Girls, if your girlfriend bad-mouthed some guy would you still go out with him???

[alphamale]

Ok girls if there was some guy you like and your girlfriend(s) said bad things about him would you still go out with him?

 

Like if your girlfriends said he was a player or only after sex or that he was bad to other girls.

 

Would you listen to your girlfriend(s) if you were attracted to this guy?

 

If he asked you out would you reject him based upon what your friend(s) said about him? Even though it may or may not be true.

[Ruby Slippers]

I would believe their opinion. I trust my friends.

[fallendisguise]

I wouldn't, but that's just me. If I was attracted to him, I would want to find out for myself, albeit cautiously. If you can be swayed that much by what other people have said about a person (I often find it is misguided) then you don't have a mind of your own and why would that person want to bother with you anyway? Just my thoughts.

[alphamale]

I would believe their opinion. I trust my friends.

yea but what if they are wrong or didn't hear the full story?

[txsilkysmoothe]

It would depend on the girlfriend - how close she and I are, if she is prone to exaggeration, has firsthand knowledge, etc.

 

I would probably attempt to verify the information and maybe even ask the guy for his side of the story.

[marsle85]

It depends on who's telling me. If it's one of my best friends-- not only would I not be interested because I trust my friends, and he hurt her-- but because it's my best friend. There are rules. Don't date your friend's boy. Ex or not.

 

If it was a more distant friend and he seemed to not meet the poor expectations, I'd take things SUPER slow and consider dating him. Probably wouldn't be fully comfortable for a while, not to mention knowing my friend was with him.

 

Alpha, bud-- you're really getting worked up about this chick talking, aren't you? :-(

[Ruby Slippers]

yea but what if they are wrong or didn't hear the full story?

I also trust that my friends would never warn me off a guy without very good reason. We're close, very honest with each other, and loyal. Girls have to stick together -- to protect us from big bad meanie men.

[alphamale]

Alpha, bud-- you're really getting worked up about this chick talking, aren't you? :-(

no not really i just want to make sure it won't effect my dating prospects...i may have to lay low for a while for the heat to wear off

[tigressA]

I've gone my own way before when my friends have done that, but every time they turned out to be completely right, and not one of them said "I told you so". I have really amazing friends, so I tend to trust their opinion more when it comes to guys these days.

[alphamale]

Girls have to stick together -- to protect us from big bad meanie men.

well you're not doing a very good job of it

[threebyfate]

IME, where there's smoke there's fire.

[Ruby Slippers]

well you're not doing a very good job of it

How so?

 

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[fallendisguise]

I would believe their opinion. I trust my friends.

 

 

I'm sorry, but I have to disagree with this. I've had a friend tell me that a guy was no good because a friend of a friend of a friend dated him and he was a jerk to her, only to find out he was a really nice and sweet guy to me. You can't just go off of other people's perceptions because they are based on a particular situation that may not apply to you with that person. At least that is what I have learned. On the other hand, sometimes those perceptions are true. Which is why I've always believed you need to find out for yourself.

[alphamale]

How so?

 

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look at all the girls that are with questionable guys

[Ruby Slippers]

look at all the girls that are with questionable guys

A lot of people don't know how to have strong friendships, especially in these isolated, every-man-is-an-island times.

 

But I do. I know why they are so important. And my close friends and I definitely help screen guys for one another.

 

Also, I would NEVER date a guy that a good friend of mine had previously dated, no matter what her opinion of him. That's just basic girl code.

[Kamille]

I'm a good judge of character. I can make up my own mind.

 

My friends have never felt compelled to "warn me" about any guys anyway. That's just not how we roll. We trust each other's judgement.

[alphamale]

Also, I would NEVER date a guy that a good friend of mine had previously dated, no matter what her opinion of him. That's just basic girl code.

you may not but other girls do...

[sally4sara]

Ok girls if there was some guy you like and your girlfriend(s) said bad things about him would you still go out with him?

 

Like if your girlfriends said he was a player or only after sex or that he was bad to other girls.

 

Would you listen to your girlfriend(s) if you were attracted to this guy?

 

If he asked you out would you reject him based upon what your friend(s) said about him? Even though it may or may not be true.

 

Well, the only way they would know him well enough to accurately say this is if they dated him. I never dated anyone my friends had been with prior.

 

So yeah, I would listen. I too am a good judge of character and that applies to my friends and their word.

[blue.iris]

If I liked the guy, I would be very cautious. Also, depends on what I've been told and how many other people have also heard the same thing. I wouldn't take any chances if I heard he was a psycho stalker who hit his ex-girlfriend.

[Johnny M]

I'm a good judge of character. I can make up my own mind.

+1. People who are entirely differential to their friends are either not particularly bright or have a weak will and are afraid of disagreeing with someone in their social circle. Personally, while I value my friend's advice and take it into consideration, the ultimate decision is always mine.

[alphamale]

generally men don't do any preliminary "research" on women that they plan on asking out...i wonder why that is

[Woggle]

generally men don't do any preliminary "research" on women that they plan on asking out...i wonder why that is

 

They should.

 

As for the topic if you get the rep as a player your value will go up with women in general. You are worrying about nothing.

[alphamale]

As for the topic if you get the rep as a player your value will go up with women in general. You are worrying about nothing.

yeah there is a big meetup dinner going on right now with all the key players (Dawn, Julie, Donna, Louise) and i know they are all talking about me and what happened. I didn't attend cause its too far away. I just know that they are bad mouthing me to all the other girls there.

[Woggle]

yeah there is a big meetup dinner going on right now with all the key players (Dawn, Julie, Donna, Louise) and i know they are all talking about me and what happened. I didn't attend cause its too far away. I just know that they are bad mouthing me to all the other girls there.

 

They bad mouth you but they secretly want you. They are only talking about you because they care.

[alphamale]

They bad mouth you but they secretly want you. They are only talking about you because they care.

yea maybe so....i do already have a stellar reputation among the group of being some type of player and asking out a lot of girls. this will just reinforce it i suppose.

 

i guess i am in attendance at the dinner, albeit in absentia