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i have been communicating with this guy online for a month and we exchanged emails and phone numbers. He is from neighboring country and he has been calling me every day without fail. He sent me some photos of his daily activities, his work, his apartment, his life ...basically etc. Everything seems so sweet ,I do think about him a lot.

 

Few days ago he told me that he has developed some feeling for me and want to see me in person. He feels he doesnt want to loose me just because of distance and he will try his best to make it work.

 

I like him but i am still having a hard time to believe it is real since it is long distance. It is too good to be true...

 

Today, he called , he told me that his boss asked him to be in charged in a project that will require him to be solid full time for a year not going anywhere. He has to stand by 24-7. He said that he cant do it and he has somebody that he wants to be with and is not prepared to do that. So he told his boss that he resigned from his job. He said he is going to move and will start his life to be near me.

I told him not to make such a impulsive decision but he said he felt strongly it was a right decision and he fell in love with me. And he doesn't want to look back and regret it in the future for not being able to be with me. He said he has a strong feeling i am the right person for him.

 

I was speechless, partially freaked out , partially excited. But after think about it again n again.. i am getting really paranoid...all sorts of dating scam story i read in internet pass through my mind. So far he never ask any money and he is always be the one who made a call.

 

Has anyone encountered such an experience? Is this guy in hi dreamland ? or am i too paranoid? I am really really scared now...What is he up to?

Is it possible to like someone you have not met in person and just by daily conversation on the phone?

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His stated willingness to change his life in such a dramatic way before getting to know you in person is a red flag as to his impulsiveness and may demonstrate irresponsibility, but not necessarily a con. Could be though. Is he from Nigeria by chance? :laugh:

 

I'm very fond of someone rather far away, after a similar time frame as yours, and intend to continue to get to know her better, but would never make drastic life decisions before meeting someone in person and pursuing some form of dating first.

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no he is not from Nigeria. He is a white guy. Looks normal , not overly good looking just kind of ok.

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I don't think con artist is the right term here.

 

I think that you are dealing with someone who (no offense) doesn't have his priorities in order and is being emotional instead of logical. Emotions need to build over time and ONE month is just not enough.

 

You haven't even met the guy and he's willing to move to be near you. It's just a huge red flag for me.

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I think he never had a job and made up the story to look like he lost the job. Even though you said not to do it, he wants to move so bad he did it anyway. He doesnt have a job.

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Fact that he's willing to quickly throw away his job, and move for someone he hasn't met yet, is freaky. It would freak me out if I were in your shoes.

 

If this thing between you two is real, then he'll understand your uneasiness and not be pissed off or upset that you're questioning this whole senario. If he does get mad, and throws it back in your face, then you know he's an idiot.

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it is possible if he is 19 y.o, a virgin or smth else wrong with him.

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I don't know if he's a conartist - but making that move without even discussing that with you? I think you have every right to feel a little weirded out. Go with your gut girl...it's ALWAYS right !

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yea this guy is a scam artist...steer clear

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Does he want to move to the United States? Does he need you to make that happen?

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no, he doesnt need my help on that. He is holding a US passport.

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May I ask what neighboring countries are involved?

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Okay questions :

 

What country do you live ? And he ?

 

Scammers operate nowadays in many ways. Not saying he is a scammer but he does sound like a LOSER

 

He is either mentally ill ( quit job for someone he never met yet ) or he is impulsive ( as another suggested )

 

He sounds like he will be a living NIGHTMARE if you let this unknown creepy guy move in with you or near you.

 

He might be VASTLY different in appearance from what you know

 

He could be a sex predator

 

He could be trying to steal your money.

 

YOU DONT KNOW HIM !

 

Rememeber that..

 

Tell him your old boyfriend came back to town and its OVER.

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He's not necessarily trying to scam you, but what he is willing to do is pretty scary if you ask me. I would tell him that you don't feel comfortable with what he is doing considering he has never met you, and if he doesn't rethink things I would stop contacting him honestly.

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I am holding UK passport but have been living in Asia (moving around)for a quite long time since my career is progressing well. At the moment I am residing in HK. He is working in Taiwan and has been working around in Asia for a while. According to him, it wont be difficult to find a job for him. He claimed himself to be good at his work. He is his mid 30's and I am in early 30's.

 

Thanks to everyone for the input. I am definitely on my guard and will be extra careful. This is not normal. If I were him, I won't do such stuff, especially for someone I barely knew.

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He may "say" a lot of things but the reality is that he is just some dude on the other side of the computer, nothing more. To me it sounds like he doesn't even have a job, and pulled that "gave up my job to move for you" scam. I can already see how this pans out he moves to be close to you and for the first while he can't find work and guess who is going to support him?

 

Here's what I would do, beat him to the punch, tell him please to keep his job, to not make drastic moves since he will need the money to come and visit you so that you can meet and figure out if the chemistry is actually there in person. Down the line he could always quit, but first things first. He needs money to make your "love" actually happen, if he can't swing it then there is nothing there.

 

All kinds of scam artists online, I wouldn't hold my breath.

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I am holding UK passport but have been living in Asia (moving around)for a quite long time since my career is progressing well. At the moment I am residing in HK. He is working in Taiwan and has been working around in Asia for a while. According to him, it wont be difficult to find a job for him. He claimed himself to be good at his work. He is his mid 30's and I am in early 30's.

 

Thanks to everyone for the input. I am definitely on my guard and will be extra careful. This is not normal. If I were him, I won't do such stuff, especially for someone I barely knew.

 

He could be a Human Waste Sponge waiting to suck the life out of you and your money.

 

He may have a hard time holding a job and is going to leech off of you and make it where you can't get rid of him .

 

Can you do a background check on him ?

 

Do NOT continue this. This all smells very bad....

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I agree there is something wrong here. Giving up your employment because you have a crush on someone after ONE month and not meeting them? Something isn't right with that. Either he is lying, or he's very unstable and immature - you don't want to be with a man who will throw away his income on a whim do you?

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I agree with everyone whose posted before me. Definitely something "off" about this one. And the word crazy comes to mind rather than scam artist, but who knows, he could be both.

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I agree with everyone whose posted before me. Definitely something "off" about this one. And the word crazy comes to mind rather than scam artist, but who knows, he could be both.

 

He does have the marks of a scammer. Only time will play out... I SUSPECT he is going to tell her next : I don't have a job , can you send me the money for the plane ? " SCAM ALERT right there...

 

She will send the money and he will dissapear and send his next scammer friend to do it to her again...

 

Or he will beg for forgiveness and rip her once more...

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