SomewhatExperienced Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 I've worked in a running store for a number of years. I'm an attractive, friendly guy and its not uncommon for customers to flirt with me (and some of the other male staff) and we flirt along. In fact, this is likely the best place to practice socializing with women because I spend SO MUCH face to face time with them (much longer than normal shoe buying if you've ever been "fitted" for shoes, this can take an hour sometimes). But what I was wondering, is oftentimes if the woman is wearing an at all low cut shirt, when she bends over to tie her shoes I've got a birds eye view down her shirt. Are you women at all aware you're giving me a show? Do you think some are doing this to flirt a bit, or just completely oblivious? (Of course, I'm very discreet about looking, but it's hard not too).
alphamale Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Are you women at all aware you're giving me a show? of course they are aware
threebyfate Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Not my style to be an exhibitionist but yes, I strongly believe that the women who do it, know they're doing it. No one could be that stupid and still be able to breathe. So...relax and enjoy the show!
USMCHokie Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 of course they are aware Quoted for truth. That's why women wear thick wool turtleneck sweaters when they're around me.
USMCHokie Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Are you women at all aware you're giving me a show? Do you think some are doing this to flirt a bit, or just completely oblivious? (Of course, I'm very discreet about looking, but it's hard not too). Now that I think about it, I find that I do this myself...but with my rumpus...and I'll give it a little shake for good measure...
wheream_i Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 They know exactly what they are doing and they know that you are looking.
sagetalk Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 As a gentleman, I know I shouldn't say this, but, I kinda like it when they do that .
alphamale Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 guys, chicks know everything that is going on around them...don't be fooled. they have better eyesight, better hearing and better sense of smell
start-fresh Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 guys, chicks know everything that is going on around them...don't be fooled. they have better eyesight, better hearing and better sense of smell not to mention their other intuitions that most of us guys are oblivious about.
meerkat stew Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Yet they pretend not to know so many things that are blatantly obvious.
You'reasian Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 not to mention their other intuitions that most of us guys are oblivious about. A guy with an unusual strong intuition can get a woman feeling him from across the room.
marsle85 Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 guys, chicks know everything that is going on around them...don't be fooled. they have better eyesight, better hearing and better sense of smell hahahahahhaha, you guys are cracking me up. Honest. HONEST. HONEST. truth-- from a girl with a rack... We have no idea. I mean, I can only speak for myself... it's not beyond me to pose myself in a flattering stance, but if anything I feel like it's a little personal to do that kind of bending and showing. This is not to say it's not beyond other women. Cross my heart.
JamesM Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 So when we look, then we give the women what they want...and this gives them power over us. The best response is to noticeably look away or talk with someone else. And yes, I have had the same thing done to me, and I KNOW the woman knows what I can see. I have done both...look away, talk to someone else, and even walk away when I could. While I have looked, it serves me nothing...so why?
Ruby Slippers Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 ^ Yes, I have honestly never given this a second thought, but I am sure I have unintentionally exposed some cleavage in such a situation. And now I think I know why that guy at the shoe store was being SO nice to me a few weeks ago. He brought me about 20 pairs of winter boots, which is about 15 more than I asked to see.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 No one could be that stupid and still be able to breathe. It's a matter not of stupidity, but of naivete. I am 33 years old, and it wasn't until the last few years that I began to make negative assumptions about what men were really thinking, based mostly on conversations I have had with men online and things I have read online that they have written from behind the safe shield of anonymity. For instance, I really, truly thought that it was only the scummiest and shadiest of men who rated women on the 1-10 scale, until I saw at least half of the posters on LS do it. It's been a major (and sometimes heart-breaking) eye-opener for me.
sagetalk Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 The best response is to noticeably look away or talk with someone else. I said above that I like it, but it does really make me uncomfortable. It might be nice on a date with a girl and she does it by accident, but in public with random acquaintances it is very uncomfortable. You really aren't sure if they are seducing you, clueless, or just letting everyone know they are hot.
D-Lish Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 You know what? No, not in my head. I think it's kind of like back-fat. An outfit looks awesome from the front- and because of that, you never bother to turn around to check it out. It's the same thing with a mini- you don't always consider sitting down or bending over. There are two types of women- some that wear what they wear feeding off the consequences- and others that just don't think beyond an upright pose in the mirror. You should be able to tell the difference between the aforementioned two.
sagetalk Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 1. I am 33 years old, and it wasn't until the last few years that I began to make negative assumptions about what men were really thinking, 2. For instance, I really, truly thought that it was only the scummiest and shadiest of men who rated women on the 1-10 scale, until I saw at least half of the posters on LS do it. It's been a major (and sometimes heart-breaking) eye-opener for me. 1. Oh come on, not all of us guys are dirty pervs. Sure if you so show cleavage when you bend over, we might sneak a peek (even if we don't want to and know it's not appropriate), but most guys will still treat you with respect. If they don't, put them in their place and let them know it's not acceptable. Don't become one of those women that thinks all men only care about a women's body and dirty things. 2. I must admit, I've done this in the past, but never with women I was trying to date. If she's a friend or potential girlfriend, I would never attach a number to her. Maybe that's still wrong though .
Johnny M Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 But what I was wondering, is oftentimes if the woman is wearing an at all low cut shirt, when she bends over to tie her shoes I've got a birds eye view down her shirt. Are you women at all aware you're giving me a show? Do you think some are doing this to flirt a bit, or just completely oblivious? (Of course, I'm very discreet about looking, but it's hard not too). Are you really naive enough to believe that they don't know??
USMCHokie Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 I totally believe they know what they're doing and are flirting. I'm sure there are some girls out there who wouldn't really think of that kind of thing as they bend over-but coming from a girl with a pair, it's usually a little tactic we use. Ok...so that being said, do you do it just for a little quick ego boost...? Or is there ever any other ulterior motive?
Ruby Slippers Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 I'm sure there are some girls out there who wouldn't really think of that kind of thing as they bend over-but coming from a girl with a pair, it's usually a little tactic we use. I have a good-sized rack, and I swear I have never once thought about this in this way, unless I was consciously doing something sensual or sexual, like a strip-tease for my man.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Don't become one of those women that thinks all men only care about a women's body and dirty things. I don't think it's dirty that the #1 thing MOST men care about is looks and the external -- it's just a fact. And I was mostly oblivious of this fact till fairly recently. I knew what people said about men, but being a wide-eyed optimist, I insisted upon giving them more credit than that. It has been somewhat life-changing for me to realize that being smart, creative, and conscientious does far less to attract guys than just looking good. 2. I must admit, I've done this in the past, but never with women I was trying to date. If she's a friend or potential girlfriend, I would never attach a number to her. Maybe that's still wrong though . Again, not wrong, just a fact. To me, a sad fact, but a fact nonetheless.
nddb Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 For instance, I really, truly thought that it was only the scummiest and shadiest of men who rated women on the 1-10 scale, until I saw at least half of the posters on LS do it. It's been a major (and sometimes heart-breaking) eye-opener for me. I hate it when guys rate women on a 1-10 scale. It makes no sense. Saying someone's rated a "7" is totally meaningless without specifying whether it's a Seattle 7 or a LA 7. :laugh:
Johnny M Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 There are two types of women- some that wear what they wear feeding off the consequences- and others that just don't think beyond an upright pose in the mirror. Riiiight. Let's imagine the following situation. A guy happens to like wearing his jeans with the fly unzipped. He also prefers going commando. Which one of the following is more likely: A) The guy in question is aware of the fact that his package might at some point pop out and become a public spectacle; or B) He is totally oblivious to the possibility of indecent exposure because he "does not think beyond an upright pose in the mirror" The bottom line is that women wear cleavage-revealing outfits for one reason and one reason only. That reason is attention whoring.
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Chalk me up as a guy who thinks they're probably not aware of it or just don't care. You have to bend down to tie your shoes. Unless you look like an Adonis they see you as a clerk, "the help," and so they just do their thing without thinking or caring about it.
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