Whitefox123 Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 Hey everyone, I am kind of confused about something and I don't know if I am over-reacting or if I should be worried. I've been thinking a lot about this and it's starting to drive me nuts! My ex and I have decided to try to reconcile our relationship...this isn't the first time we've tried, but usually we end up missing each other and getting right back together without a second thought. This time we've decided to take it slow and see where this road takes us. It's only been a week but so far so good. For the most part I let him persue me and he's doing a good job...and he still tells me he loves me...before I even get the chance to say it. We have spent a little bit of time together and it didn't feel weird or forced, it was natural...and a really good time. He brings up things he wants to do with me this summer and talks about the good times we had before anything bad ever happened. Needless to say, I have a much better feeling about things aside from one thing..... he is still active on online dating websites. I've confronted him about it and he told me that he would delete them for me. I told him he didn't have to do it because I asked him to...(implying that i wanted to want him to!) I realize we aren't back together yet, and things can still go wrong...but why is he still going on the websites if he wants to work it out with me? He told me about dates hes been on and how he knew he wanted to be back together with me because the girls he dated had nothing on me...and he didn't feel a bond like he did with me. So that's what I don't get! I even said that I hope he's not trying to hold onto me until he finds someone "better" but he said of course that wasn't the case. We haven't fought about this, which I'm surprised...we've been through A LOT..but I don't know if I should be upset about this or not. I still have doubts about where we are going (and he said he does too) because we've been known to talk and get close and then just stop talking for awhile. So this really doesn't help.... The thing is, this is the first time that we've tried getting back together that he has really made the effort to talk to me even if its just for a few minutes...and this is the first time that we haven't jumped right back into it. I don't want to keep confronting him about it then ruin what we have or what I at least think we have, nor do I want him to delete it because I'm upset. Am i over-reacting...like I said it's only been 1 week?!?!
Fouts Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 Back and forth relationships hardly ever work out hun. If you two were right for each other, it wouldn't be that way. I'm guessing one or both of you are just too insecure to be single and let the other one go, but he's taking babysteps with the dating website, hoping to meet someone new while he still has you around for companionship.
Author Whitefox123 Posted March 8, 2010 Author Posted March 8, 2010 sadly, I was thinking the exact same thing.... thanks for responding
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