Brady_to_Moss Posted March 5, 2010 Share Posted March 5, 2010 Ugh! Well i made a profile about a month ago on there. So far i have sent out about 50 emails to women and i have had 3 girls respond. Well below the 10% i was expecting. My profile is pretty detailed compared to others. I mean i know i am not a 10 on the looks scale but jeez Of the 3 girls that responded 1 just stopped email me after a few days randomly and the other girl we talked on AIM but i always had to initiate the conversation so i wanted to see if she would and nope. I have contacted girls that are probably 6-8 on the 10 scale IMO. I know guys can usually get a girl that is a little bit more attractive than what a girl can get just based on our society but dam..i am not getting anything. I keep the e-mails short and sweet usually mentioning something in their profile that i liked like their major or where they have traveled and asked a question or two. Is there anyone out there that wants to give me tips for what worked for them because right now i have nothing. If there are any women out there that would like to look at my profile and give me tips i would greatly appreciate it. Just email if you want to look it over. Other than that..any other tips? Link to post Share on other sites
Johnny M Posted March 5, 2010 Share Posted March 5, 2010 Ugh! Well i made a profile about a month ago on there. So far i have sent out about 50 emails to women and i have had 3 girls respond. Well below the 10% i was expecting. My profile is pretty detailed compared to others. I mean i know i am not a 10 on the looks scale but jeez Of the 3 girls that responded 1 just stopped email me after a few days randomly and the other girl we talked on AIM but i always had to initiate the conversation so i wanted to see if she would and nope. I have contacted girls that are probably 6-8 on the 10 scale IMO. I know guys can usually get a girl that is a little bit more attractive than what a girl can get just based on our society but dam..i am not getting anything. I keep the e-mails short and sweet usually mentioning something in their profile that i liked like their major or where they have traveled and asked a question or two. Is there anyone out there that wants to give me tips for what worked for them because right now i have nothing. If there are any women out there that would like to look at my profile and give me tips i would greatly appreciate it. Just email if you want to look it over. Other than that..any other tips? Heck, at least you found 50 girls worth writing too. I signed up for OKCupid a couple of days ago, and I don't think there are 5 girls in my area that I would even remotely be interested in dating. Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted March 5, 2010 Share Posted March 5, 2010 Nothing works unless youre good looking. Online is where women get to be pursued by everyone they dont want while they shop above their leagues. meanwhile they dont get who they want much of the time. So if youre not anywhere near a 10, and you seem too eager in your emails to them, then you have no chance to get who you really want. Its an uneven playing ground where the picture is the first filter for the women who have choices. Not only that but alot of women fresh out of a dumping go online, not really to find someone new, but to get an ego boost that last about a week before it gets tired. They do that because in the bars and clubs, or wherever there are better looking women they dont have a chance. Especially since women dont approach guys. The guys on dating sites are usually guys who dont know what to say to women in person, and are socially awkward. Thats what the women say anyway. So online is a waste of time. Your best bet is to find women in person and chat them up. If you have good conversation and are interesting, it helps them look past your looks. You dont get that luxury online. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted March 5, 2010 Author Share Posted March 5, 2010 Heck, at least you found 50 girls worth writing too. I signed up for OKCupid a couple of days ago, and I don't think there are 5 girls in my area that I would even remotely be interested in dating. OKcupid i found maybe 10 in my area. Thats why i went to the paid ones and while i admit there are much more attractive girls on match.com...i just cant seem to believe they are really interested in actually meeting someone. Most probally are...but maybe out of those 50 i emailed..only 30 are actually dedicated to it you know. Link to post Share on other sites
Johnny M Posted March 5, 2010 Share Posted March 5, 2010 OKcupid i found maybe 10 in my area. Thats why i went to the paid ones and while i admit there are much more attractive girls on match.com...i just cant seem to believe they are really interested in actually meeting someone. Most probally are...but maybe out of those 50 i emailed..only 30 are actually dedicated to it you know. I wouldn't be surprised if many of the attractive ones were actually fake profiles created by the administrators of match.com. I remember reading an article about this sort of marketing trickery (though I can't say if it was match.com or some other site). Perhaps this has something to do with your lack of success, although many things mentioned by boogie boy also ring true. Link to post Share on other sites
TO_Girl Posted March 5, 2010 Share Posted March 5, 2010 Ok Im not a guy, but i just needed to comment on this site as well. I have a trial profile for about 1 month now and I barely receive emails. I know what you are thinking... maybe im not good looking. But ( as humble as I am ) I can tell you that I receive compliments all the time so I know that is not the problem. Plus I have been on other sites too and it I had more success. I actually thought the opposite, that match.com creates fake profiles of guys to make the site look more populated and to message trial profiles and get you interested in joining the site. It hasnt worked for me. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 5, 2010 Share Posted March 5, 2010 match is a sham and a fraud Link to post Share on other sites
pdq Posted March 5, 2010 Share Posted March 5, 2010 I've had better success with Chemistry.com. I like the fact that women cannot browse, but are stuck looking at all us below 10 guys Link to post Share on other sites
zebracolors Posted March 5, 2010 Share Posted March 5, 2010 I've had better success with Chemistry.com. I like the fact that women cannot browse, but are stuck looking at all us below 10 guys Can't speak for all women, but I don't give guys number ratings for attractivness. Really just feels like what I find attractive is based on certain visual aspects of a guy. As Ive stated in another post, I have a clear idea of what features I find attractive, but the guy's face does not have to look like a male model. If that makes me a typical woman or not, so be it. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 I met a wonderful man on Match.com and we're having a great relationship. It can happen. Link to post Share on other sites
EYECANDY000 Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 it seems like on those type of dating websites everyone has such high expectations thats unrealistic. its like if yu say hey instead of hi you seem to relaxed. If you mispell a word you are illiterate.. I rather stick to meeting someone in public. but in public is a hassel too.. im done dating, nevrmind! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 I rather stick to meeting someone in public. indeed EC000 Link to post Share on other sites
Barky Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 So far i have sent out about 50 emails to women and i have had 3 girls respond. Well below the 10% i was expecting. These numbers are average. You say you were expecting 5 and 3 got back to you. Not a huge difference. I've been doing it for 6 years and there are months when I can send out a hundred emails and not get back ONE response. And other times when I sent out ten and get back 5 responses. If you end up banging 0.5% of the women you contact (ie, one out of 200), you're a superstar. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted March 6, 2010 Author Share Posted March 6, 2010 I just thought i would get at least one wink or one email. Why dont the girls ever email the guys? LADIES..ITS OK TO MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. Link to post Share on other sites
Barky Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 They're passive. If you wait around for them to contact you, you will get a contact every once in awhile, and the woman usually will want to have sex with you, but you'll wait a lot. Usually all it takes is the tiniest bit of contact from you. For example, I contacted a girl online about 2 months ago. The shortest friggin email, like one sentence. Then she grabbed the ball and ran with it, invited me to IM and then invited me over and we had sex that very night. Chicks are goofy, and they're all different in some ways and the same in other ways. They're scared, basically. You can't expect women to be brave like men. The ones who contact you are the icing on the cake. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 Why dont the girls ever email the guys? Because they don't need to. They get enough attention from all the men on those sites. Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 Ok so I was on match.com for like 1 month (signed up for a 3 month subscription but found someone so I just kinda stopped using it after month 1). Anyway, I found three guys I was interested in talking to. First guy emailed me and was funny, then he kinda fell off the face of the Earth, but he did say I was really hot, hehe. Second guy was nice but lacked a picture, which worried me. He described himself as being stocky. Then when we started texting he sent me a pic and stocky = fat and to add to that he offered to take me out in the middle of the woods somewhere for some "alone" time. So yeah definitely a pass. Then there was guy 3, who wrote me about a half page email as the initial email. It was detailed, with questions that actually had to do with what I'd wrote in my profile. That guy got a date, but then I found out he was way too innocent and a little boring for my tastes. So no luck with match. Granted I got winks and emails galore, but none of the one liners like "you're so hot" got my attention. So I just think match and any other paid dating sites are a waste of money, IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted March 14, 2010 Author Share Posted March 14, 2010 (edited) So i sent out another 15 emails...nothing..but i can see that they all one pointed viewed my profile. Every girl i have emailed out of the 70+ have looked at my profile...only 3 have responded. Dam, guess i have dropped to the "not so good looking" catagory I thought online dating would be better and girls would actually go for the description of ones self..guess not. Edited March 14, 2010 by Brady_to_Moss Link to post Share on other sites
BettyBoop Posted March 14, 2010 Share Posted March 14, 2010 I've always been the one to contact the men I've found attractive on those pages. But I never dare to post a photo so the reply % was not very high haha. The guys I did hook up with I ended hooking up with because I contacted them about something in their profile I wanted to ask them about - wasn't interested in dating but then it just sort of happened on its own. I can tell you to NEVER send an email that seems like it's a "standard" one. Those always put me off. I actually replied once to a guy who did who replied "Well, you know what honey, I think this is the beginning of something new for both of us" and basically tried making me go on a date with him! Horror! He was creepy. I usually got the "Hi want to b my friend?" etc...and some "wanna have sex?". XP I'd go nuts for a guy with a cute photo who gave me a compliment and seemed funny and intelligent...and like he only had eyes for me and didn't send the same email to 10 000 other women the very same evening. XP My friend actually met her husband online and he sent her an email the moment she signed up before she had even added a photo, information or any personal information except she was female! I'm so surprised she didn't run for the hills! (He's a nice guy though) Link to post Share on other sites
Kristine Posted March 14, 2010 Share Posted March 14, 2010 Okay this is going to sound rude but maybe you're going for women that are out of your league. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted March 14, 2010 Author Share Posted March 14, 2010 I bypass the guys who are less than 8. Guys that are fat, bald spot, big ears, acne or pockmarks, bad teeth and smokers are eliminated. Those with less than professional white collar jobs are eliminated. The one guy I really wanted to date was a lawyer and he said I was too large for his standards, I guess he don't like us curvy girls. The second guy was hot but he dumped me because I won't have sex with all these people. I don't know why I can't find a guy man who is sexy, a professional and will treat me well. See why you are having problems:rolleyes: I hope a lot of girls out there arn't like you but i have a feeling most are. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted March 14, 2010 Author Share Posted March 14, 2010 Okay this is going to sound rude but maybe you're going for women that are out of your league. Ive been hit on by girls prettier than i have been contacting and even if they are out of my leauge..you would think more than 3 out of 70 would contact me NOT based on looks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted March 14, 2010 Author Share Posted March 14, 2010 Troll. GTFO of my thread...thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted March 14, 2010 Share Posted March 14, 2010 See why you are having problems:rolleyes: I hope a lot of girls out there arn't like you but i have a feeling most are. Brady, you are like 19...!!!! Match is not the place for you! How many times do I need to say so? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted March 14, 2010 Author Share Posted March 14, 2010 Brady, you are like 19...!!!! Match is not the place for you! How many times do I need to say so? 21. I am too busy with school and working full time to meet people. Its almost impossible with my current schedule Link to post Share on other sites
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