USMCHokie Posted March 5, 2010 Posted March 5, 2010 ...who give me their number... If I call or text them, they are generally very vague and wishy-washy with their responses...it quickly becomes so blatantly obvious that they have absolutely no interest and are just trying to respond with something out of sheer courtesy...of course they don't want to do anything with me, but they are far too considerate to just come out and say that...so they'll tiptoe around until I go away on my own...all the while hoping that I'll eventually stop talking to them... I usually err on the safe side and go away pretty quickly, as I've become very good at identifying this and leaving these women alone...but I'm just wondering...women (or even the men), do you do this little tiptoe dance to avoid looking like an ass or do you just tell the guy to leave you alone? And guys, how quick do you bail out if you get this from a girl...? Or do you instinctually try harder...? I just feel bad that women have to go through this whenever they talk to me. It must be a pain in the ass. So to all the women who have ever given me your number, and to all those who may some day, I'm sorry...
TouchedByViolet Posted March 5, 2010 Posted March 5, 2010 damn USMCHokie why so much bad luck? I hear DC is great for partying and meeting people. When it comes to new acquaintances, the "tip toe" dance works good enough, within a few messages you can tell whether or not the other person is interested.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 5, 2010 Posted March 5, 2010 AWW, but you never gave me yours. So, can I have your number? Just get it off your chest. Most people don't take texting seriously, so they can easily brush it. It's like social networking, sure it's addicting, but you'll eventually have to sign off it.
carhill Posted March 5, 2010 Posted March 5, 2010 I have this rule about avoiding people who don't genuinely enjoy my company. This rule exists because I like to spend my valuable time with people who do genuinely enjoy my company. Gender is irrelevant. Anything less than discernible genuine interest is met with the black hole. It was like I was never there. Everyone is happy
Author USMCHokie Posted March 5, 2010 Author Posted March 5, 2010 AWW, but you never gave me yours. So, can I have your number? Heh, sure. But don't say I didn't warn you... Just get it off your chest. Most people don't take texting seriously, so they can easily brush it. It's like social networking, sure it's addicting, but you'll eventually have to sign off it. And it's not that I'm even angry or upset that women aren't interested in me. Frankly, that's the last thing I would care about. I just hate to have to go through this every time. I sometimes wish they would just not give me their number...seriously...then everyone would be happy!
bac Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 Do you really expect a girl to get interested in you instantly when they do not know anything about you except that you are a male who wants to hook up? If you want a girl to get interested in you, you should provide her with some evidence that you are an interesting guy. Do you say or do smth interesting? I guess if you say only superficial small talk and you just do what everyone does and you are not personable, it is boring. I understand that from a male's point of view, it is natural to get interested in a person of the opposite sex if he just knows that she is kind of attractive female, she has p..sy and b...bs and also she does not mind to get laid. Unfortunately, the same information does not mean anything to girls. So, if a girl just knows that a guy is kind of attractive, has a d..k and wants to get laid, it is not so interesting to her. It is rather boring because too many young guys have all these qualities.
betamanlet Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 ...who give me their number... If I call or text them, they are generally very vague and wishy-washy with their responses...it quickly becomes so blatantly obvious that they have absolutely no interest and are just trying to respond with something out of sheer courtesy...of course they don't want to do anything with me, but they are far too considerate to just come out and say that...so they'll tiptoe around until I go away on my own...all the while hoping that I'll eventually stop talking to them... I usually err on the safe side and go away pretty quickly, as I've become very good at identifying this and leaving these women alone...but I'm just wondering...women (or even the men), do you do this little tiptoe dance to avoid looking like an ass or do you just tell the guy to leave you alone? And guys, how quick do you bail out if you get this from a girl...? Or do you instinctually try harder...? I just feel bad that women have to go through this whenever they talk to me. It must be a pain in the ass. So to all the women who have ever given me your number, and to all those who may some day, I'm sorry... I cannot even remember the last time I was in a :"number" situation. was probably 1.5 years ago and she was leaving the country..
betamanlet Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 Heh, sure. But don't say I didn't warn you... And it's not that I'm even angry or upset that women aren't interested in me. Frankly, that's the last thing I would care about. I just hate to have to go through this every time. I sometimes wish they would just not give me their number...seriously...then everyone would be happy! after 2+ years you get into such a comfort zone, i actually don't even want to go on dates. I love my drama free existence right now.. Work is tough enough.
EYECANDY000 Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 I hate girls like that. My friend is a prime example. This guy was interested in her and she wasnt at all interested at all. but she still gave him, her number anyway. and every times he text her she sighs like uhh what does he want? and Im like why did you give him your number for?
Pizzaman81 Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 I think this is just a bad luck streak for all of us these days. Me too! I wonder what is happening!
You'reasian Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 You may get a phone number, but that doesn't mean anything. The woman may or may not flake out on you - such is dating. Women have the right to change their mind, we move on. We're men and in the hunt, we get rejected sometimes.
Johnny M Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 ...who give me their number... If I call or text them, they are generally very vague and wishy-washy with their responses...it quickly becomes so blatantly obvious that they have absolutely no interest and are just trying to respond with something out of sheer courtesy...of course they don't want to do anything with me, but they are far too considerate to just come out and say that...so they'll tiptoe around until I go away on my own...all the while hoping that I'll eventually stop talking to them... First of all, who are these women who's numbers you are getting? If they are just random girls you ask for numbers at random places, your probability of getting a date out of it is very low. I don't know why guys think that getting a girl's number is some kind of an accomplishment. Getting a number is actually pretty easy. But just because you got a number doesn't mean that the girl wants to go on a date with you. Only ask a girl for a phone number if you had a chance to get to know her a little (i.e. you met at a party and chatted for half an hour) and you see clear signs of interest on her part. Otherwise, you are wasting your time (unless, of course, you are also trying to compile a phonebook).
paleblue Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 i just bail. screw it. i know i have a lot to offer. & dont need to prove that.
bac Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 When she gives you her #, it does not mean that you are entitiled on all possible benefits. It means that she gives you a chance to prove that you are the right guy for those benefits. You expected to prove that you can do good job as a FWB, or as a BF, or as ONS (whoever she looks for). If she loses her interest in you, it just means that during those conversations you say the wrong things which prove that you can not do the right job for her.
sagetalk Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 i just bail. screw it. i know i have a lot to offer. & dont need to prove that. Same here .
BobSacamento Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 I hate girls like that. My friend is a prime example. This guy was interested in her and she wasnt at all interested at all. but she still gave him, her number anyway. and every times he text her she sighs like uhh what does he want? and Im like why did you give him your number for? Isn't it painfully obvious? Attention. That's why she sighs. She could just ignore it but she wants everyone else to know she's ignoring it.
skydiveaddict Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 First of all, who are these women who's numbers you are getting? If they are just random girls you ask for numbers at random places, your probability of getting a date out of it is very low. I don't know why guys think that getting a girl's number is some kind of an accomplishment. Getting a number is actually pretty easy. But just because you got a number doesn't mean that the girl wants to go on a date with you. Only ask a girl for a phone number if you had a chance to get to know her a little (i.e. you met at a party and chatted for half an hour) and you see clear signs of interest on her part. Otherwise, you are wasting your time (unless, of course, you are also trying to compile a phonebook). Really Johnny? You're trying to tell a Marine how to behave around women? Come back when you've enlisted
tami-chan Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 AWW, but you never gave me yours. So, can I have your number? That's what I thought...sheesh...now I have a case of insecurity-what is wrong with me, hokie? why have you not given your number to me? is it because I am older? whatever....:(!!!! Just get it off your chest. Most people don't take texting seriously, so they can easily brush it. It's like social networking, sure it's addicting, but you'll eventually have to sign off it. Note to self: Delete the texts you have been saving all these time..nobody takes them seriously..... I learn something everyday...!
bac Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 i just bail. screw it. i know i have a lot to offer. & dont need to prove that. that is great that you have a lot to offer. What it is? Are you sure that it is the right stuff? As for me, I am a girl and I want a guy to offer me the stuff that I love. Most guys have no idea what it is that a girl craves for. So, they start to work hard to offer me the stuff which I hate. For some reason, guys truly believe that the stuff, that I hate, I must love. So, I give guys the chance with me, and as result of it, they give me no pleasure and give me a lot of unpleasant experiences. Because I sometimes have sex with men, it feels really bad to deal with guys. It really feels like vomiting and it is not a metaphor.
Full Moon Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 (edited) Yeah, I do the tiptoe dance more than I would like to. Why? In my mind, to avoid looking like an ass. If I'm approached by a guy I'm initially not that attracted to, if at all, and if I give that same guy my number or decide to take his # and call him instead, I'm saying to myself, "I'll give this one a chance." A chance to see if we have chemistry; if he's a fun and interesting guy to be around; if he can grow on me. Not to miss my diamond in the rough, so to speak. The two long-term relationships I've had were with average looking guys I wasn't initially attracted to that much. However, what eventually won me over were their fun and confident personalities. A great personality and good conversation added to their looks. Before I knew it, they became the sexiest, most handsome men to me and they had me hook. Unfortunately, some guys simply don't measure up in some way and then they just become annoying. As you described, I become vague, wishy-washy, and very sassy in my attempts to show I'm not interested. I hope to myself they'll take the hint and get lost without me actually having to say it, but alot of guys just don't *want* to get it and try harder. OTOH, if I am very interested in or attracted to a guy, there is absolutely no tiptoeing around. Lol. So if I'm acting wishy-washy then I'm just not that into the guy, when it's all said and done. Edited March 6, 2010 by Full Moon
Author USMCHokie Posted March 6, 2010 Author Posted March 6, 2010 That's what I thought...sheesh...now I have a case of insecurity-what is wrong with me, hokie? why have you not given your number to me? is it because I am older? whatever....:(!!!! Uh...I would totally give you my number...
Author USMCHokie Posted March 6, 2010 Author Posted March 6, 2010 OTOH, if I am very interested in or attracted to a guy, there is absolutely no tiptoeing around. Lol. So if I'm acting wishy-washy then I'm just not that into the guy, when it's all said and done. Exactly. What up.
Author USMCHokie Posted March 6, 2010 Author Posted March 6, 2010 Really Johnny? You're trying to tell a Marine how to behave around women? Come back when you've enlisted Thank you.
Author USMCHokie Posted March 6, 2010 Author Posted March 6, 2010 First of all, who are these women who's numbers you are getting? If they are just random girls you ask for numbers at random places, your probability of getting a date out of it is very low. I don't know why guys think that getting a girl's number is some kind of an accomplishment. Getting a number is actually pretty easy. But just because you got a number doesn't mean that the girl wants to go on a date with you. Only ask a girl for a phone number if you had a chance to get to know her a little (i.e. you met at a party and chatted for half an hour) and you see clear signs of interest on her part. Otherwise, you are wasting your time (unless, of course, you are also trying to compile a phonebook). These aren't really random girls that I only talk to for 5 minutes and try to ask for a number. Usually they are girls that I meet through friends or that I talk to for a while...I don't ask for a number unless I have at least built a repoire with the girl...
start-fresh Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 Really Johnny? You're trying to tell a Marine how to behave around women? Come back when you've enlisted What's that supposed to mean? Is this a Marines only board now and I didn't get the message?
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