ladydesigner Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 And we are back together.. She's showed me an evidence that she didn't sleep with him, and additionally her husband proved that too.. She is going to spend this weekend with me.. Hm...... Not exactly what I wanted.. What do you think? I am not sure what to think. After reading this whole thread it feels like you are setting yourself up for more of the same rollercoaster bullcrap. If that is what you want. I think she is doing what every other married AP does, is feed you exactly what you NEED to hear in order to KEEP you hanging on. I'm sorry you are stuck in this cycle. I'm no saint either I am an XMOW and I know I was not planning on leaving my M. My XOM knew this though. Affairs s**k they really do. It is a no win situation. Take YOUR power back and go NC you do not deserve this. She is a cake eater as I was.
JustJoe Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 One step forward, two steps back, in my opinion. Dude, the issues you have with her haven't been addressed. You still think that she will cheat again, so why put yourself through this?
Author K a t h a r s i s Posted March 8, 2010 Author Posted March 8, 2010 Actually I'm still considering it. I told her that nothing is for sure. I really don't trust her, and what is surprising I feel like I don't really care anymore. She is not a woman who respect anyone, but herself. ****ing, stupid, bitch! (sorry, but this relax me)
whichwayisup Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 You don't trust her, and you've called her some pretty nasty names ... So what is it that you love about her? And want from her? Seems this isn't a healthy place, for either of you. Also, even if you two DO end up together after she leaves her H, the affair dynamtic (aka lying, deceiving, sneaking around, hidden behind closed doors etc) is still there. How on earth can you both make a transition to a happier, trusting out in the open relationship with NO time apart, no time to allow her to heal and be alone for a while. Good luck and careful for what you ask for.
Confused4Now Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 You don't trust her, and you've called her some pretty nasty names ... So what is it that you love about her? And want from her? Seems this isn't a healthy place, for either of you. Also, even if you two DO end up together after she leaves her H, the affair dynamtic (aka lying, deceiving, sneaking around, hidden behind closed doors etc) is still there. How on earth can you both make a transition to a happier, trusting out in the open relationship with NO time apart, no time to allow her to heal and be alone for a while. Good luck and careful for what you ask for.Wow...isn't this the truth...sounds like there is some anger here.....I know I was there cause of all the whole dynamics of what happened to me.....but I had to let the anger go and if it really is love you'll find your way back. If not then I guess it wasn't really love.
Author K a t h a r s i s Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 I'm so CONFUSED.. I don't really know what to do. In one second I would like to leave her immediately and never hear her lies again. She did so much harm to me, and I don't know whether I can love her anymore. On the other hand the feeling actually is still there, but this might be just attachment. There are so many obstacles, and this seems like never ending road.. I CAN LIVE DIFFERENT LIFE.
Author K a t h a r s i s Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 Now everything is fine, she is so happy that we will see each other this weekend, and everything seems perfect, but I know that this R will never be perfect.. Can I trust her? I don't know.. Do I love her? I don't know.. Will I leave her? I don't want to.. Seems like no win situation..
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