EYECANDY000 Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 So its been a month since ive seen my ex and 2 weeks since ive last spoke to him. As some may mave followed my story we were together for a little less than a year and he broke up with me because he stated that Im to Bubbly.. meaning I tend to do things and say things without thinking.. Well, in my defense it was just rhetorical questions that was pretty much like a conversation starter. anyways , I have been taking it extremely hard the past month. but with the help of my fello L'Sers everyone has helped me cope. I have hung out with friends a lot more, joined the gym, and done a lot of tasks that I have been meaning to do. So after 2 weeks he contacts me and said that he misses me.. and if I could see him today. I told him i wasnt sure.. He is really insistant on seeing me. I told him I may come by after work. Im curious to know why hes contacting me and for what reason.
skydiveaddict Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 So after 2 weeks he contacts me and said that he misses me.. and if I could see him today. I told him i wasnt sure.. He is really insistant on seeing me. I told him I may come by after work. Im curious to know why hes contacting me and for what reason. So, are you going to see him?
hoping2heal Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 He broke up with you for being "too bubbly" what? This doesn't even sound legitimate, however it's possible something about you just rubs him the wrong way. If that is the case then you are who you are and you shouldn't have to change your inherent nature to keep a man interested and if you do then that should be your first clue that just because you can attain the man, doesn't mean he's the right one for you.
Author EYECANDY000 Posted March 6, 2010 Author Posted March 6, 2010 So, are you going to see him? I dont know. I do miss him. but my life has started to change without him. I feel free now. I dont feel like I am putting someone else's happiness before mine. this break up which is my first heart felt break up has made me a stronger person. So i know that if I do decide to go I wont be really emotional. Today when I woke up this morning I was crying because I was thinking about him so much and how he said he loved me but broke it off with me. im just not sure what to do.
D-Lish Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 Is this the guy that got bent out of shape over everything you said and you suspected he had unresolved feelings for his ex?
Hot Carl Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 What would you think if he had been with someone else during the time you've been apart? The issues you had probably aren't fixed. I expect that he's sincere that he misses you and wants you back. But after a week of being back together the resentments that caused you to break up in the first place will show themselves again. You're just going to be a bubbly person, because that's who you are. And he's going to be a jerk about it, because that's who he is. You need a vacation in a place where the air is cool and clean. Somewhere where there are mountains nearby and where guys can be found who appreciate "bubbly".
Author EYECANDY000 Posted March 6, 2010 Author Posted March 6, 2010 Is this the guy that got bent out of shape over everything you said and you suspected he had unresolved feelings for his ex? yes, D- Lish , unfortunately it is
skydiveaddict Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 I dont know. I do miss him. but my life has started to change without him. I feel free now. I dont feel like I am putting someone else's happiness before mine. this break up which is my first heart felt break up has made me a stronger person. So i know that if I do decide to go I wont be really emotional. Today when I woke up this morning I was crying because I was thinking about him so much and how he said he loved me but broke it off with me. im just not sure what to do. You say you wont be emotional, but yet you woke up crying today over this. Perhaps you might be a little confused about how you really feel about him? I would not see him, let yourself sort this out first.
Author EYECANDY000 Posted March 7, 2010 Author Posted March 7, 2010 What would you think if he had been with someone else during the time you've been apart? The issues you had probably aren't fixed. I expect that he's sincere that he misses you and wants you back. But after a week of being back together the resentments that caused you to break up in the first place will show themselves again. You're just going to be a bubbly person, because that's who you are. And he's going to be a jerk about it, because that's who he is. You need a vacation in a place where the air is cool and clean. Somewhere where there are mountains nearby and where guys can be found who appreciate "bubbly". I am?would be disgusted at the very thought of him being with someone else. it makes me sick to my stomach. im sure the issures arent fixed. Im hoping that i could see him and sort of resolve some issues with him and leave it at that. A vaca does sound great!
D-Lish Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 yes, D- Lish , unfortunately it is Not surprised he's back! You deserve better than him, he didn't treat you well. He is the one with the issues- and I doubt he's resolved them in a month.
xoThatGirlxo Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 So its been a month since ive seen my ex and 2 weeks since ive last spoke to him. As some may mave followed my story we were together for a little less than a year and he broke up with me because he stated that Im to Bubbly.. meaning I tend to do things and say things without thinking.. Well, in my defense it was just rhetorical questions that was pretty much like a conversation starter. anyways , I have been taking it extremely hard the past month. but with the help of my fello L'Sers everyone has helped me cope. I have hung out with friends a lot more, joined the gym, and done a lot of tasks that I have been meaning to do. So after 2 weeks he contacts me and said that he misses me.. and if I could see him today. I told him i wasnt sure.. He is really insistant on seeing me. I told him I may come by after work. Im curious to know why hes contacting me and for what reason. You probably already made up your mind about seeing him.........but if you still haven't don't bother going to see him. He probably just wants you because his bored and is thinking of you for time being.
ciu Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 He may be missing being with you than you. Maybe he is getting bored and hasn't been able to find someone to fullfill him like you did. I doubt this guy is being honest. It doesn't take you 1 month to figure out that you miss somebody, you will miss them right away after you break up with them and if he really cared he wouldn't have broke up with you in the first place. Don't meet with him, seems like you still care about him and it is going to be very tough for you. If he says he misses you and wants to meet, expect he is going to talk you through getting back together and as you are still vulnerable you might fall for that.
Kamille Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 I think your ex is shocked that you actually moved on with your life. If I remember correctly, the last time you two broke up, you were a mess. I worry that he wants to see you only to make sure you are still under his spell.
Fouts Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 It's normal. Things didn't work out for him like he planned, so he wants what he had back. Hopefully you won't play the back and forth game, but most do. Eventually you'll get dumped again.
monkeymaid Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 hes confused, youre confused, just sit on it. no sense in giving him the ego boost which is what he is looking for. he wants the pain to stop and is going to use you to stop it. withdrawals are a bee -o tch
Maria_la_Guera Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 Who breaks up with someone because they are "too bubbly"? Not only because being bubbly, as far as I've heard the word being used, is usually a GOOD thing but also how come he was with you for so long if you were too bubbly? Wouldn't he have known that you were that way from the start? I don't know him or haven't read your other posts but to me something doesn't sound quite right with this guy. Are you sure you want to see him again?
Author EYECANDY000 Posted March 8, 2010 Author Posted March 8, 2010 Well, I decided long and hard.. and I went to go see the ex. we had a really nice time. Each time he wanted to bring up the relationship, I quickly turned it around and we spoke about something else. We ended the night and texted each other most of the night about what we have been up to the past month .. yesterday he asked if I would like to have dinner with him. We went out for dinner.. and had a nice conversation. so far we havent spoke about the break up or the relationship.. just taking it day by day
Author EYECANDY000 Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 Spoke to the ex, and told him I still need time.. well I texted him..
Awesome Username Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Good luck. We're here for ya, Candy. If he says anything that would make us think that he was a prick, let him know he's out of line. <3
Rearden Metal Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Keep us posted. Hope it works out for you Candy
Author EYECANDY000 Posted March 11, 2010 Author Posted March 11, 2010 I guess I was wrong to think it would be different this time around. Well everyone who states that they miss their ex and wants to get back with them, let me be the first to say thats its a bad isea. It wILL NOT WORK OUT! yes, you miss that person, but the same problems resurface.. Well as many of you know, my ex contacted me a little less than a week ago and stated that he missed me and wants to see me. I agreed to see him and we had a really nice time. The last few days we have spent every day with each other, until I started asking him where did I stand with him? He stated that he wants to take things slow and see where things go. I asked him what are we seeing? he already knows how I am and vice versa. Well we had a very emotional conversation about "us".. Well as we continued to talk I asked questions about his "ex" girlfriend and if she is still in the picture. Well he stated that they are just friends.. Which I find hard to belive. and I cant comprehend how they are just friends when she has done a lot of underhanded s&it to him. but yet he still forgives? anyways I told him if he wasnts to continue to talk to me and see where things go then he needs to cut all ties with her. I said its either her or me.? He thought about it.. and it seemed like he couldnt make a decision and so I made one for him. and he hung up.. well I guess I get what I deserve.. i know I shouldnt have responded back but I was foolish enough to think that it would be different. The positive thing is this time it doesnt hurt. I feel like i made a mistake and I need to move on.. I realize that they are exes for a reason.
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