Trying a new actvity on a date

[hearttobreak]

I was recently told it is better to do physical activities on a date than just the standard dinner, drinks, movie etc. And even though I did get a third date setup for this weekend, I wonder if I may had left a partially negative taste about me in her mouth. She said to me once a that she liked to skate. I however never did skate before. Though, I thought it would be an interesting experiment to try. I told her before I never skated before. Low and behold, as soon as I got the skates on I was all over the place. I was actually trying to balance and get a rhythm going, but it only lasted a few minutes and then I spun out or hit the wall. Not hard, but it was not the best showing. She was cracking up laughing and actually fell laughing so hard. I did catch her when she fell and she fell on me, not the ice. She, thought was very good. Aside from that, she was flawless. I was determined to get something down from skating, but it really did not stick. We left after about and hour skating and me falling. She loured me off by french kissing me and so I followed. Took her home, watched a movie, a few kisses good night and I left.

 

She texted me the next morning to see how I was. Said she was concerned, but I was fine.

 

So, did I really look bad by attempting to try something new and actually trying to do it right?

[skydiveaddict]

you did fine

[Stung]

This kind of thing largely depends on how you react to your own performance. If you fall while skating and react badly because you're uptight, defensive, embarrassed, it might bring her opinion of you down a notch because you'd seem insecure and like a poor sport. If you fall and you shrug about how klutzy you are and laugh when she laughs, you seem confident, easygoing, not afraid to try new things, very likeable. If it was me I'd be charmed that you tried to give me an experience you knew I'd enjoy, and that you were open to trying new things. She was laughing and kissing you, you caught her when she fell, she texted you in the morning--those all sound really positive to me. I think you did fine and she had a good time.

 

I also think you're overanalyzing. She likes you. And most people are fully aware that ice skating is freaking hard for beginners.

[hearttobreak]

I wasn't negative or bitter when I fell at all. I was making a joke at it and laughing at the same time. Took in passing. I have no problems laughing at myself when I am funny or a bit clumsy. Don't know though. A couple women I spoke to about it at work reacted differently and said it was a turn off. Then again, they are both single and do not date much. Maybe they were trying to burst my bubble or something.

[Stung]

Possibly they read the situation wrong and assumed it went down differently than it did. Possibly they are kind of bitchy and just letting the wind out of your sails. Possibly they're kind of humorless and it would be a turn-off for them, who knows. They don't speak for all women and neither do I. What we do know is that your girl laughed, fell into your arms, kissed you, spent time after watching a movie, and texted you the next day. Those are not the actions of a woman who is turned-off and growing cold.

 

Stop second-guessing everything, you're undermining your own confidence by questioning everything and letting some busybodies at the office harsh your buzz.

[JohnnyBlaze]

Here's what she read into it:

 

1. You pay attention to what she says.
2. You like her enough that you're willing to try something new, just because she likes doing it.
3. Living life and having fun are more important to you than worrying about looking "cool".
   

 

She laughed, she kissed, she texted. Like SkyDive said, you did fine.

[Rearden Metal]

You did great, man! Sounds like a fun date... I wouldn't worry about it, maybe set up a date doing something you're really good at (billiards, skiing, whatever) and be equally fun and uncaring doing that. Would show her you're just having a good time regardless.