mizundastud Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Since me and my ex havent been together for over a year it seems time has answered my question of will we get back together. However since this year has been on and off NC Im confused. I just wanna call and say " Look do you want to be with me or not?" Because he tells me he still loves me, so if this is true why is he not trying to work it out? I just feel like this relationship has a comma instead of a period and I need closure. On the other hand I dont want to call because I feel like he should be persuing me and I dont want to be rejected. I dont know....Im just confused.
GrayClouds Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Since me and my ex havent been together for over a year it seems time has answered my question I just wanna call and say " Look do you want to be with me or not?" Because he tells me he still loves me, so if this is true why is he not trying to work it out? I just feel like this relationship has a comma instead of a period and I need closure. On the other hand I dont want to call because I feel like he should be persuing me and I dont want to be rejected. I dont know....Im just confused. mizundastud you already know the answer, you even stated it, it is just you do not want to accept. To get the closure you want means accpeting the truth of the matter, the realtionship with him is over. Nothing he will or day will change your mind until your ready to let it go. Closure comes from within. Your still hoping and that hope is keeping you stuck, it is keeping that opening. Close it by saying "It is time for me to get on with mylife with out him." This mean going NC for real and figuring out how to make yourself happy, proud, and self sufficient.
Author mizundastud Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 Im trying somedays I feel like I accepted whats happenend and Im ready to move on and other days I feel like its not over. Im on an emotional rollercoaster.
GrayClouds Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Im trying somedays I feel like I accepted whats happenend and Im ready to move on and other days I feel like its not over. Im on an emotional rollercoaster. But what are you doing to help you move on?
Author mizundastud Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 My life is a mess right now Im just tryna get it back in order. When I was with him he supported me and I've been living off of saved funds since the breakup so now Im looking for employment. I've set goals for myself that Im working towards. Im trying desperately to cut him from my life but its hard we've been together since 05 and this is the first time it seems it maybe really over. Its like learning how to do everything with one hand after you been using two for so long.
GrayClouds Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 (edited) My life is a mess right now Im just tryna get it back in order. When I was with him he supported me and I've been living off of saved funds since the breakup so now Im looking for employment. I've set goals for myself that Im working towards. Im trying desperately to cut him from my life but its hard we've been together since 05 and this is the first time it seems it maybe really over. Its like learning how to do everything with one hand after you been using two for so long. Are you exercising? Eating well? Teaching yourself anything new? Spending time with friends and family? Ps I am really sorry miz, it is over. But you will be ok. Edited March 2, 2010 by GrayClouds
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