dwilliams_22 Posted March 4, 2010 Posted March 4, 2010 I am new here but I had to find some where that I can talk to someone about what I am feeling. I just broke up with my boy friend yesterday and he is with someone else. I do love him and want to be with him but he is no good for me and I really need help dealing with the pain. I don't have many friends and I am very lonely and need some one, any one to help ease the pain. I know there are people on here who know what I am going through. I am 24 and this is only my first serious relationship and I have been with this guy for 5 years.
Rearden Metal Posted March 4, 2010 Posted March 4, 2010 Welcome dwilliams... A lot of us are feeling similarly to how you are right now. You aren't alone, by any stretch. The thing that stands out to me in your posting is that you know he is no good for you. You ended it and took the step in the right direction. Of course, you are feeling terrible about it because he was probably involved in nearly every aspect of your life for 5 years. Something like that can't be replaced quickly. Just know that you're treating yourself with respect. You value your self worth enough to put yourself in the pain you are now temporarily in, in order to feel better in the long run. Keep posting. Read other's stories. GET THERAPY. Talk to your close friends. Cry when you feel like it. Move on. Best wishes...
Author dwilliams_22 Posted March 4, 2010 Author Posted March 4, 2010 Welcome dwilliams... A lot of us are feeling similarly to how you are right now. You aren't alone, by any stretch. The thing that stands out to me in your posting is that you know he is no good for you. You ended it and took the step in the right direction. Of course, you are feeling terrible about it because he was probably involved in nearly every aspect of your life for 5 years. Something like that can't be replaced quickly. Just know that you're treating yourself with respect. You value your self worth enough to put yourself in the pain you are now temporarily in, in order to feel better in the long run. Keep posting. Read other's stories. GET THERAPY. Talk to your close friends. Cry when you feel like it. Move on. Best wishes... Thankk you so much for your comment. I really needed that. I don't really have many people to talk you and when I look at it in the way you put it, I really feel good about the decision that I made.
GrayClouds Posted March 4, 2010 Posted March 4, 2010 I am new here but I had to find some where that I can talk to someone about what I am feeling. I just broke up with my boy friend yesterday and he is with someone else. I do love him and want to be with him but he is no good for me and I really need help dealing with the pain. I don't have many friends and I am very lonely and need some one, any one to help ease the pain. I know there are people on here who know what I am going through. I am 24 and this is only my first serious relationship and I have been with this guy for 5 years. Welcome, but sorry for what brought you. This has to be hard, but you should be proud of the strength you have shown. It not easy to walk a first love, specially one that long. As far as the pain, itis going to hurt for awhile but it get better. Allow yourself to cry, scream, bark at the moon and get angry. Embrace the emotion then try to let them go, push yourself not to wallow. Get a notebook and pen. Start writing. First start a list of all the things the make this jerk a jerkl. Nothing is to small or two big and everytime you start missing him, re-read the list and add to it. At night before bed write hard and fast everything and anything that comes to you. Do not worry about spelling or grammer or ever if you can read what you write when your done. Just get it out and keep it up until you can not write anymore. It will help you sleep. Everyday starting tomorrow, get some exrecise. I know you do not feel like it but push yourself. The more the better but even if it is just walking then walk. It will help your body produce happy chemicals and again help you sleep at night. The more you do the better you will feel, and the better you will look, and the less the pain will hurt. Make sure you eat well. Good food and at a regular basis, again you do not want to but if you do not eat it makes it worst. Use you friends for family and support. Use Love Shack for support, post often people here can help alot. Finally go No Contact. No Text messages, No email, no phone calls, cyber stalking through MySpace, Facy-Facebook. It is time to focus on yourself and being kind to the person that matters, you. Read the follow for more ideas: The No Contact Guide It is painful but it will get better. You already have shown you deserve better and you will get it. Keep posting.
Author dwilliams_22 Posted March 4, 2010 Author Posted March 4, 2010 Thank you so much for your reply it really helped. I was lying down felling good after I found this fourm but that didn't last to long and my heart felt like a waterfall just landed on it. I couldn't sleep no matter how much I close my eyes and I was just about to go on facebook and look through his account. I spoke with him a couple hours ago becasue he has my lab top so I told him to just put it in my car and his stuff will be in there as well so we wouldn't have to see each other face to face or even talk although I want to. I love him so much but I can't go back to him no matter what. He has cheated on me countless of times and no matter how much I try with him, he will never do right. I know this is personally but even though we had been together for five years, we never had sex before. I'm waiting for marriage and that was something he knew way before we were in a realationship because we were friends first. But every time I try to talk to someone, no takes my problems serious because there was no sex involved but my feelings are very real. This is my first time crying over a guy and also crying over someone who is still living. I am so gratefully for your support. I don't have any friends and this forum is really helping out with that.
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