Kristy19 Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 This has been on mind for a few days... This guy I'm talking to asked me how would I feel if he joined the military and if I would still want talk to him. I couldn't answer him with out saying how I honestly felt about guys in the military because I did get cheated on by one a few months ago but I told him I would support him if he decided to joined. We talked about for what felt like a long time and he told me that not all guys are cheaters and all he wants is one chance to prove me wrong. Every time we talk he tells how much he enjoys my company and that I can take a joke without being offended like most girls would and that he can talk to me about anything and I won't pass judgment on him. He's been through a ton of stuff in his life. I don't know every since he told me that he's really considering the military I've been weighing my options. I like this guy very much and although I haven't been through the majority of the stuff he's been through, I can talk to him about anything and everything. I just don't know what to do or think. I want him to do what's best for him but at the same time he wants me to be with him.
skydiveaddict Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Does he want to go active duty, reserve or nat'l guard?
USMCHokie Posted March 4, 2010 Posted March 4, 2010 It takes a very special kind of person to be with someone in the military.
terra Posted March 4, 2010 Posted March 4, 2010 Hey, My bf''s in the military. I don't think he would ever cheat on me. My biggest concern with SOs in the military is that they are gone ALL THE TIME. My boyfriend is so kind and we are really compatible I put up with his career choice. I think it's important to judge the individual not there career. How many Americans are in the Armed Forces? Can you say that they ALL cheat or NONE cheat? It's really an individual thing.
Author Kristy19 Posted March 4, 2010 Author Posted March 4, 2010 I don't think he would cheat. I know what comes with being in a military relationship. He's not going to be around a lot, I won't be able to talk him when I want to but I think what has me contemplating so much is how this ex of mine did me and I don't want to go through it again. Even with this current guy he told me the one thing he notices about me was that I have a wall up and I hate getting close to people which is true and its probably from this ex, but like he said he wants me to give him a shot, so he can prove me wrong.
skydiveaddict Posted March 4, 2010 Posted March 4, 2010 I don't think he would cheat. I know what comes with being in a military relationship. He's not going to be around a lot, I won't be able to talk him when I want to but I think what has me contemplating so much is how this ex of mine did me and I don't want to go through it again. Even with this current guy he told me the one thing he notices about me was that I have a wall up and I hate getting close to people which is true and its probably from this ex, but like he said he wants me to give him a shot, so he can prove me wrong. If you really like this guy, I would trust him. His MOS can have alot to do w/that. In my case for example, there are no women in my unit. When we get deployed, it's always to Iraq or Afghanistan. My guess is he will be missing you more than you know.
USMCHokie Posted March 4, 2010 Posted March 4, 2010 If you really like this guy, I would trust him. His MOS can have alot to do w/that. In my case for example, there are no women in my unit. When we get deployed, it's always to Iraq or Afghanistan. My guess is he will be missing you more than you know. Quoted for truth. Of course I am a little biased, but my fears are always with the girl left back at home...
skydiveaddict Posted March 4, 2010 Posted March 4, 2010 Quoted for truth. Of course I am a little biased, but my fears are always with the girl left back at home... True Devil Dog. I can't disagree
Author Kristy19 Posted March 4, 2010 Author Posted March 4, 2010 What about you...? I've been cheated on before and so has he, so no I wouldn't cheat. I already know the pain of cheating and I would never do that to someone I care about.
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