BobSacamento Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 Real women will never intitiate contact during the dating stage. I have seen a lot of men on here ***** about women who don't txt, IM or call first. It's your freaking job, so just strap on a pair and do it. And guess what, those women who DO intiate contact are usually freaks.
OpenBook Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 Amen, Bob in Sacramento!! I have tried it the other way after being chided for being old-fashioned about this... and guess what - the guy treated me like a freak. Go figure. So if a guy wants to get MY attention, he'll have to do the initiating. And 99.99999% of all guys I have ever encountered in my entire lifetime are very comfortable with that. (It just comes naturally to them... pun intended.) The other .00001% are guys I wouldn't want anyway. I'm convinced it's a biological thing, the reason why it works so well (letting the guy initiate). All that testosterone. Men (as a group) are hard-driving. Again, pun intended.
Art_Critic Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 Bob.. most of the guys on here that you speak of just don't want to do any of the work in the dating process and want to just sit back and treat a woman like crap and see if they will come to them.. then they wonder why they don't have a date on Friday and Saturday night.. and next they blame the women for their loneliness...
georgia girl Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 Amen, Bob. I'm now engaged to the man who decided to chase and loving every second of it. But on behalf of all of the single girls out there, here's a message to men: put your big boy pants on deal with it. Women are not wired (or socialized) to do the chasing. It just feels unnatural and uncomfortable. Instead, we'll just assume you're just not that into us and move along.
carhill Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 On the flipside, if I sense anything but enthusiastic response, next Life is short and I'm too old to drill dead holes for sport. I communicate that, clearly.
St. Nick Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 Real women will never intitiate contact during the dating stage. I have seen a lot of men on here ***** about women who don't txt, IM or call first. It's your freaking job, so just strap on a pair and do it. And guess what, those women who DO intiate contact are usually freaks. I disagree. Many women I've met who do initiate contact are not freaks. They're just rare, and many guys are thrown off by such boldness from women (that's probably why you think they're freaks, Bob). I think there are many guys who are pissed off when you do initiate contact and there's no response. It gets old after a while.
paleblue Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 im on the flipside of this too - minus the old part
soulm8 Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 I absolutely agree! Men lead. Women respond, reciprocate and encourage... if/when interested.
PJKino Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 (edited) Must be nice to just sit back and do nothing and wait for the guy to do all the work then figure out if you like him or not Menawhile Men have to wonder if i come on and show interest she may think im desperate annoying creep if i dont come on strong enough in her mind she wont think i like her.. Luckily i mso bad iwht women i cant evne get to to that point to dela with you crazy girls Edited March 6, 2010 by PJKino
threebyfate Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 Bob.. most of the guys on here that you speak of just don't want to do any of the work in the dating process and want to just sit back and treat a woman like crap and see if they will come to them.. then they wonder why they don't have a date on Friday and Saturday night.. and next they blame the women for their loneliness...Yup, I agree with this, although the OP is being a little extreme about the "freak" part. Hopefully he intended it to mean "unusual", rather than anything more negative.
PJKino Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 Bob.. most of the guys on here that you speak of just don't want to do any of the work in the dating process and want to just sit back and treat a woman like crap and see if they will come to them.. then they wonder why they don't have a date on Friday and Saturday night.. and next they blame the women for their loneliness... But its ok for women to do no work in the dating process?
Barky Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 ...women will never... Any post that says "All men..." or "Women always" or makes any gross generalization is false. I've had lots of women initiate contact with me and be the first ones to call, etc. And they've, on the whole, been very cool chicks. I've had friends who were more attractive than I been in situations where women were all over them. So perhaps for most of the losers here, women never contact them, but that's not universal. The more attractive you are as a man, the more women will "initiate" stuff with you.
norajane Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 (edited) Work? Dating isn't work. If it feels like work and it's not fun, then you're pursuing the wrong woman. If she's not responsive, she's NOT INTERESTED, so drop her and go find someone else. If she likes you, she'll reciprocate soon enough. You won't have to guess. It's only the women who are not interested who make it seem like work. Edited March 6, 2010 by norajane
sweetjasmine Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 In my current relationship, I basically asked him out on our first date (I hardly even remember, but he says it was originally my idea, and I definitely did pick the restaurant we went to since I know the city a lot better than he does), and we both showed interest in each other. Is that weird or something?
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