Inviting herself to a trip with me... Does she want to be more than friends?

[DaveBowman26hu]

Hi everyone,

 

Here's my 'story'. I'm 25 and last year I started my first job here in London. I met this girl at work and we became good friends; I always thought she was like the absolutely perfect girl, gorgeous, brilliant, nice, etc.

At the time I was in a committed relationship though, so I managed not to think of her 'that way' and we stayed friends for a year or so.

6 months ago I broke up with my girlfriend. Quickly I started to wonder whether this friend, let's call her Alice, would want something more, but I was afraid to be way too deep in the 'friend zone' already. I 'tested' her by casually proposing to go to movies, museums, and so on a few times, and she often would, but overall she didn't seem too eager to consider these as dates (eg asking if she can invite other friends for a concert we were supposed to go to alone).

After all this I just thought, ok it's not my time, or my chance is gone, or I'm not her type, either way. I guess I should have been more pro-active and talk to her about it, but I'm really scared to ruin a very good friendship, all the more as we see each other all the time at work.

 

Here's the actual story: recently Alice practically invited herself on a vacation with me (!). All I did was mention that I was planning a vacation to Paris, visiting an old school buddy, but basically sightseeing the city alone. Without any encouragement at all on my side, she said she had been looking for a place to go herself so maybe she could go to Paris too...

So here we are, spending 3 days together in Paris, and staying at the same hotel (separate rooms).

 

She's really not the kind of girl who is 'easy to read', she would never say she feels something for me if it was so, but she would not say either 'let's be clear, we're going as friends', so....I'm totally lost.

To me going on a trip together is a big step, even for couples, but nothing else in her behaviour seems to suggest deep feelings... On the other hand even if we're friends, I don't think we're close enough for her to casually plan a trip together like this, it doesn't make sense...

Maybe this is really simple, but I'm totally confused about all this. Hopefully your experience can help me, guys...

 

Thank you in advance!

Dave

[Satisfaction]

Go with an open mind. That she wants to go on holiday with a friend.

If she jumps you, then you know for sure. I would pack some condoms, just in case though, and maybe do some press ups everyday.