amilyah Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 MY husband of 20 years left me 4 months ago.We had nc up untill 6 weeks ago(he called me).Well since then i dont know if hes playing games or not.He will call me every other day and come by a few times a week(for sex).He treats me so good when we are together ,better than hes ever treated me before.But when were apart he lies so much,tells me he will be over but dont show or call.I told him i wanted at least a call if he dont come over but he dont call me.I have give him every chance and even told him last night i need more from him.Well he said i will be there right after work but guess what no call or anything.I am so tired of crying again but i will not sleep with him again.I want him home but he says hes not ready(4 months and not ready wtf).I told him i am done i want this over with and every time he just does something to get to me. he will take me out and spend lots of money on me,then spent the night and hold me so tight and tell me how much he loves and misses me.I know he loves and wants me but i need him home.I am so tired of this .Help me please do i have to go back to nc or do i give him more time??????
Author amilyah Posted March 6, 2010 Author Posted March 6, 2010 anyone, really i need help he will call tomorrow i took all your dvice on here and it made me so much better.But i need more advice!!!!!!!!!!!
JaneDoe35 Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 I feel that he is treating you very badly. Having sex with him will cause confusion and create even more complications. He is getting all the benefits with none of the responsibilities. What outcome do you want? What do you think he wants? If he calls maybe just tell him that you would like to move forward in your life and that this continued contact with him is preventing you from doing that effectively.
BserBuff Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 Yes i agree. Set some boundries (its not hard to call someone,) and absolutely do not have sex with him. U need to let him know that marriage is for life and this is not acceptable. I would not have any physical contact until I was sure he was going to recommit himself to the relationship. Once uv achieved this I would make sure there is not another women and this obtainable by previously setting some rules.
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