Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 For the past several months, I've kinda been moping about the social and dating life that I left behind when I graduated college and moved back home. I realized that I should have taken this as a clean slate; a fresh start. Sure all my friends and ex girlfriends are gone; either back at school or scattered around the country when they moved back home or got jobs. But I'm educated, I have a solid career, I'm financially stable for the first time in years. And not knowing anyone around here, I can be whoever I want to be TO whoever I want to be. I've decided I want a more "hedonistic" lifestyle. I want to go to bars and clubs frequently. I want to get invited to wild parties. I want to meet lots and lots of girls. But I don't know where to start. I know what I want and I have the means to attain it; I just don't know how to make it a reality. I'm tired of going by myself to the bars and clubs by myself on the weekend and not meeting anyone. How can I meet lots and lots of girls and start living the "party life that so many people devote their 20s to" like another poster said?
utterer of lies Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 I've decided I want a more "hedonistic" lifestyle. I want to go to bars and clubs frequently. I want to get invited to wild parties. I want to meet lots and lots of girls. You're lucky, the world is just waiting for you to fulfill your every wish without any more hassle than a post on an online forum. But I don't know where to start. I know what I want and I have the means to attain it; I just don't know how to make it a reality. I'm tired of going by myself to the bars and clubs by myself on the weekend and not meeting anyone. How can I meet lots and lots of girls and start living the "party life that so many people devote their 20s to" like another poster said? Talk to people. The only time you go to a bar or club by yourself should be the first time. How many girls did you approach the last time?
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted March 7, 2010 Author Posted March 7, 2010 You're lucky, the world is just waiting for you to fulfill your every wish without any more hassle than a post on an online forum. Talk to people. The only time you go to a bar or club by yourself should be the first time. How many girls did you approach the last time? Just 1. I complimented her on her earrings and she said thank you. I Asked her what her name is, how her night was, then I running out of things to say and just panicked and said "have a good night." I tried to say hi to a pair of girls, but they just took one glance and kept on walking. I don't understand. I thought meeting women in clubs and bars was easy.
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted March 7, 2010 Author Posted March 7, 2010 Anyone got anything else?
TouchedByViolet Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 I feel like certain people are born with this innate ability to pick up women. They have an understanding and tactfulness required to live the hedonistic life style. Maybe you don't have it. Yes you can practice and maybe get lucky on rare occasion but then again is it really worth it. Maybe you should expand your idea of pleasure to other areas of your life.
Twenty-ten Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 Yes, join Meetup groups. There is virtually a group for everything. A coworker who just moved back from abroad has done that to meet local people, they go on pub crawls, club nights you name it. Find the group you want to join that involves partying, and once you meet like minded people who love to party you don't even need to mention the word "hedonism" it will evolve to debauchery filled nights anyway. Apparently you can start up your own group as well in your local area. You decide what kind of group it will be you could call it something like a Club Crawl, and describe is as young professionals who like to party hard and live the good life, champagne VIP table, the whole bit. Don't know where you live, but how hard could it be to find like minded 20 somethings with the means to party it up?
Fouts Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 What's that line from Weird Science, if you want to be a party animal you have to live in the jungle, or something like that. You have to surround yourself with like minded people. If you want true hedonism you should start being a regular at an adult entertainment club or get a part-time job at night working in one.
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted March 8, 2010 Author Posted March 8, 2010 Yes, join Meetup groups. There is virtually a group for everything. A coworker who just moved back from abroad has done that to meet local people, they go on pub crawls, club nights you name it. Find the group you want to join that involves partying, and once you meet like minded people who love to party you don't even need to mention the word "hedonism" it will evolve to debauchery filled nights anyway. Apparently you can start up your own group as well in your local area. You decide what kind of group it will be you could call it something like a Club Crawl, and describe is as young professionals who like to party hard and live the good life, champagne VIP table, the whole bit. Don't know where you live, but how hard could it be to find like minded 20 somethings with the means to party it up? Really hard, actually. I live in the 'burbs (it's almost rural around here, it's so sparsely populated). I have to drive and hour to and hour and a half on weekends for nightlife.
marsle85 Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 Gotta find a wingman. That's your first step. Then you can take turns driving, etc.
boogieboy Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 Prepare things to talk about with these women BEFORE you go to talk to them. And stop asking them personal questions. You dont need to know how their night was or what their names are. And stop posting about it already. if you put as much effort into actually talking to these women as you did posting here, you'd be an expert by now.
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