Rebound Hype

[PrettyinInk]

I encourange you all to not feed into the hype of terms like "rebound".

I have given it a lot of thought lately, being someone who ended a relationship a few months ago, and this is just not something to be believed in; there are no hard, fast rules for love, if there were then i'm pretty sure we would all have to book by now.

sometimes relationships work out, sometimes they don't. this has no bering on if the person has been single for 15 years or 5 minutes.

love is a chance, it is the most amazing chance you can take, and it doesn't work out everytime, but it sure feels great while it is working out

 

don't let fear get in the way of something that can make you blissfully happy. even if it isn't forever.

[Explorer]

I encourange you all to not feed into the hype of terms like "rebound".

I have given it a lot of thought lately, being someone who ended a relationship a few months ago, and this is just not something to be believed in; there are no hard, fast rules for love, if there were then i'm pretty sure we would all have to book by now.

sometimes relationships work out, sometimes they don't. this has no bering on if the person has been single for 15 years or 5 minutes.

love is a chance, it is the most amazing chance you can take, and it doesn't work out everytime, but it sure feels great while it is working out

 

don't let fear get in the way of something that can make you blissfully happy. even if it isn't forever.

 

Rebound is usually defined by someone who looks desperately to fill an emotional void through a partner immediately after a failed relationship. And that's not healthy.

[PrettyinInk]

Rebound is usually defined by someone who looks desperately to fill an emotional void through a partner immediately after a failed relationship. And that's not healthy.

 

 

That is an idiom brought on by people who are looking for a reason as to why something does not work out. The word "rebound" has many definitions, but it has nothing to do with relationships.

 

Although i do understand what you are saying, and agree that it is not healthy, the point is that people should not fear that something might be a rebound, it is a frivolous concern.

[livinlovin]

I've got to disagree. I understand what you're saying, as it is completely possible for someone to have fairly recently gotten out of a relationship and be ready for a new one. Especially if you were the one who wanted the break up. But, for me, rebound means that the person is using someone else to help fill a void and make them feel better. That is not good for either person. And, because the person never worked through their feelings or issues concerning the previous relationship or break up, there is a high possibility that those issues will rear their head later on. Not good.

 

I know that when I got divorced, I could have easily jumped into a new relationship. It would have certainly helped me to get over the big D. But, it wouldn't have been fair to the new person, as I'd essentially just be using them to get over someone else. Since I wasn't a healed and whole person yet, eventually my issues from the D would have to bubble up.

 

You've got to heal sometime from a breakup. It seems unfair to do it while you're involved with someone else. Just my opinion.

[USMCHokie]

That is an idiom brought on by people who are looking for a reason as to why something does not work out. The word "rebound" has many definitions, but it has nothing to do with relationships.

 

 

 

Ironically, your viewpoint is probably one that is shared by those who often rebound and don't want to feel like they are inferior people for engaging in rebound relationships. Therefore, they discount the entire idea in order to save their own ass.

 

Rebounding is a term commonly associated with one entering into a relationship with the subconscious purpose of filling a void that was left behind by the ex from the broken relationship. Often the rebounder is unaware that their newfound feelings for another are not driven by a genuine interest in that person, but the feeling of attention and affection that they lost due to the breakup.

 

But to each their own. For every one of you that thinks that rebounding is not a valid relationship idea, there will be a hundred that recognize its legitimacy.

[bananaboat11]

A plausible, valid argument... however wrong. The denoted 'Rebound Relationship' is a unity among two individuals where one is 'weak', a form of impotence and lacking any sort of bond to another individual at that place and time. The other partner is the rebounder coming off a 'broken' former relationship where the rebounding party was unable to satisfy their needs in said former relationship. Thus seeking out a comfort in the weaker individual as to effectuate an unsatisfying void that dwells deep within their heart.

 

The sad thing is, the rebounder may not realize this void exists until it's too late. However, it is very possible for a rebound relationship to work out although not as common.

 

Rebounders tend to force the relationship as best they can to seek satisfaction in which was lacking previously... and once they evoke a response, may find comfort within again and proceed to walk on their own two feet again... leaving the weak partner behind in the dust, to wipe the muck from his/her face and stand again to be a better person that what came before.

 

Whether we like to admit it or not, we all rebound to some extent...

 

(****, there goes my acclaimed hiatus. damn it.)

[sagetalk]

Ironically, your viewpoint is probably one that is shared by those who often rebound and don't want to feel like they are inferior people for engaging in rebound relationships. Therefore, they discount the entire idea in order to save their own ass.

 

Well said, you saved me from typing it.

 

To the original poster, I hope this is just a temporary decision that you have made, and does not occur frequently in your life. Rebound relationships are dangerous and are founded on avoiding loneliness rather than passion and desire for the other person. It is a dangerous situation and should not be treated lightly.

[threebyfate]

Rebounders aren't just filling voids, they falsely reattach their emotions from the original partner, onto the rebound partner. It's false since it's a false sense of intimacy with a partner they don't know or realistically, don't care to know, since they've imbued them with the ex's attributes, recreating a false relationship.

 

Now if you're comfortable with hurting other people and selfish enough to trivialize other people's pain, then sure, you're going to believe that rebounding is a frivolous term.

[USMCHokie]

Rebounders aren't just filling voids, they falsely reattach their emotions from the original partner, onto the rebound partner. It's false since it's a false sense of intimacy with a partner they don't know or realistically, don't care to know, since they've imbued them with the ex's attributes, recreating a false relationship.

 

 

Hmmm, this is an OUTSTANDING point...I had never realized it from this point of view...thanks for the insight...