quickly went back to our dinner. He was there helping, he took all our photos and was in charge the sound system. That night I hardly slept and it wasn't because the cabin wasn't comfortable but because I was thinking about the guy in the dinning room. The next morning I walked into the dinning room for breakfast stoked and secretly hoping I would see him again but I was quickly disappointed when he was nowhere to be seen. He arrived later though and sure enough he started looking at me again with those big mysterious eyes. It was like that throughout the whole three days at the camp, there was constant glancing and staring between us but we never smiled or attempted to talk to each other, it was just these really intense eye contact moments. When we came back from the camp my mom and I joined the church he goes to and the constant staring and glancing still goes on, it has been maybe three months but we never speak and it feels like our glances pardon me if it sounds cheesy or stupid but it feels like our glances our really freaking loud with subtexts. However we avoid each other at all costs, sometimes he will talk to someone I am talking to but he will stammer over his words and as soon as he finishes he runs in the other direction, I admit I do the same because I am very shy. When I finally got the courage to ask my mother about him she told me he was her bosses son and that he has been in a long distance relationship for about two years now. Which shattered my illusions to bits of ever going out with him. My mom is friends with his mother so she told me that his mother was really excited because he not to long ago was going to break up with his girlfriend and went over to do so but changed his mind when he arrived. I am not the type of girl that dates a lot. I get asked out but I always refuse to date because I have a constant fear of letting people in and I don't get those connections with many people and with him I did. Instantly. I am pretty sure he feels it too because the glancing and staring is so obvious now and I feel terrible for having a thing for a guy who has maintained a relationship for two years and a long distance relationship! Jeez that must be hard. I just don't know what to do and I felt that I had to say that this world stinks sometimes, how fair is that when I met somebody I finally feel connected to he has someone already. It feels as though I am doomed to be forever single, it might be bit over-dramatic but it feels pretty real and I feel pretty stupid for thinking I had found that one person. Love Always Bee.. Edited March 7, 2010 by BeeMine
Enema Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 tldr version for lurkers: - Inexperienced church girl spots a guy - Thinks he's "the one" - They have never spoken You'll get over him, and you probably won't be single forever. Good chance you'll meet 10ish "the ones" before you're 30 and abandon that romanticized idea. In short: It's just typical kids stuff... lots of people go through it and grow out of it.
boogieboy Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 As long as you refuse to risk rejection by refusing dates by guys, you WILL be forever single.
lucy9216 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 You feel that you have a connection with someone you have never spoken to, just walk up to him and say hi, ask him his name too. See if you 2 can hold a conversation together.
deux ex machina Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 ...I just don't know what to do and I felt that I had to say that this world stinks sometimes, how fair is that when I met somebody I finally feel connected to he has someone already. It feels as though I am doomed to be forever single, it might be bit over-dramatic but it feels pretty real and I feel pretty stupid for thinking I had found that one person. Love Always Bee.. With the staring thing: it's worth considering that he could be staring because you are staring and while he may like it - he may not like it very much, as well. I'm not saying that's necessarily the case at all, it's just that when you don't have a lot of romantic experience it's easy to make the mistake of thinking that you both share the same feelings sometimes. Since he is in relationship with someone else, however shaky it is, please respect that. Learning to get past these feelings when having a relationship is simply not possible is important, and I'm sure you'll figure it out as time goes on. The danger with this guy is building him up too much I think. In a way, he's perfect fantasy material because you've never spoken. Trust me though - he puts his pants on one leg at a time, just like the rest of us! Good luck, Bee.
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