SoVicious Posted March 5, 2010 Posted March 5, 2010 So I knew that something was going on between my friend and my ex. But my ex lives here in California and, my EX friend lives in Texas. We used to be on the same gaming team, which is how we met, and we played together for about 2 years. I didnt want to leave my ex out of my life when I went to play with the guys so we would all chat together on skype. I guess thats where it started. Its only been 2.5 months since my ex and I broke up, and I just found out that she will be going to Texas this spring break to be with him. I am angry at him. This was my first love, the first person I made love with, my first kiss, my first everything pretty much. Has he no morals? This wouldnt be so hard if this wasnt my first love. How can I deal with this?
sean1970 Posted March 5, 2010 Posted March 5, 2010 I know it sucks... bad... but the same help applies whether you knew the guy or not... You have to back away from it all and cut ties with both. If you keep looking, it will keep hurting.
DenverBachelor Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 How can I deal with this? That dude broke a cardinal rule held between bro's. Ditch them both.
paleblue Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 what a backstabbing low life scumbag. best thing you can do now is just erase them both from your life and move on to happier pastures. there is not much else you can do. you might get lucky and they could both get struck with lightning but dont count on it. sorry you are going thru this. its bad enough dealing with just the pain of a break, without adding the betrayal of a friend on top of it.
ADF Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 I would bet almost any amount of money that your ex and your friend were involved--or headed there--while you and your ex were still together. Almost any amount of money. It sounds to me like they are rather deceitful people. I would give them both a wide berth, at least for a while.
twinklecat Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 Block both of them out completely. This will not only be good for you in that you will no longer have two decietful people in your life, but you can also focus on yourself and healing. It really does suck. Having being dumped by my ex for my ex best friend (had been going on a long time while we were together) There really is nothing worse, by far the worst breakup i've been through because of the betrayal of him and my ex friend on top of that. But, I'm thankful they are both no longer in my life, and you will be too. Take care, it does get better x
Author SoVicious Posted March 8, 2010 Author Posted March 8, 2010 Thanks for all the supporting messages everyone! I will be taking all the advice and blocking them both out of my life, for good. Talk about having a great weekend? Oh did I! My friend and I decided late FRIDAY night that we were going to Vegas the next morning. The next morning we were headed out at 6am and we in Vegas by noon. Went to hooters and all up and down the strip, and had a blast. Paleblue: Oh how that would make my day to hear lightning stuck both of them. But who knows maybe I am a lucky guy? Twinklecat: Thank you so much for your message! It was good to hear that someone went through what I am going through and is doing well without them around.
twinklecat Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 No problem, if ya ever want to talk, give me a shout, it really helped me having people to relate to Glad you had such a good weekend! I just got back from visiting family and friends and had an awesome time, didn't wanna leave!
DustySaltus Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 I had this situation happen to me a few years back with a friend of 15 years. It cost him two of his teeth....literally. But more than anything it hurt. I wasn't even that crazy about the girl, but he just kept saying bad things about me behind my back while smiling in my face. I'm sorry. I truly am. Hang in there. Karma shall prevail.
Author SoVicious Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 I think i will take you up on that offer twinklecat However i still do not have the ability to PM on these boards =[ So if you wanna shoot emails to each other, or maybe you have a facebook? Just let me know what works for you. Thanks for taking the time to post Dusty. Wish I could beat the hell out of this guy Also just thought I would let you all know, that I went and visited a therapist today. Turns out that this episode has mesed me up enough that I am clinically depressed. Guess I wasnt surprised to find it out. I am looking forward to the treatment and getting better.
twinklecat Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 Hey SoVicious, really sorry I haven't been back in touch, had a bit of a break from LS. How have you been? If you want to drop me an email, you can do through [email protected]. Hope you're okay
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