She bought a plane ticket to see me, then bailed a month before. Why?

[gokova86]

so, over the summer i went on a trip to europe. i randomly got on a boat in croatia at the last minute, it was an awesome 8 days. on the boat i met an australian girl and had an instant connection, physically and mentally. we hooked up the last couple days on the boat, and then went our separate ways. i was persistent and kept in contact for the next 3 weeks i was in europe, and we decided to meet up with each other again. so, i went home to nc for a month, and we met up once again in barcelona, spain. we came back from that trip as a couple.

 

overall it has been fantastic, and i always had faith that we could work through any rough patch. the holidays, especially, were very nice and we grew closer. december 30th she bought a nonrefundable plane ticket to visit me for 2 weeks, all the way from australia. she was due to arrive march 8th. a month ago, she decided not to come. apparently she no longer thinks we are compatible because of our different backgrounds. she had a laundry list of things wrong with me.

 

this is all very odd because she sent me valentines cards just days before she broke up with me. i received them after the fact, actually. she had also been talking about what we would be doing and eating on her visit. now i will never see her again, and she truly believes we have irreconcilable differences. i e-mailed her a week after the breakup, and her mind is set (even though in the e-mail she also said that the week in spain was the happiest in her life).

 

after 6 months of not seeing her, yet being totally faithful and believing in us, my dreams are shattered. i never cheated, or did anything to arouse suspicion. but for some reason, she feels this way.

 

can anyone provide some insight on this? is she just crazy? no one has ever rejected me so completely. and because of the distance, i will never see her again.

 

i've heard it all before about breakups, no contact etc, and i have been doing that. what confuses me is the timeline: december 30th, buys ticket. february 4th, sends valentine's cards. february 7th, dumps me. maybe she just freaked out. i'll never know.

[CarrieT]

As quickly as she hooked up with you, she probably hooked up with someone else and just never told you.

 

Sad, but it happens.

[carhill]

Married

[gokova86]

it's very possible that she found another guy, but from what i know about this girl she doesn't enter relationships easy, and she is not a slut, in any sense of the word. trust me, i was the 3rd person she ever had sex with and she's 2 years older than me (both in our mid 20s).

 

the timeline still doesn't add up. date for 5 months long distance, buy a plane ticket, decide a month later not to come. there's gotta be lots of things that she isn't telling me, but she said she has nothing to hide and that we're simply not right for one another.

 

she sure as hell felt differently on december 30th than on february 7th

[carhill]

Here's a key tip about women..... (and men)....they lie.

[gokova86]

duly noted. still, it's doing my head in