Pizzaman81 Posted March 5, 2010 Posted March 5, 2010 In the past few years, I've been used to positive feedback from my dates, which allows me to push forward with great results. This one girl I am trying to get to know, is different. We went on 2 dates already. She invited me to an event, but canceled today saying that she has to work. But she never initiates a reschedule or anything. She's not as talkative when I talk to her. Should this mean she's no longer interested? I have decided to pursue this one, but pursuing with no feedback feels kind of weird. Anyway, she said next week would be good since she's not that busy. I will schedule something with her then. See how it goes. So question for all of you, when do you stop pursuing? Perhaps most girls don't tell you straight out "this isn't going to work" or maybe they are still trying to get to know you. But in the past, the girls trying to get to know me seems like they put in a lot more effort of making time to see each other, etc.
jerbear Posted March 5, 2010 Posted March 5, 2010 So question for all of you, when do you stop pursuing? Busy with work is a good reason depending on what she does. If she is a consultant or accountant; then yes I would give her the benefit of the doubt. If she cancels again and does not contact you to make plans; then I stop pursuing. There is no point talking to someone who obviously does not want to talk to you.
alphamale Posted March 5, 2010 Posted March 5, 2010 Should this mean she's no longer interested? probably...
Author Pizzaman81 Posted March 5, 2010 Author Posted March 5, 2010 Busy with work is a good reason depending on what she does. If she is a consultant or accountant; then yes I would give her the benefit of the doubt. If she cancels again and does not contact you to make plans; then I stop pursuing. There is no point talking to someone who obviously does not want to talk to you. She's an auditor. Yes she is very busy. Well i just rescheduled, she said yes. So we'll see.
marsle85 Posted March 5, 2010 Posted March 5, 2010 She's busy! That's all I interpreted from her behavior. And since it's so early in the relationship (2 dates) she doesn't/can't be too eager. She's just doing her job.
boogieboy Posted March 5, 2010 Posted March 5, 2010 Its definitely a blowoff. did you notice whether or not you turned her off in the second date? Unresponsive pretty much means she was turned off.
Author Pizzaman81 Posted March 5, 2010 Author Posted March 5, 2010 Its definitely a blowoff. did you notice whether or not you turned her off in the second date? Unresponsive pretty much means she was turned off. I did notice something awkward on the second date yes... that's why I wasn't sure. But then she contacted me the next day. Then she asked if i wanted go to this event with her. Maybe I got what you all called "friend zoned"
zebracolors Posted March 5, 2010 Posted March 5, 2010 In other news, some auditors really do know how to have a good time! Hope this turns out good for you Pizzaman, if you give it one more shot. We're in your corner.
carhill Posted March 5, 2010 Posted March 5, 2010 So question for all of you, when do you stop pursuing? When I sense lack of mutual interest (far beyond saying yes to a date), I'm outta there. Women can be subtle but, if you're sensitive to it, it's like Dimension 150. IMO, ask someone else out and, if she calls to re-schedule, decide how you feel then.
Johnny M Posted March 5, 2010 Posted March 5, 2010 In the past few years, I've been used to positive feedback from my dates, which allows me to push forward with great results. This one girl I am trying to get to know, is different. We went on 2 dates already. She invited me to an event, but canceled today saying that she has to work. But she never initiates a reschedule or anything. She's not as talkative when I talk to her. Should this mean she's no longer interested? I have decided to pursue this one, but pursuing with no feedback feels kind of weird. Anyway, she said next week would be good since she's not that busy. I will schedule something with her then. See how it goes. So question for all of you, when do you stop pursuing? Perhaps most girls don't tell you straight out "this isn't going to work" or maybe they are still trying to get to know you. But in the past, the girls trying to get to know me seems like they put in a lot more effort of making time to see each other, etc. If a woman is giving you lukewarm treatment, she's not into you. She may like the attention, free dinners/entertainment, and other fringe benefits of dating, so she might keep you on the backburner for a while until she finds someone better. But this doesn't sound like a case of her still trying to get to know you. Cut your losses and move on.
USMCHokie Posted March 5, 2010 Posted March 5, 2010 For me, unresponsive = I stop pursuing... I have a very low threshold for that...and I just have a really low interest in dating right now...which is probably while I'll always be single...
Yamaha Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 If a woman is giving you lukewarm treatment, she's not into you. She may like the attention, free dinners/entertainment, and other fringe benefits of dating, so she might keep you on the backburner for a while until she finds someone better. But this doesn't sound like a case of her still trying to get to know you. Cut your losses and move on. Word........
Author Pizzaman81 Posted March 6, 2010 Author Posted March 6, 2010 Alright thanks everyone. I shall have this last supper with her, and if I still sense lukewarm attitude, i'm moving on. It just sucks because I have paid too much attention to her and have neglected some others... I bet they feel the same about me now.
EYECANDY000 Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 Alright thanks everyone. I shall have this last supper with her, and if I still sense lukewarm attitude, i'm moving on. It just sucks because I have paid too much attention to her and have neglected some others... I bet they feel the same about me now. hope it works out!
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