Post Here Instead of Looking at X's Facebook

[nowomanocry]

Don't hold back your feelings, dude.

 

Hey Denver

 

how ya coping mate...

 

I am not holding meself anymore or hiding drinking and getting s...d. Seen the light,

 

to all dumped & amputated beautiful souls here... keep yer heads up, go mental, follow yer hearts, *** pride go for wot you believe is right,,, never sit weep at the corner or be discouraged by anything, love yerselves and love (if you really feel it) even if you get kicked up the arse, it is your gift, and no one else's to have loved someone and loving someone is not a guilt even if it is not mutual!

 

Sod NC! Sod shift delete! Sod FB, msn and all that crap! Sod the books "how to NC and ways to get your ex back" Lifes too short for all that crap!Seize the day! Go out and cry to everyone how much you love him/her, live the pain even that is sweet, love yerself and yes u are or were worth that love, and you got it and still have it, and lucky us we all have beating hearts that feel! Love, pain, sorrow, happiness, lust all are yours...But always have the faith, trust yourselves, love yourselves and never ever stop showering people that you love with love (love that song btw) ... and ALWAYS FOLLOW YOUR HEARTS WHEREVER IT TAKES YOU EVEN DOWN THE SHIATHOLE

 

Denver you a good man mate! Hope you doin' good!

 

Whoop whoop lol

[nowomanocry]

When are they coming out with an Assbook?

 

Go and ass the asshowls inventors of all that junk lmao

[nowomanocry]

Denver ,

 

Check my thread out mate ...

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2697493#post2697493

 

TC

[pgummins]

Thanks for making this thread. Started good today, checked her page and I've been **** all day. I even went back on some of my plans for the day

 

I've deleted her page from my history, so I will have to search for her if I check again, which I hope I don't. I'll come straight here if I feel the urge. Its hard isn't it. It's the only thing stopping me from moving on.

[pgummins]

Heres what I'm gonna do. Like a flash, I will hit the power button on my laptop if I feel like checking her page I'll make an obsession out of that bad boy!

[LovelyDaze]

ok just read this thread..and am surprised at the lack of mention of a great thing fbook has and that is...

 

THE BLOCK FUNCTION

 

YOU PEOPLE REALIZE YOU CAN AND SHOULD BLOCK YOUR EX IF YOU ARE HAVING THESE PROBLEMS.

 

 

I deleted my ex from last year off of my Facebook account maybe a few weeks after he dumped me. What a refreshing feeling!

 

If you just can't do the blocking or deleting..then by all means at least HIDE their status.

 

It's easy..all you have to do is go to the upper right corner of your ex's status update and hover over it with your pointer.

The "HIDE" button will pop up out of nowhere.

Next, it will ask if you want to "HIDE(your ex's name) or Cancel."

Click on HIDE and....VOILA'!!!! You can't see your ex's status updates anymore and the best part? They will never know!

 

But, be warned. Your ex can STILL post onto your home page, hit your inbox and you can see comments they make to mutual friends.

 

If you can't bear that? PLEASE delete or block them permanently!

[nowomanocry]

Heres what I'm gonna do. Like a flash, I will hit the power button on my laptop if I feel like checking her page I'll make an obsession out of that bad boy!

 

That it mate! Simple as... Why ****in' bound yourself with those stupido rules of getting ex back (as if lmao) & books which claim will get ur ex back, hints to get ur ex back roflmfaol

 

Do as you feel, don't listen to anyone, except your heart, it will lead you thru....that's called life and do not be afraid of living it as you wish. Life is not all about happiness, but sorrow and sadness as well. Face it! Blocking , deleting doing this & that are only for cowards

 

Life's too short lol

[nowomanocry]

I deleted my ex from last year off of my Facebook account maybe a few weeks after he dumped me. What a refreshing feeling!

 

If you just can't do the blocking or deleting..then by all means at least HIDE their status.

 

It's easy..all you have to do is go to the upper right corner of your ex's status update and hover over it with your pointer.

The "HIDE" button will pop up out of nowhere.

Next, it will ask if you want to "HIDE(your ex's name) or Cancel."

Click on HIDE and....VOILA'!!!! You can't see your ex's status updates anymore and the best part? They will never know!

 

But, be warned. Your ex can STILL post onto your home page, hit your inbox and you can see comments they make to mutual friends.

 

If you can't bear that? PLEASE delete or block them permanently!

 

And? then wot?

[HeavenOrHell]

Most people who post here have been dumped, so it doesn't matter what the dumper thinks about being deleted, it's actually totally insignificant If they have any sensitivity they will respect that you need some space to heal and move on, this can't be done while still checking what they are up to. I don't mean it is a crime to dump or that deleting is a revenge thing, it's not, for me it was so that I would stop checking what he was up to and then feeling crap about it afterwards.

Deleting your ex now, gives you space to heal, and in time it may be more possible to be friends. I hope I can be friends with my ex someday too, cos like yours, he is a good person and we will always love each other as friends.

All I'm saying is if you do have feelings for your ex still, are you not hurting yourself by looking on his page? I don't mean to sound like I'm having a go at you or anything, I just know I tortured myself for too long and hate seeing others do it to themselves

 

 

Well, you're right. You could just defriend them too. But I guess I just posted that for the people who ARE too scared to defriend them b/c you think it will send the wrong message or whatever.

 

I think I want to keep him as a friend b/c SOMEDAY I might be curious to see what he is up to in his life and how he's doing. (He was a pretty nice guy despite dumping me ) I don't want to have to go through the process of adding him again and all that. Just easier FOR ME to do it this way. Now, if I were really having a problem with checking his page or something, I probably would delete him and all his friends too. I've done that in the past.

 

I know, it's silly, but it's my way to cope.

 

I'm not saying that i'm staying ACTUAL friends with him. Heck no. Just cyberfriends. hehe.

[HeavenOrHell]

And then get on with the rest of your life without them

 

 

And? then wot?

[bananaboat11]

FB made me semi-relapse a few days ago... i need to stop. I like FB b/c it keeps me in touch with people I normally would not have kept in touch with though... people I actually like. I know without facebook they wouldn't make the effort to keep in touch with me and vice versa... but... we do. Why? FB...

[HeavenOrHell]

Your last sentence says it all

Please delete/block, you will feel better for me it, believe me

 

 

Thanks for making this thread. Started good today, checked her page and I've been **** all day. I even went back on some of my plans for the day

 

I've deleted her page from my history, so I will have to search for her if I check again, which I hope I don't. I'll come straight here if I feel the urge. Its hard isn't it. It's the only thing stopping me from moving on.

[HeavenOrHell]

You don't have to leave fb, I'm still there, but my ex isn't

 

 

 

FB made me semi-relapse a few days ago... i need to stop. I like FB b/c it keeps me in touch with people I normally would not have kept in touch with though... people I actually like. I know without facebook they wouldn't make the effort to keep in touch with me and vice versa... but... we do. Why? FB...

[bananaboat11]

You don't have to leave fb, I'm still there, but my ex isn't

 

 

After 3 months of being broken up... and after blocking me... and a good female friend of mine (that my ex told to stay away from me before, during and after the relationship)... that hot female friend (who is JUST a friend) is still blocked... my best friend.. still blocked. Me? Unblocked. Yet, she does not initiate contact with me.

 

At the time when I noticed I was unblocked.. I went to my friend and my best friend and asked them both if they were unblocked too... they said they're still blocked. This made me freak out... why would she unblock me?

 

I don't care anymore... but at the time.. must've been 2 months ago... and I think it's been 5 months since being broken up.. and NC... that I was going NUTS.

 

Now, it's annoying that a 'friend' of mine that I introduced my ex to and set up to have them live together b/c they each needed a roommate ... AT THE TIME my ex and I were together... they HATED eachother. Suddenly, they're the best of friends and I can see my ex posting on my 'friend's' facebook wall how happy she is with her boyfriend and all this **** that I shouldn't care about... but it still does bother me.

 

We have eachother off block... my 2 good friends are still blocked... and now she's befriended a girl she used to despise and talk **** about to ME behind her back...

 

I don't get women. Ladies... y'all is crazy. I'm a PhD candidate (not bragging... trying to make a point) ... so I must be somewhat smart, but when it comes to women and these 'games'.. I'm dumb as ****. Love it.

 

heh.

 

Neither one of us has broken the NC... and I don't believe either one of us will. couple people said to expect something within a year.. but I'm doubtful and not hoping.

 

Nothing is forgotten.. only left behind.... and I was really hurt (being used for sex, lied to about a relationship and her actually caring bout me... and being verbally abused - ie see my initial breakup threads). It'll probably be awhile before I can truly speak her name and not cringe subtly...

 

oh well. I'm dating again... and living life to its best. Your only limit is your own imagination. Love life. Live Life.

[HeavenOrHell]

Stop analysing the whole fb crap

I'm glad you are dating again, good for you

 

After 3 months of being broken up... and after blocking me... and a good female friend of mine (that my ex told to stay away from me before, during and after the relationship)... that hot female friend (who is JUST a friend) is still blocked... my best friend.. still blocked. Me? Unblocked. Yet, she does not initiate contact with me.

 

At the time when I noticed I was unblocked.. I went to my friend and my best friend and asked them both if they were unblocked too... they said they're still blocked. This made me freak out... why would she unblock me?

 

I don't care anymore... but at the time.. must've been 2 months ago... and I think it's been 5 months since being broken up.. and NC... that I was going NUTS.

 

Now, it's annoying that a 'friend' of mine that I introduced my ex to and set up to have them live together b/c they each needed a roommate ... AT THE TIME my ex and I were together... they HATED eachother. Suddenly, they're the best of friends and I can see my ex posting on my 'friend's' facebook wall how happy she is with her boyfriend and all this **** that I shouldn't care about... but it still does bother me.

 

We have eachother off block... my 2 good friends are still blocked... and now she's befriended a girl she used to despise and talk **** about to ME behind her back...

 

I don't get women. Ladies... y'all is crazy. I'm a PhD candidate (not bragging... trying to make a point) ... so I must be somewhat smart, but when it comes to women and these 'games'.. I'm dumb as ****. Love it.

 

heh.

 

Neither one of us has broken the NC... and I don't believe either one of us will. couple people said to expect something within a year.. but I'm doubtful and not hoping.

 

Nothing is forgotten.. only left behind.... and I was really hurt (being used for sex, lied to about a relationship and her actually caring bout me... and being verbally abused - ie see my initial breakup threads). It'll probably be awhile before I can truly speak her name and not cringe subtly...

 

oh well. I'm dating again... and living life to its best. Your only limit is your own imagination. Love life. Live Life.

[bananaboat11]

Stop analysing the whole fb crap

I'm glad you are dating again, good for you

 

 

honestly... i randomly came across those instances, but they're still bothersome.

 

but seriously... why unblock me and not my two friends? If you don't care.. leave me blocked.. or unblock them too. It's not like they'll contact her again.. she should be more fearful of ME contacting HER. I won't do it.

 

Then why befriend someone you couldn't stand. She bitched and moaned about how awful my friend was as a person...

 

I don't get it.

 

Too bad. I'm analyzing it. I'm a scientist... and the child of a psychologist.. it's what I do

[pgummins]

I've been dying to check all damn day So difficult.

[HeavenOrHell]

STOP! People (especially exes, heh) often don't make sense and there's no point wasting your energy on it

 

 

honestly... i randomly came across those instances, but they're still bothersome.

 

but seriously... why unblock me and not my two friends? If you don't care.. leave me blocked.. or unblock them too. It's not like they'll contact her again.. she should be more fearful of ME contacting HER. I won't do it.

 

Then why befriend someone you couldn't stand. She bitched and moaned about how awful my friend was as a person...

 

I don't get it.

 

Too bad. I'm analyzing it. I'm a scientist... and the child of a psychologist.. it's what I do

[HeavenOrHell]

What are you looking for when you check?

Will what you see make you feel better, or worse?

 

 

I've been dying to check all damn day So difficult.

[pgummins]

What are you looking for when you check?

Will what you see make you feel better, or worse?

 

Let me try and answer that....

 

For some reason I'm sad today, not sure for what reason. Shes on my mind most of the time, and I feel like I would end the sadness if I checked (thats bull**** anyway).

 

This is all about thought analysis and control. At the end of the day, it can only hurt me if I check, otherwise it will change NOTHING.

[pgummins]

I know this reflects badly on me, but maybe someone could help me find out why I care and why I think this way;

 

When I see her posting a status that is sad or sorrowfull, it gives me a good boost, and I feel satisfied that she is unhappy to be not in a relationship with me anymore (it was an affair, I gave her the ultimatum, she didn't budge).

 

When I see her post something, or talk to someone where she seems happy, it sends me down, for the whole day and even the next.

[nowomanocry]

Let me try and answer that....

 

For some reason I'm sad today, not sure for what reason. Shes on my mind most of the time, and I feel like I would end the sadness if I checked (thats bull**** anyway).

 

This is all about thought analysis and control. At the end of the day, it can only hurt me if I check, otherwise it will change NOTHING.

 

Thats good mate! If you feel like it, then do it. She's on me mind as well but the difference is we in contact. Hard to be friends with her really struggled a lot for a while, I just can't hate her for wot she did. I love her and always will. But we good friends now and can feel the mutual care. That we share so much together. Sweet memories of the past still alive and lovely

 

Might hurt but its' sweet now,,,I am in love with her so much that her happiness has become mine. I really am not jealous at all with the new bloke - just hope that she made the right choice and don't scrw her life up. I be there if she needs me anyways, nothing no one can stop it!

 

She sent me a tecxt today saying shes very sick ,felt the same care I did when we kicked-off. Guess that wot they call love.... Giving without any expectation of return... & that shes the only one , the one that's special , one in my lifetime. She simply makes me fly either with me or apart.

[pgummins]

What are you looking for when you check?

Will what you see make you feel better, or worse?

 

Thats good mate! If you feel like it, then do it. She's on me mind as well but the difference is we in contact. Hard to be friends with her really struggled a lot for a while, I just can't hate her for wot she did. I love her and always will. But we good friends now and can feel the mutual care. That we share so much together. Sweet memories of the past still alive and lovely

 

Might hurt but its' sweet now,,,I am in love with her so much that her happiness has become mine. I really am not jealous at all with the new bloke - just hope that she made the right choice and don't scrw her life up. I be there if she needs me anyways, nothing no one can stop it!

 

She sent me a tecxt today saying shes very sick ,felt the same care I did when we kicked-off. Guess that wot they call love.... Giving without any expectation of return... & that shes the only one , the one that's special , one in my lifetime. She simply makes me fly either with me or apart.

 

Good for you man. We arent in contact, its for the best if we dont even though sometimes I want to just call her and tell her how much I love her. She wont leave for boyfreind for me (for lots of reasons) so I have to move on. Facebook holds me back.

[pgummins]

I just checked, felt sick as I was doing it and there was nothing new to see. Still, I will check again tonight and something there will hurt me. I have to stop this.

[nowomanocry]

I just checked, felt sick as I was doing it and there was nothing new to see. Still, I will check again tonight and something there will hurt me. I have to stop this.

 

Do whatever you feel is right, follow your heart mate. Nothing to be scared of....

 

Don't be one of them cowards blocking ex's while still loving them.

 

Love will always find a way! Just believe in it.

 

Think of it in this way - you are lucky because you tasted the feeling called love, and there are many others who did not, and she if she's dumping a guy like you she's the one who lost, not you. Sooner or later you will meet the woman that was made for ya. Meanwhile, if you are still loving the dumper , then do, there no harm in it. Let it be man! There'll be times when you will be happy as well. If you happy crying, let it out. This is life and is all is worth tasting.... Even tears for the woman whom you were in love with.....That will not make you a softy but a guy with a gr8 heart that she missed on

 

Keep me posted

Edited March 12, 2010 by nowomanocry