foxy roxy Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 I was going out with my x bf for 4 years we was perfect together everyone thort so to . I trusted him completey and just didnt think he would hurt me . 4 months ago he dump me and told me he didnt love me anymore he was cryin as he told me and i didnt take it to seronsly at the start thinking it would be a week and he ring me up cryin saying he wants me back . 2 weeks down the line i had no phone calls, and at this point i was pretty low and upset . ringing him all the time screaming and crying down the phone and all he kept saying was sorry i didnt want this to happen . 3 weeks after i rang him again and ask him is there someone else there must be you would be asking for me back otherwise and he reply= "yes there is"well i couldnt hold it in i cryed and cryed couldnt sleep emailed him all the time beg for him back now hes facebook picture its a picture of them to. and our friends are happy for him and tell me he's moveing on and i think hes moved on to fast after 4 years you think he would of had more respect for me then to hurt me this much he never replys any more and its like hes completey forgotton who i am its been 4 months and its hurts so much sorry about the spelling :S
engravefeelthevoid Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Oh gosh I'm so sorry....well from your reaction I feel that you're not that experienced...but then again u loved him and it's been 4 years....well I think he did move on....want my advice ? in life...the bigger the problem..knowing you were strong enough to get over it...the greater the experience and the greater the strength you get...life sux I know...but you gotta get that strength from inside you and MOVE ON !!!! I rly feel you... cry and take ur time to get over it...with ur friends though...ur friends will help u get over it....LIE to urself that ur happy and u will believe it...bette than chasing sth useless..... good luck my heart is with you
Disintegration Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 I'm so sorry you are hurt, love can sure suck sometimes huh. Well maybe he met this girl before you two actually broke up. I seriously think that might have been the case, because he didn't call to ask you back out which leads me to believe he was already talking to her, and it was easy for him to not get back in touch with you. He had a distraction. I know how badly it hurts after being together for 4 years, I would be crushed too. I think that chick is just a rebound anyways, a way for him to forget about you. Why else would he need to rush into another relationship soon afterwards. You two have history so it is going to make it that much harder to move on yourself. I know you can do it though, it will be rough but you need to do things to keep your mind off of it like hanging out with friends. I would totally stop communicating with him as well so it isn't easy for him to sneak back into your life if things don't work out with her. Go out meet new people and just try and put him out of your head, there will be someone better suited for you in the long run. You can do better, there are plenty of fish in the sea. If you want to call him just call a friend instead so you don't look like a jealous ex . You'll be alright eventually.
aimchase Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 (edited) It's a rebound and won't last. That said, you shouldn't think of that as an opportunity for you to hang around and look to get him back. You need to concentrate on yourself and get on with your own life. Whether you want him back or not in the future, the best way forward is NC (No Contact). Begging and crying will only make him see you as a burden and drive him further away. Let him go and give it a chance for you both to come to terms with the recent changes. It's very possible that you'll get the wake-up call and put it behind you. I was also devastated when I split from my wife, for several months. Now I think it's the best thing I ever did. It's often the change of lifestyle which is so difficult, yet we're fooled into thinking it's our love for the ex partner. I'm sure you do still have feelings for him, but you need to prepare anyway for the possibility that you're onto another chapter in your life. And while you can't see it now, that next chapter will probably be ten times better than the one you've just ended. Edited March 3, 2010 by aimchase
Fouts Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 It happens, don't let it get you down. Hopefully you've got the psycho rants out of your system and can learn from it and move on
TouchedByViolet Posted March 4, 2010 Posted March 4, 2010 It sucks when love and happiness turns into nothing. You are not alone. You should consider working out, it will help you manage your feelings so you can move on.
Author foxy roxy Posted March 25, 2010 Author Posted March 25, 2010 thaxs everyone for you advice and suported its nice to here people that understands xx
EYECANDY000 Posted March 25, 2010 Posted March 25, 2010 sorry hun, Trust me I know it hurts.. Im still dealing with it. but you need to start moving on yourself. The less you think about him the less the pain will be. Its only been a little over a month since my break up with my ex. and each day was a goal of mine not to contact him. and every time I got the urge to call, text, or drive by his house I did something productive. Stay strong and take care of yourself
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