Valeriaa Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 First of all, English is not my mother lenguage, so I'm sorry for any spelling problems... I was with my ex for 8 months, the first 6 months were great, we were really happy with each other, we always had fun, we lived a lot of things together...but at the 7th month he wanted to end things because he felt that we weren't meant to be (we never split up, he called it off because he didn't want to be without me)...then, at the 8th month he tried to brake up again, but we didn't because he said he didn't want to lose me because I was the BEST thing that ever happened to him...he said I was so perfect that he couldn't stand any flaws... Anyway, one week after that I said that I couldn't stand it anymore, that I couldn't be with someone that tried to break it off for any little thing that went wrong...he didn't said anything, just stood there crying...so I left his house... 2 days later, I called him to see if we could talk thing out, if he missed me and if he loved me...he said something like "I miss you but I'm bot sure if I love you...I don't think we'll get back together..." I was devastated, I couldn't stop crying...(this was on the 13th of this month), on the 15th I send him a SMS saying I loved him and I really missed him, he replied the same "I need to be alone but I don't want to forget you..." I decided to give him some time alone...on the 21th I asked him if we could meet to talk...he said yes...basically what he said on that day was : That he was ALMOST sure that he didn't loved me because when I left him he didn't came after me, he said he missed me but he didn't want to be with me, that we had a lot of problems when we weren't together and he didn't know what to do on those situations, that he wanted to be alone but he didn't want to forget me, I told him to please tell me that he didn't love me because I needed to move on, but he said that what he felt wasn't relevant here but anyway he said I DON'T LOVE YOU...then we kissed (his heart was pounding really hard then..) and we hugged...and said goodbye. After that, I had him on facebook...but yesterday I deleted him because I want to go with NC. I don't know, I really miss him, I don't know what happened with him! It's like he never loved me, it's like everything he said to me was a lie! On the 25th of March is my birthday...do you think he will write me?... I'm moving on, I met a guy that's really sweet with me, but I can't stop thinking about him...I really want him to contact me someday, maybe months from now... Thanks for reading me
USMCHokie Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Anyway, one week after that I said that I couldn't stand it anymore, that I couldn't be with someone that tried to break it off for any little thing that went wrong Take this as a learning experience. Don't mention breaks or breaking up unless you are 100% prepared to lose your partner forever. You did this and have to live with the consequences. How does he know that you won't leave again? He's just protecting himself. And it also seems that he's a bit emotionally unstable if he uses the breakup tactic every time something doesn't go his way...not a good candidate for a life partner, if you ask me. As far as the new guy, tread carefully...either take it REEEEALLY slow, or just let new guy go and wait until your mind is clear of your ex and ready to date new people...
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