StoptheDrama Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 After all has been said and done for several months now with limited work related contact only, xMM has the audacity to try to come over to "chat" this week... what signal I could have possibly sent to invite this is beyond my comprehension. I have not spoken with him in several weeks and have had minimal contact with him-no personal exchanges, no texting, work related email communication only...and only when absolutely necessary. Does he think I have forgotten all of his lies/games/drama/general crap both personal and professional that prompted me to end the A for good? Or does he think I am that stupid to fall for it all over again? It's been 9 months (9 MONTHS!!!!!!!) since I ended it (with one small slip-up two months after) for the last and final time. I actually laughed when I got the message. Thought of a variety of witty retorts but decided to not respond. I felt it was best to not even acknowledge it - I'm not going to give him the opportunity to draw me into an argument. I have no place in my life for his stupidity. He's like a child - negative attention is better than no attentiion at all. I've had more than enough of his nonsense; why on Earth would I sign up for more? He's not the man I cared for - that man never existed. I came to terms with that, mourned the loss and have moved on. There is still a small part of me that wishes he was that person but I know it's not reality. And that might be some lingering bruising to my pride for having been fooled for so long. Anyway, it's been a whle since I posted and I just needed to vent. I guess the moral of the story is that you are never truly free from you ex man-child when you still live within driving distance...ugh..
skywriter Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 Hey StopTheDrama, You may not be truly free from him but from your post, you are getting over him and getting stronger and wiser for it. I hope you'll be sticking around because I'm behind you and could probably use some steering to keep me on the proper path to A recovery. Sounds to me like you've got your mind made up and there's no changing it. That's cool....
whichwayisup Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 Keep ignoring him. Don't ever reply to anything he sends you that's personal. He's an idiot and obviously was fishing to see if you'd react. I'm sure he would have NO problem going back into the A. Be proud of yourself!
2sunny Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 this is good progress! next time - can you take it a step further? tell him to leave! just by doing nothing, he may be getting the idea that he's allowed to come sniffing around - until you blatantly tell him "no more." he will always try - he figures he might as well check in and se if you might be weak enough or willing enough to start with the lies again.
White Flower Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 You sound very strong in your resolve. Good luck with everything.
Author StoptheDrama Posted March 8, 2010 Author Posted March 8, 2010 Thanks for all the well wishes and insight! I was really wracking my brain trying to see how I could have invited this. WWIU - I am proud of myself, thanks! It's taken a long time to get where I am emotionally (still have work to do)and I do not want to go through that again. It's still amazing to me that he is either that obtuse or egotistical or narcissistic or whatever to try again...part me would love to know what compelled him but that Pandora's box does not need to be opened... I'll just chalk it up to him being an ass
fooled once Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 Thanks for all the well wishes and insight! I was really wracking my brain trying to see how I could have invited this. WWIU - I am proud of myself, thanks! It's taken a long time to get where I am emotionally (still have work to do)and I do not want to go through that again. It's still amazing to me that he is either that obtuse or egotistical or narcissistic or whatever to try again...part me would love to know what compelled him but that Pandora's box does not need to be opened... I'll just chalk it up to him being an ass That's probably the best approach!! You are doing great!!
Getting_stronger Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 I hope I am where you are one day. I just want to look back on all this as a distant learning opportunity. Right now I am stuck between anger, indignation and mourning the loss of someone who never existed.
pureinheart Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 Hey StoptheDrama, A guy friend once told me that guys will always try...they could care less about getting turned down because no is not "no" to them...it actually means "maybe" to them....
pureinheart Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 I hope I am where you are one day. I just want to look back on all this as a distant learning opportunity. Right now I am stuck between anger, indignation and mourning the loss of someone who never existed. Amazing isn't it...it's like the entire situation was not real....but the pain is.
Getting_stronger Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 Amazing isn't it...it's like the entire situation was not real....but the pain is. Thanks pure- I'll get there xx
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