ON MY OWN Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Guys, what kind of an attitude is it if your bf thinks it is a male thing that he has had more sexual partners than me? I think it shouldnt matter, but he says its a male thing. I look at this as chauvenistic? He acts just as if its a male thing and I wont understand because I am a woman. Why should it matter? I said to him what if I did have a higer number than him and he said he dont know if he would be able to deal with it. I think this is garbage, but if someone can explain this frame of mind to me from a male standpoint I sure would appreciate it. I know it involves a sexual nature now, but I put it in dating becasuse its a frame of mind. Thanks for any of you men that can be really truthful on this and elaborate. Have a wonderful week to all! Thank you again for your input.
Bejita463 Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Well, unless he is having sex with dudes, the women he's been with are just as likely to be right alongside him in the numbers game as not. His logic is faulty. Hypocrisy is a red flag to me, as is ignorance. Both of which his logic contains.
hats Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Well, unless he is having sex with dudes, the women he's been with are just as likely to be right alongside him in the numbers game as not. His logic is faulty. Hypocrisy is a red flag to me, as is ignorance. Both of which his logic contains. He never said he was being logical. Most guys feel uncomfortable when a girl has a much higher number, it's an emotional thing. There's been a couple threads already where guys explain why they think that is but IMO it just comes down to emotions. When a guy hears a high number he's turned off. It's not like he hears the number, thinks about the reasons a high number is bad, and then decides he feels bad. It could be that he's never even thought about before. He still feels bad and that's just how a lot of guys are.
phineas Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 it's called immature? As long as the woman is STD free & isn't still racking up partners while with me I really don't care how many people she has been with. Discussing numbers is just a REALLY bad idea as far as i'm concerned.
mortensorchid Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Double standard : guys can have tons of partners and women can't because we have to be so pure. Here is the answer to this debate and to end all debates on this: DON'T ASK DON'T TELL! Quite honestly, the amount of partners one person has has is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS, and it's none of THEIR business to ask you either. If the other person asks you, just say "I'd rather not talk about that". If they persist, just answer "More than one". If the amount of partners you have had is in the single or triple digits, it's none of their business. It would be foolish if not downright naieve of anyone to assume that we don't have pasts, we are not children here. Don't ask the guys present or future that you are / will be with this question. It's just tacky. What matters is the here and now.
single-n-lonely Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 uh yeah that is stupid! I know several women who have slept around A LOT. i also know several men who have had very few partners. so that is a major contradiction. he is talking out of his ass!
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