Is This A Bad Strategy?

[5105571]

I've noticed over the years that there are some girls that are a pain to keep in touch with. Honestly, touching base with them usually just amounts to a waste of time. For example, I'll call one day and no answer and no reply, but then I'll call or text a few days later and she will respond, but then it's back to ignoring me the time after that. All contact is spotty at best. This seems to set the tone for all future interactions with these women, and the whole thing just goes nowhere.

 

It's gotten to the point that I'm adopting the mindset of "one phone call and that's all you get." If you don't answer/respond to my call or reply to my text, I'm not gonna bother wasting any more time on you.

 

It seems to me that if they were interested, they would pick up the phone a day or two later at the latest, and they just don't care. Is this a bad mindset to have? To me, it's logical but that all goes out the window when it comes to women.

 

Ladies, do you ever do this for any reason other than when you're NOT that interested?

[5105571]

oh, I forgot to add this important piece too:

 

This interaction normally takes place after a date that ends with making-out or her saying "we should definitely hang out again" or "don't be a stranger" without my prodding her. So the interest seems to be there before I even try to start contacting her for a follow-up.

[utterer of lies]

She just shows you that you're her second or third choice. If there's no better option at the moment, you can fill in, but as soon as someone actually interesting comes along, you're back to being ignored.

 

Now the question is, why would you accept such treatment?

[5105571]

She just shows you that you're her second or third choice. If there's no better option at the moment, you can fill in, but as soon as someone actually interesting comes along, you're back to being ignored.

 

Now the question is, why would you accept such treatment?

The answer is I'm not. That's why I'm adopting the one chance to respond policy. I just wanted to make sure this is a good idea.

[marsle85]

I'd go two shots. Because really, life gets in the way sometimes of interactions. And while I undestand this doesn't happen very often, you don't want to lose out on someone who might be truly great- just because of a lost connection.

 

2 shots don't hurt. Thicken up your skin. Goodluck! =)

[ADF]

I suspect the women who have done this to you probably weren't interested but lacked the courage to just say so. Never underestimate people's determination to make things as easy as possible on themselves. Your one phone call idea sounds reasonable, frankly.

[5105571]

She just shows you that you're her second or third choice. If there's no better option at the moment, you can fill in, but as soon as someone actually interesting comes along, you're back to being ignored.

 

Now the question is, why would you accept such treatment?

 

I'd go two shots. Because really, life gets in the way sometimes of interactions. And while I undestand this doesn't happen very often, you don't want to lose out on someone who might be truly great- just because of a lost connection.

 

2 shots don't hurt. Thicken up your skin. Goodluck! =)

 

Thanks, but this is where I run into trouble again...because it will be off and on, and goes nowhere anyways. Sure she answers the second one, and maybe the third, but not the fourth and fifth, and it's like I'm spinning my wheels.

[paleblue]

agreed, a couple shots doesnt hurt. but if its still the same after that than you can keep them on the back burner and go out looking for someone else.