a big shock, she wanted to break up, ok!! but why in a very brutal way?

[gasta]

Hello Everyone,

My girl friend and I met in 2006 while were in internships in Spain, we were in love and then we loved each other, she visited me many times in my country, I visited her many times too, we met in diferent places of the world, we were physically together for more than a year in the 3 years of relationship, we were truly loving each other and both of our families approved this relationship.

then we started thinking with our brains a bit and thought this relationship is maybe not right, we discussed this many times, in the end we decided to go further, I took a firm decision to marry her ( I am 27, she's 23 now).

in Summer 2009 when we met she said many things like:

I don't want to take long terms decisions I am young, what about my family, may be I wanna be close to them in the long term.

We broke up for one Night in November 2009, the next day she called me saying that she cannot stop it, the love is too big.

In September she went to BL for an internship, and some of u for sure know how devilish is this situation when ur meeting young people, having fun, + it's south America with its atmosphere...even so she kept an everyday contact with me untill the 26 of January 2010 when she told me:

I want to travel for some years, I wanna live abraod in south America for some time,I found a man (me) that I can be with my whole life that's ****ing scary, I am so confused, I want a break...

I called her 3 weeks later, she was still confused

After a week I needed a decision, I called her and she was not sensitive to my call, she didn't want to speak, she was basically escaping me (knowing that I can be tough with her if she messed it up)

I sent her emails asking for whether or not she wanna continue and she didn't reply...

I thought what a shame, after aaalll this !!! I know it's finished but how come she behaved so selfish and didn't confront me with the truth no matter what it is, our relationship was always based on very good communication and mutual trust...

it's very disappointing, I don't recognise her.

What do you guys expect? what would happen when she will be back home faraway from any influence from people at least 5 years older.

I am so confused guys, ur advices are more than welcome.

Than k you all

Edited March 6, 2010 by gasta

[ADF]

Sorry, but this woman sounds like she is all about making things as easy as possible in herself and could care less about your feelings. "Confused," nothing. She didn't want to continue the realtionship for whatever reason, but didn't have the courage or common decency to tell you that. Never tolerate being stonewalled. Anyone who cuts off contact without any explanation is just trash. You've wasted enough energy on her. Move on.

[gasta]

I really want some help finding out why did she use this manner to break up, she 's just vanished, no warning, no nothing...is it confrontation fear, her being selfish??? what is this?

[hoping2heal]

She realised she didn't want a relationship with you and it sounds like she just vanished to avoid the confrontation. Has she had any serious relationships prior to you?

[gasta]

yes, she was in a serious relationship before me for 5 years, when she was still teenager.