dark1san Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Women are sneakier than men, when it comes to what they want by their intentions. I think she was right in this, and if so have I ever got a problem on my hand then with a friend of mine.
hats Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 This is absolutely true, although I'm sure they'd prefer to call it "subtlety".
carhill Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I would say, generally, yes. They are experts at covert manipulation, guile and deceit. Also quite adept at rallying societal/peer opinion to their agenda. Mind-f*cking can be a hobby. Now, spill the beans about the friend
nddb Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 statements that lump all people of a group (or sex) tend to be untrue. There are gullible people and deceitful people from all sexes and cultures.
sagetalk Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I would say this is true. Finding women that just come right out and say whats really going on is a rare find.
Author dark1san Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 about the friend, so I was hold up in the hospital for like 6 days, and I've known her since she was 5 years old and I was 8, me and her brother were best friends. so basically I grew up with their family. one day I decided to be ballsy and ask her out, and she said she couldn't because she thought of me as a brother, I got real embarrassed and disappeared for a few years. we reconnected through facebook and all, and while I was in the hospital was explaining what happened and that I was sorry for disappearing, to which she replied that I hurt her real bad leaving her like that, but she was happy I was back in her life this and that, so she asked me yesterday if I got out yet, and I told her yeah I did, and she was like, well I'll be over to visit you sometime this week then. I just feel it's kinda shady, I mean she could be just being friendly, but she does know I'm taken, and she is single and has been feeling real lonely lately. so I'm just in my head thinking, please don't try anything if you come over, please don't.
silic0ntoad Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I think you're afraid because you know you'll do whatever she asks if she does show up, regardless of the current fiancee, am I right? And, I prefer neither subtelty or sneaky. I call it Nefarious.
carhill Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 she replied that I hurt her real bad leaving her like that, but she was happy I was back in her life this and that, so she asked me yesterday if I got out yet, and I told her yeah I did, and she was like, well I'll be over to visit you sometime this week then. Nice mind-f*ck, which a Cheer's Effect twist. I give it a B+ Reality: You asked her out, she said the absolute worst thing that a woman can say to a man who finds her attractive and then rationalizes it away as 'you hurt her by disappearing'. Masterful. My stbx was that good. She could make me feel bad about giving her head or flowers. I would say that disappearing again would be a quite healthy thing. Don't f*ck up a good thing with your fiance by peering down this rabbit hole. Don't. Thanks
silic0ntoad Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Nice mind-f*ck, which a Cheer's Effect twist. I give it a B+ Reality: You asked her out, she said the absolute worst thing that a woman can say to a man who finds her attractive and then rationalizes it away as 'you hurt her by disappearing'. Masterful. My stbx was that good. She could make me feel bad about giving her head or flowers. I would say that disappearing again would be a quite healthy thing. Don't f*ck up a good thing with your fiance by peering down this rabbit hole. Don't. Thanks +1. Nefarious. Don't screw everything up!
Author dark1san Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 oh I'm not going to, I love my fiance, my relationship with her is the best one I've ever been in, and I would never want to screw it up, she's been here by my side through all I've gone through, and I've been by her side through things she's dealt with too. I'd hate to do something stupid and hurt her bad, and better to not put yourself in that position, than to do so.
carhill Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 OK, then, decline former 'sister' 's kind interest in visiting. No good can come of that. None.
Author dark1san Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 thankfully I have better self control in this, than I do with my diabetes, and haven't accepted her "visit" invitation
hats Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Wow, it's a pretty big jump from saying women can be sneakier than men, to automatically assuming your friend wants to visit you to homewreck you.
carhill Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 but she does know I'm taken, and she is single and has been feeling real lonely lately. Simple dynamic. Guy used to have hots for her. She shot him down. He disappeared. She reappeared. She knows he's 'taken'. She's single, 'lonely' (he likely didn't make that up), and wants to visit. She's stroking that old wing wang expertly, bringing back those old long-dormant desires with words, all the while titillating with 'oh, I'm so single and lonely'. Fill me up baby. It's so obvious it's laughable. If he had truly been a 'brother' who did no wrong other than asking her out, she'd have been in touch all these years and, moveover, would have been excited to meet his fiance. Didn't read much about that part, did we? Ha, ha.
hats Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 But there's nothing that indicates that she's interested in him that way. They used to be friends, she shot him down because she wanted to be just friends, and now he's suspicious of her for being... friendly? As I read it he's the one who cut contact with her.
Author dark1san Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 Carhill, I never looked at it in that sense either, she not one time brought up hey how bout we all three get together and grab some food or something so I get to meet your fiance, she was all like, I can come over sometime later this week to visit, not once me offering up that invitation, I was just being courteous to those who were keeping tabs on me, that I was home from the hospital.
marsle85 Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 As a female I'll reveal this life truth: Men are the head of the operation... women are the neck.
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