GrayTree Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 Im having a hard time tonight. I keep seeing my ex of only one month and three weeks talking to this girl on facebook. Saying he's excited to see her and stuff...things he used to say to me. It kills. Im feeling like I must be replaceable right now. I love him so much and I want him back so bad. Im just waiting for him to come back, I feel he will. I need someone to talk to right now.
Perhaps Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 Don't make it worse; get off his fb and delete him.
Author GrayTree Posted March 7, 2010 Author Posted March 7, 2010 I dont want to delete him, its too painful for me to do right now...because I want that connection between us...so if he wants to come back...
Perhaps Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 alright, i understand that.. don't delete him but really try not to check up on him and see what's new in his life.. it'll only push you down
Author GrayTree Posted March 7, 2010 Author Posted March 7, 2010 Also so I stay in his mind somehow..
Author GrayTree Posted March 7, 2010 Author Posted March 7, 2010 Perhaps: Thanks for talking to me. Ive gotten a lot better with the fb, I used to check it obsessively. Im trying to slowly back away from it...but when you miss the one you love so much and you have no connection or communication with them whatsoever...sometimes I just want to hear about his life...
Perhaps Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 i completely understand how it goes.. every coincidence feels like a sign of things to come - we over analyze everything because we want to think/feel a certain way.. i really don't have any amazing advice to give you since i'm kind of in the same situation as you but i might as well be someone who can talk to you when you need someone to talk to..
Author GrayTree Posted March 7, 2010 Author Posted March 7, 2010 "Every coincidence is a sign of things to come". Exactly. I am trying to read into everything....is this girl his future girl? Is he falling for her? But Im trying to remember...nothing is certain. Im trying to keep believing that this could be a phase...and he might come back. Im sorry to hear you are in the same boat.
aerogurl87 Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 OP delete him off facebook! I deleted my ex from fb the day he left me, but he wasn't out of my life completely because I was using his sister to get a window into his world that he had basically closed off to me. I knew stuff about his life that he thought I was oblivous to because of her. She was that last lifeline to him that I had, so although I was going NC with HIM, I still had a way to know about him and looking back that helped slowdown my healing process tremendously. Had I stopped talking to her about him, I probably would've been over him sooner. So please save yourself the heartbreak and delete him off facebook. If he really wants to come back he will find a way.
BigTenInchRecord Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 Whether you are facebook friends or not will have absolutely no impact on whether he returns for second chance. If it's gonna happen, it will happen. If it doesn't, it wont. You think some guy who really wanted to be with you and would do anything to make it happen would make facebook get in his way? Your just adding more hurt to yourself which is completely unnecessary.
spriggig Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 Just finished with this... I needed to have another talk with the STBXW to convince myself that it was completely over. I needed to ask her to come back to me one more time and then hear her say NO in no uncertain terms because I really didn't feel that she had before. It was almost like breaking up all over again. I left the house and wailed for an hour alone, screaming and crying--it was really awful. Gotta do that stuff alone. BUT, now I don't feel like spying on her anymore and I haven't. Yeah, the hope STILL lives. Damn thing won't die, but I can handle it better now.
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