Girl20 Posted March 5, 2010 Posted March 5, 2010 So I have this horrible ex boyfriend who i cant seem to get out of my life. We broke up because he was really mean and controlling and i found out he cheated on me, many times. I even walked in on it the last time, which turned pretty ugly! On that same night we ended our relationship, he started dating that girl which still baffles me. I just dont understand how he could of done that? And after we broke up he cheated on his new girlfriend with me. So basically he's a horrible person who only cares about him self! Now I have this new boyfriend is the best thing that could of happened to me! I am head over heels in love with him! He's the sweetest guy and we've been dating for almost a year. We live together now and our relationship couldnt be any better! So you think everything perfect, right? Well i know this is stupid but i still cant stop thinking about my ex. Its like i'm not completely over him yet and its been a year and a half. And everytime i see him my heart drops and i feel sick. I definitely dont want to be with him still so i dont know why i feel this way and cant stop thinking about him... I think its because i never got closure from our break up because it ended so fast and im still VERY upset about it! When i started dating my boyfriend i felt like this but i figured it would fade over time...but it hasnt and its starting to really bother me. Its just been way to long and i dont know how to get over it... i'm thinking about counceling but i figured i would try this first and see what other people thought....
USMCHokie Posted March 5, 2010 Posted March 5, 2010 i'm thinking about counceling but i figured i would try this first and see what other people thought.... Counseling, FTW. This is why rebound relationships are so dangerous...you entered into your current relationship without resolving all of your issues from the past relationship with Douchebag McGee...and you managed to stretch it out for as long as you did... And here we go with the closure nonsense...you don't get "closure" from someone else...you find it through acceptance within yourself...you clearly never accepted that your previous relationship ended the way it did before you jumped into another relationship...so of course, you now feel like you're still burdened with the past...before, instead of resolving those issues within yourself, you buried them under a new relationship, hoping they wouldn't resurface... But alas, they always comes back to bite you in the ass...
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