pureinheart Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 I appreciate your thoughts I guess i'm angry for my boys more then anything. My wife is a good person. She just has issues. We have alot of good friends that are close with her and I. They cant believe what she has done. I am surely at fault for alot of things. I own it. I'm really sad that my stbx is gone. I miss the old wife that is a loving, caring,empathetic woman. She got involved in the wrong crowd. MW hanging almost entirely with single/divorced co-eds, is not good judgement. 90% have had affairs, multiple times. She wants to do things that MW cant. Cake Eater. Its sad. It is big time mid-life crisis. One thing I have learned, she has to go through the journey. Only then will the light shine down upon her. I would just like her to be happy. If this makes her happy, great. I dont like seeing her make every one around her miserable. We all feel sorry for her, and cater to her. Im a Christian. I will not turn my back. I will turn the other cheek. Doesnt necessarily mean I want to live with her again. I am on the road to healing and happiness. I love her and my boys unconditionally. I always will. Back to thread: OM, I want to hear from you. I will not judge even if it hurts my feelings. so far: easy sex, no strings, knight hood. anything else? Wow...it sounds like she is trying to re-live her teen years? It also sounds like you are doing much better, all of this is very hard ...I am still playing catch up with everything that's gone on in my life...GBU, I'll be lifting you up bigtime....
pureinheart Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 (edited) ------------------- Hi Pure... Am so happy for you that you have returned to church ... I have not .. would probably like to serve if I did .. i.e. try singing in a choir .. Just cannot take the time right now as my weekends are too condensed and vital .. and I really have not missed church that much, excepting for meeting people.. (Internet is great though, ha) .. My divorce was 25 years ago - My marriage ended primarily because it did not have GOD in it .. I became saved afterward ... My 42 yr old twin sons learned just a few years ago that my husband's widow - on that 2nd marriage .. had my H write them out of his will to the extent that they could not reap from their grandfather's life estate which is just closing.. Anyone on here who is reading this (I should start a thread) .. Please don't let those later marriages take you away from your family .. A new wife has no earned or entitlement to that that rightfully belongs to your Offspring.. I am on these OM/OW threads because of a recent development with a MM former classmate who contacted me a few yrs ago .. God is good .. He has given me insight .. while all of you are my support group .. thank you .. You know, God knew how life would be in these times, so He compensated with internet/tv....I found it too difficult while working, so I have just recently returned...also I am not your typical Christian, I don't agree with much going on with the churches today, although that is a completely different thought/thread. I am so glad God led you to these boards.... What I have bolded, well let's just say that I have had to deal with the step-family issues, just call me the modern day Cinderella, with evil step-mother, sisters and all...BUT now it's time for the Princess part...anyway, I am sooo sorry about what happened to your kids, it is unspeakable...I have many friends that in the end everything went to the "other side" of the family and the kids were forgotten....it has caused much damage with my friends. I had problems, although both my mother and father took steps to ensure my inheritance, and I will do the same for my kids, if I ever marry again....the way things look now, it's not in my future, unless of course a miracle from God were to take place. Edited March 10, 2010 by pureinheart
2.50 a gallon Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 (edited) Shortly after the break up of my marriage I played the role of the OM several times. In every case, had the H taken care of business at home, I would not have been able to bed them. They had been frustrated in the marriage for a long time, had tried to communicate their frustration with their H's and gotten no response. Easy, it was like shooting fish in a barrel. All I had to do was to listen to them and they told me what was missing in their lives. Had their H's listened, the affairs never would have happened. As an example one of the ladies, was heavily into rare and hard to breed tropical fish. She was one of the few in the world who could keep them alive, much less get them to successfully spawn. She had no degree in science, she was self taught, and was so successful that she carried on correspondance with just a few experts (read scientists / college professors) from around the world. She was very proud of her success, but her H took no notice, to him they were just guppys. I seduced them on the dance floor. Had their H's gotten off their butts and danced just once with their wives nothing ever would have happened. In fact their H's encouraged them to dance with me, to get them out of their hair. They were mostly just a few ONS so there was little attachment, and I suspect that their H's ever knew about the trysts. Edited March 10, 2010 by 2.50 a gallon missing word
califnan Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 You know, God knew how life would be in these times, I had problems, although both my mother and father took steps to ensure my inheritance, and I will do the same for my kids, if I ever marry again....the way things look now, it's not in my future, unless of course a miracle from God were to take place. -------------------------------- I am glad to be here too, Pure .. thank you .. Absolutely, if I were to marry again, my sons would be my priority with inheritance and I would Respect his children for his inheritance as well.. Love is not marrying - for financial gain. The singles sights: match.com, pof.com (which is free).. etc .. help me to realize than I am happier single - with possibilty of future marriage happiness - than to be married to the Wrong person .. ha
Got it Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 I appreciate the responses. I would be scared as a woman , but as a OM I could get my arse beat or worse, most likely not the case for OW. As far as cheating being secretive , you cant be in public. But if I were single that would suck. Part of the fun is taking your babe out, wining and dining her, and then hoping for a night cap if all goes well. I would think the secretiveness would suck, but then I thought I was a happily married. I may have fun and romance all wrong. I'm new to this, so I will listen and learn:) Really? You should tell my then MM that! All those dinners, dates, trips, grocery shopping, mall shopping, errand running, etc was a huge no no!
califnan Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 looks like Baller is MIA... ??? He sure is Sunny ... I remember I was laughing at his writings / style and someone's responce to him .. then pureinheart came along and calmed him down, and he left.. I wish he would come back and view his thread and - suffer it out ..
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