Chrome Barracuda Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I'm 29, she's 23. She used to be married, divorcing and single now, her ex cheated on her, she's a single mom, very sweet got a good head on her shoulders. We met because we work in the same area and we flirt and I call her Ninja boots. She's a very beautiful woman. I try not to notice but she is a damn dime piece that is unmistakeable. lol. One night we hop on the bus home and we have this mindblowing convo, we laugh we , we laugh, she's laughing at my jokes, im laughing with her at hers. There is good chemistry. I havent felt like that in a long time. It's hard because not alot of females I even care for because i got this damn wall up. I can approach a female with the mindset of just sex, because i dont trust females easily. I get home and im thinking about her...alot. I just been rejected for a long time so I got this wall up. So when it comes to women. If im even heading to the friendzone I dont deal with it well. because i dont play games. I'm too old for that crap! lol. I just dont open myself up for any female for me to be stabbed in the back again, so that's why im hemming and hawing all over the place. I want to kiss her on those brown lips and look into her brown eyes! goddamn. I dont know why im thinking about her alot i just am? WTF am I going to do. If i stay silent and not say anything, she'll be with the next dude, If i make a move and let her know im feeling her, she may put me into a friend zone. WTF do I do this time. lol.
marsle85 Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Wait... let me understand the ultimatum? If you stay silent- she'll be with the next guy... (and you're still friends)--- or you say something, and you risk... still being friends. No matter what you're friends or better! Go for the risk!
Author Chrome Barracuda Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 Wait... let me understand the ultimatum? If you stay silent- she'll be with the next guy... (and you're still friends)--- or you say something, and you risk... still being friends. No matter what you're friends or better! Go for the risk! Go for the risk i got nothing to loose... lol. We just started talking kicking it. I mean isnt it too soon to just spring it on her. Arent you supposed to let things naturally evolve??? I want to, I really do. but damn this hesitation is killing me.
DustySaltus Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Chrome, once I saw a girl on the subway who was the most beautiful girl you could ever imagine. Everyday I told myself that I would say something to her but never did. Then finally one day a few months later I decided that TODAY WAS THE DAY! Sure enough, she wasn't traveling by herself anymore if you know what I mean. I told myself that I would never put myself in that situation again. That led to a bunch of other fun scenarios down the line but that;s besides the point. GO FOR IT! We don't often meet these girls who bring our walls down. I know all about that wall. It takes a special person to bring that wall down. Hey, no guts no glory right?
Author Chrome Barracuda Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 Chrome, once I saw a girl on the subway who was the most beautiful girl you could ever imagine. Everyday I told myself that I would say something to her but never did. Then finally one day a few months later I decided that TODAY WAS THE DAY! Sure enough, she wasn't traveling by herself anymore if you know what I mean. I told myself that I would never put myself in that situation again. That led to a bunch of other fun scenarios down the line but that;s besides the point. GO FOR IT! We don't often meet these girls who bring our walls down. I know all about that wall. It takes a special person to bring that wall down. Hey, no guts no glory right? So what happened?! did you get them digits or what? lmao. I know i need to holla at her, but damn, this other cat is talking to her too. im real hesitant to do anything to get in the middle or cause turmoil. Damn right person, wrong time i guess.
DustySaltus Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 So what happened?! did you get them digits or what? lmao. I know i need to holla at her, but damn, this other cat is talking to her too. im real hesitant to do anything to get in the middle or cause turmoil. Damn right person, wrong time i guess. Nope, I never got them at all and it started a domino effect that you only hear about in the movies lol. Who is the other dude? I thought he was out of the picture.
Author Chrome Barracuda Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 Nope, I never got them at all and it started a domino effect that you only hear about in the movies lol. Who is the other dude? I thought he was out of the picture. Nah, it's someone who's talking to her... I dont wanna make a move and i get turned down. lol....again. But i thnk i need to let this play out.
DustySaltus Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Nah, it's someone who's talking to her... I dont wanna make a move and i get turned down. lol....again. But i thnk i need to let this play out. Well, don't wait too long...you might "miss the bus". But in all seriousness she sounds like she's probably going through a lot so it's better to sit back for a LITTLE and let her open herseld up again. Yeah, she might be talking to someone but her head might not be completely there yet. Better to wait and get her at 100% then now at 50%.....
bac Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 You should not be afraid of her. She is very young and she is confused about men, life, sex and everything even more than you. She probably does not know what she wants. She is already in a diffucult situation because she is a single mother. It is irrational to be afraid of someone like that. She probably wants you to take initiative because you are older and you are a man. All you need to do is to say the right thing at the right time. The right thing for your situation may be to ask her go out or smth else. The only way to figure out what is right to do is to try to talk with her about her. It is the most important that you talk with her about her to get the information that you need. ask her phone# as a friend, ask her if she has a bf, call her, ask her questions, show interest. Perhaps, the right thing may be go for a walk to the park with her and her kid. Perhaps, she needs some help or advice because all women crave for help, advice and a man who wants to listen about their problems. As for friends zone, if you show that you are a real friend and you are always there for her, she may sleep with you soon. Often if a girl wants to be a friend of a man, she likes him. The worst thing that might happen is that she rejects you for some reason which has nothing to do with you. If she rejects you right away, it has nothing to do with you because she even does not know you. She does not know your personality, any of your qualities, and your sexual abilities. You also do not know anything about her, except that she is hot and friendly. Why do you assume that she is wonderful? It is just your fantasy. In reality, you might get to know her better or have sex with her and then you might realize that you do not want her at all.
Author Chrome Barracuda Posted March 3, 2010 Author Posted March 3, 2010 Whoa, Whoa, Whoa, bac I'm not afraid of her. I'm just saying i dont want it to go sideways period. You know you confess your feelings, the old saying i only see you as my friend. I hate that line. I wanna be a shoe in. We'll see what happens. I'm gonna kick it to her and see what develops but im gonna be easy no jumping into anything or revealing my feelings. I just got a huge crush on her, that's all. I know she's young and still growing, WE all are in life. No one that gets put in the friend zone comes out into the game ready to play. Once your in the minors you stay there. that has always been the case most of the time.
lino Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 I was in a similar situation myself not long ago so I can relate. You just have to go for it mate, thinking things through all the time and seeing the girl regularly is just torture! I went for it but it didn't work out well for me. Hopefully you have more luck No one that gets put in the friend zone comes out into the game ready to play. Once your in the minors you stay there. that has always been the case most of the time. Agree!
bac Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Whoa, Whoa, Whoa, bac I'm not afraid of her. I'm just saying i dont want it to go sideways period. You know you confess your feelings, the old saying i only see you as my friend. I hate that line. I wanna be a shoe in. We'll see what happens. I'm gonna kick it to her and see what develops but im gonna be easy no jumping into anything or revealing my feelings. I just got a huge crush on her, that's all. I know she's young and still growing, WE all are in life. No one that gets put in the friend zone comes out into the game ready to play. Once your in the minors you stay there. that has always been the case most of the time. If you ask her out, ask her phone# or even have sex with her, it does not mean that you confess your feelings. All those things including hot sex have nothing to do with presence of feelings for most of men. I personally put a guy in the friend zone and I told him that there was no hope for him for a serious relationship. But the guy has showed a great potential for emotional connection and he was available for me all the time. I could call him at 4 am and he would be happy to help me. After that, I really know him as a person and I have sex with him as well.
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