Question

[jd12]

So basically me and my girlfriend had been dating for a year and 8 months and last week she said she had some lunch thing come up on sunday. For some reason i got mad and told her that i pissed off that she told me the way she did and that her family didnt invite me since they know me so well. We then got into a fight because she was pissed off i was acting the way i was. Then she took some time and called me and told me she cant deal with this anymore and that we should break up. I am so hurt by all of this and we have always been amazing with each other through anything. I am realizing now how dumb i was for fighting about what i did because she has a life too and i didnt let myself realize that and i should have just accepted that she had other plans for a little. Please someone tell me if this has some truth to it? i feel like such an idiot for what i did and now i dont know how to begin to get her back because i love her so much still and i know she still has feelings for me but she just hasnt talked to me since we broke up because shes probably still hurt..im just so confused and i love this girl so much any thoughts on what to do next??

[GrayClouds]

So basically me and my girlfriend had been dating for a year and 8 months and last week she said she had some lunch thing come up on sunday. For some reason i got mad and told her that i pissed off that she told me the way she did and that her family didnt invite me since they know me so well. We then got into a fight because she was pissed off i was acting the way i was. Then she took some time and called me and told me she cant deal with this anymore and that we should break up. I am so hurt by all of this and we have always been amazing with each other through anything. I am realizing now how dumb i was for fighting about what i did because she has a life too and i didnt let myself realize that and i should have just accepted that she had other plans for a little. Please someone tell me if this has some truth to it? i feel like such an idiot for what i did and now i dont know how to begin to get her back because i love her so much still and i know she still has feelings for me but she just hasnt talked to me since we broke up because shes probably still hurt..im just so confused and i love this girl so much any thoughts on what to do next??

 

Sign up for an anger management class, or work with a professional on it and pick up the book:The Dance of Connection and read it. These is action that show your geneuine intent that your truly trying to imporve yourself and willing to make change for the good of the relationship.

 

Then after you start, send he a note to state your apology, what actions your doing to improve yourself, and ask for forgiveness. Keep working on yourself and possible she will come back. But until she does, do not beg, plead, shout, cry text, email to get her back, it will just push her farther away. All you can do is work hard on improving yourself and given her reasons to come back.

 

Good luck.