Twenty-ten Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 Your right. I know thats true, even when he tells me " its not like that" it is like that, he just doesnt want to admit it. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. Yes this is exactly it. I am going to give you a very extreme example but it applies none the less. When molesters abuse children they also tell them that what they are doing is, "ok" that it's not bad and that they only do this because they love them so much. The power of empty words in scenarios where the actions outweigh any possible meaning of the claims made verbally, are contradicting but are strong enough to play with the victim's mind in order to make them question their own instincts. You need to stop seeing this guy there is no other magic solution. Cut him out cold turkey and do not accept any more verbal hogwash that comes out of his mouth he is emotionally raping you and you need to stand up for yourself now! Be strong and do it!
spiral1 Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 And i told him tonight, that i am going to look for someone who can provide that. He just thinks he can do what he wants. Now allow your actions to match your words.
Author bigapplejen Posted March 7, 2010 Author Posted March 7, 2010 Yes this is exactly it. I am going to give you a very extreme example but it applies none the less. When molesters abuse children they also tell them that what they are doing is, "ok" that it's not bad and that they only do this because they love them so much. The power of empty words in scenarios where the actions outweigh any possible meaning of the claims made verbally, are contradicting but are strong enough to play with the victim's mind in order to make them question their own instincts. You need to stop seeing this guy there is no other magic solution. Cut him out cold turkey and do not accept any more verbal hogwash that comes out of his mouth he is emotionally raping you and you need to stand up for yourself now! Be strong and do it! I just have to stick to my guns. Every single time i try to cut him off he panics and then calls claiming he doesnt want me to be upset. And tonight, i knew exactly what he was going to do. So, i told him that this may work for some people, but that i am not that kind of girl and it just isnt going to work for me, and that i deserve someone who wants to see me on a regular basis.
Patrice Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 Again .... why would you settle for breadcrumbs? This is preventing you from possibly finding the man of your dreams .. he's out there. If this guy REALLY cared about YOU - he wouldn't be acting like an adolescent.
Twenty-ten Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 I just have to stick to my guns. Every single time i try to cut him off he panics and then calls claiming he doesnt want me to be upset. And tonight, i knew exactly what he was going to do. So, i told him that this may work for some people, but that i am not that kind of girl and it just isnt going to work for me, and that i deserve someone who wants to see me on a regular basis. Great! Now stick to our decision and replace "trying" with doing. He is going to try to reel you back in just don't fall for it.
D-Lish Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 You have the power and the tools to say no and follow through. Say no, mean it- then follow through. Don't allow him to make you feel guilty for standing up for yourself.
Author bigapplejen Posted March 7, 2010 Author Posted March 7, 2010 I have to stick to my guns this time. In the past he has made me second guess myself. Made me feel like i was over reacting. Thats how he hooked me each and every time, But not this time.
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