paleblue Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Soooo after blowing each other off since September, and playing peek-a-boo games at the office the whole time, had a talk with my ex gf yesterday, the one I work with that I have/had been pining over. We broke the ice and talked about what we have been doing, I told her I have been dating, she told me she just started seeing someone in January who is long distance, an hour and a half away, that she used to know 18 years ago or something. She said its been going slow due to the distance and that “ we don’t see each other all that much”. She seemed pretty interested catching up and chatting with me – like more than I anticipated. So I said cool, and I said I don’t know how you feel about calling each other or getting together here and there, but now that we are dating others it shouldn’t be a big deal. If you are just hanging out and want some company in between your guy and my girl, than maybe we could. Much to my surprise she said “I am good with it as long as you are. and like you said it would be here and there, because of normal life and obviously my travels here and there. but I would like to be your friend.” I said I was good with that and further stated “I would be interested in doing more things like we used too, text, calling each other, hang out on the weekends here and there, again, obviously if you or I are on a date, cant, but other than that its cool. and perhaps eventually we can start chilling at the house again. if things work out you can have your own key and just go there whenever you want to hang out. Much to my surprise again, Her reply “good! yeah I would like that too.. lets see what we can do. I would be interested. will chat tomorrow” Sooo we chatted a little today, will again tomorrow. It seems like the broke the ice alright. Soooo, opinions? I could just be a back up plan. But we are under the guise of friends so its not really a back up plan anymore? and i am dating. I am also wondering, how happy can she be in her long distance thing, if she is interested in hanging out with me? i would not think that someone would be wanting to hang out with their ex if they were happy with someone else? I have been in a long distance relationship, it gets old. and she has to do all the driving to go see him, he cant come here. she also has a young daughter at home. I would like to spend some more time with her and get some booty. She must know that is what i want. I was a total horn dog with her when we were together. i also just got done telling her a few months ago i want her body. I think for know I will just give it space and continue acting un-caring towards her as I have been and see what happens. i will not make the mistake again of looking avilable or concerned about her. I will also continue to go on my dates, as I don’t think my life should stop with that, at least right now.
Author paleblue Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 i don tknow. just seeing if i am way off here with my thoughts. maybe some others are dealing with the same thing and i would be interested hearing about their experiences as well.
paperchase Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Honestly, it sounds from the correspondence like you pushed the envelope a bit. She used the friend word and you talked about doing stuff like old time. She basically said we'll see and then ended the conversation. You are essentially chasing her when she needs to be chasing you for a second chance to have a remote chance of working.
Author paleblue Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 (edited) i didnt think about it that way. you are right. thanks for helping me keep my head. i dont get why i have problems recognizing things like this. Edited March 2, 2010 by paleblue
TaraMaiden Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 It's what's known as the "Wood-for-the-trees" syndrome. Funnily enough, I would put forward the theory that virtually every first post is subject to this condition.... Good luck....
Author paleblue Posted March 3, 2010 Author Posted March 3, 2010 thanks on the good luck. desire keeps clouding my judgment. i have to remember that. it is a difficult thing to put it aside.
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