Unwavering_ Faith Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Hi everyone. I badly need your advice. I consider my ex-boyfriend as my greatest love. But I guess, we were not meant to be together for the rest of our lives. As of the moment, I have done NC for 2 months. And I must admit that the pain that is in my heart is very deep. I love him so much but it’s all over between us. Before I left for Australia, we were able to talk and he even asked me to keep in touch. I thought that we can at least be friends. But I was dead wrong. 2 days after arriving in Australia, I texted him. He did reply but he was cold and distant. There were several times when I texted him again and he NEVER initiated any conversation with me. I was always the first one to text him. It came to a point when I got tired of texting him first. I realized that he fooled me when he asked me to keep in touch before I left. He really did not want to stay in touch with me. Because if he did, how come he never texted me first? It’s pathetic to continue reaching out to him so I had to stop. I must admit, he is not a good looking guy, he looks old for his age. He is intelligent and I truly admire him for that. I love him for who he is and he will always be in my heart. I still think of him and it hurts. But I have to stick to NC, I don’t want to make a fool out of myself anymore. It’s his birthday on March 15 and I am thinking of asking my cousin from my home country to text him on that day and wish him a happy birthday for me. At least, the text won’t come directly from me. Is it a silly idea? Please enlighten me before I get hurt again. If it’s a mistake to do that, please tell me. Thank you very much. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Ronni_W Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 I am thinking of asking my cousin from my home country to text him on that day and wish him a happy birthday for me. At least, the text won’t come directly from me. Is it a silly idea? Well..."silly" is a word that would work here, yes. If your cousin texts anything to the effect of "Happy birthday from Unwavering Faith" then it is definitely from you, and it would definitely be directly on your instruction. The country in which the text originates makes no difference. Honestly, I think you need to let it go. If you really must acknowledge his b/day in some way, do it privately. Between you and you. You're aware that he did not really want to stay in touch with you. He does not want to stay in touch with you. Just cos it's his b/day doesn't change that. Unfortunately and I'm sorry to say. Hugs.
Author Unwavering_ Faith Posted March 3, 2010 Author Posted March 3, 2010 Well..."silly" is a word that would work here, yes. If your cousin texts anything to the effect of "Happy birthday from Unwavering Faith" then it is definitely from you, and it would definitely be directly on your instruction. The country in which the text originates makes no difference. Honestly, I think you need to let it go. If you really must acknowledge his b/day in some way, do it privately. Between you and you. You're aware that he did not really want to stay in touch with you. He does not want to stay in touch with you. Just cos it's his b/day doesn't change that. Unfortunately and I'm sorry to say. Hugs. Hello, thank you so much for the enlightenment. You have saved me from making a huge mistake. I can just laugh at myself for thinking of such a silly idea. I won’t greet him on his birthday. It’s going to be pathetic if I do. So I would rather not do it. I must learn to accept that it’s truly over between me and my ex-boyfriend. I should stop wasting my tears just because of him. I will not only move on but I will move forward. Life is too short to dwell on the past. He does not deserve my love. It’s time for me to open my heart to the people around me. I can’t thank you enough for the great advice.
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