Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 And PLEEEEEASE don't tell me "join activities/clubs/whatever" I've explained before that's not an option around here where I live. Just please tell me, what are some ways I can start a conversation with a girl who's pretty who's randomly walking around, doing her thing and who I want to get to know? And I don't mean generic suggestions; what is the first thing I should say to her? What should I ask or say after wards? What should we talk about? For how long? Literally tell me what specific things to say. What can I say to get her to see me as a unique and ambitious and caring guy? What can I do so she doesn't get wierded out and walk away? And please don't say "There are no magic words," or "It won't work," because if there weren't or if it won't, then there wouldn't be any harm in suggesting them, would there? I'm being dead-serious. DO NOT POST if you're just intending to criticize or nay-say.
dunno_what_i_want Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 What will probably work best is if you observe where exactly you're randomly walking around and pick something to talk about from there. For example (it may be a lame one), if she's window shopping, you could ask her what she's looking for, give her a few pointers if you can, be honest if you have no idea what it is... I would refrain from the cheesy pick-up lines. Hope this helps.
marsle85 Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Comment on anything you like about her. Stay away from personal comments: "you're beautiful," "you have great eyes," etc. Women from the beginning learn to steer away from immediate flattery because it typically originates from creepers. Instead, mention a book she's reading, a piece of jewelry she has on, the location you're at, ask her to use her phone, for her opinion, etc. You can excuse the discussion based on the pure fact that you're not talking to her to talk to her, you're talking to her to talk about "it". Then, from there- after posing questions and guaging her vibe towards you, you can warm up to more personal questions. EX: Sitting on the bus you notice a woman sitting next to you that you find attractive. She takes out her house keys and you notice she has a library card keychain on it. you: "Oh man, i've been trying to rent "Plato's Republic" for the last two weeks. " Point to her keychain, "you're not the one who won't return it, are you!?" Your comment is playful and fun- and you interest is seemingly based on the book, not her. her: Probably laughs, "No, I've never read that. So you go to this or that library too?" you: blahblahblah... talk about books, talk about the library, talk about a bad librarian experience, who cares. As long as it's friendly. Then, after she's not threatened and considers you interesting, throw something like this in: "Well, I've never been a book club kinda guy, but i'd like to know what you think of this or that book... Can I get your number?" May not work, but if she declines you -it's not outright and it's not because you wanted in her pants and she freaked out. She may simply not be intersted, etc. but probably will give you her number anyway, under the pretense that maybe you do just wanna talk books. Act cool, collected, respectable and like your intentions AREN'T to get her number at first.
hats Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 There's actually a bunch of videos on youtube of guys video taping themselves doing what you want to do. Here's one. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZnxpPD07cgE
Green Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 It all stems from confidence. Do what you need to so you become confident. Work out, get a good job, do what you want in life. Once you are confident the rest is easy. I can't give you a preset line. You will come off as fake. Women love genuine, confident men. The first step is actualy going up to a girl and saying something. Don't expect anything from what you do. If a girl is nasty with you and walks away... just don't care. Don't go up to girl feeling entitled she smile and laugh or what ever. If I was single and I saw a pretty girl in line or shopping at the mall or what ever. I would probably smile at her, maybe she would smile back. I might open her by talking about myself like why I'm at the mall "I'm here buying new shoes" or what ever... If a girl is attracted to you she will make it easy if you are confident... then you flirt... you know some silly pointless talk that is fun. Finaly you just ask the girl out... and she will give you her number. You don't have to say "will you go out on a date with me" you can just say " you need to hang out with me some time" if she says yes the just pull out your phone and either have her put in her number or you put it in. Then call her right away and say "now you have my number too" that way she will pick up when you call. Once you are confident it all becomes easy. If you see a girl you like, you will just go up and talk to her. You won't be afraid of saying the wrong thing or being rejected. Rejection happens, its your job as the man to face rejection in the begining and get things going.
ADF Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 1) Be extremely good looking. 2) Be sure she is drunk. 3) Make sure you are in a venue--bar, club, party--where hitting on a random woman is acceptable. 4) Thicken your skin; you'll face a lot of rejection. Good luck.
Green Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 1) Be extremely good looking. 2) Be sure she is drunk. 3) Make sure you are in a venue--bar, club, party--where hitting on a random woman is acceptable. 4) Thicken your skin; you'll face a lot of rejection. Good luck. venue is important... but a girl is less likely going to want to push foward with a guy she met while drinking.... then say a guy she met at the park or beach ect. Meeting a girl while dancing is kind of fun though. So I completly agree with your 1&4 2 is wrong... get a girl buzzed but never drunk..... 3 parties are great.... but bars and clubs kinda suck except for dancing.
alphamale Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 "hi, my name is Don'tWannabeAWannabe, whats yours?"
Explorer Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 There's actually a bunch of videos on youtube of guys video taping themselves doing what you want to do. Here's one. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZnxpPD07cgE This guy would have yielded the same results if he would of used alphamale's above method.
hats Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 This guy would have yielded the same results if he would of used alphamale's above method. It seemed like OP wanted an example of how to hold a conversation, not just introduce himself.
bananaboat11 Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 I didn't read any of the replies yet... ...but why don't you begin with introducing yourself? "Hi, I'm OP. I couldn't help but notice that I noticed that you noticed that I was noticing you notice me because I want to let you know that I was noticing you too"
alphamale Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 It seemed like OP wanted an example of how to hold a conversation, not just introduce himself. you can't teach others how to hold conversations...you have to learn that yourself
You'reasian Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 And PLEEEEEASE don't tell me "join activities/clubs/whatever" I've explained before that's not an option around here where I live. Just please tell me, what are some ways I can start a conversation with a girl who's pretty who's randomly walking around, doing her thing and who I want to get to know? And I don't mean generic suggestions; what is the first thing I should say to her? What should I ask or say after wards? What should we talk about? For how long? Literally tell me what specific things to say. What can I say to get her to see me as a unique and ambitious and caring guy? What can I do so she doesn't get wierded out and walk away? And please don't say "There are no magic words," or "It won't work," because if there weren't or if it won't, then there wouldn't be any harm in suggesting them, would there? I'm being dead-serious. DO NOT POST if you're just intending to criticize or nay-say. You're asking us how to pick up a woman? I don't pick up women, sorry - can't help you.
Odyssey Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 "Hi, I'm OP. I couldn't help but notice that I noticed that you noticed that I was noticing you notice me because I want to let you know that I was noticing you too"lol. funny intro. there BB. ...that would work on me! ("last post" huh? you couldn't stay away right?) My advice OP? Humour. Always breaks through the tension.
bananaboat11 Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 lol. funny intro. there BB. ...that would work on me! ("last post" huh? you couldn't stay away right?) My advice OP? Humour. Always breaks through the tension. i know... FML. I broke the hiatus... lasted 2 hours, hm... i'm addicted to helping people and criticizing lunacy
meerkat stew Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Carry two pairs of sunglasses, one normal like any guy would wear, and one completely garish like something Elton John would wear. Walk up and ask, "Excuse me, which one of these sunglasses looks better on me?" as you switch them back and forth. Start with the normal ones of course. Follow up with "why do you think so?" as you leave the ridiculous ones on.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Carry two pairs of sunglasses, one normal like any guy would wear, and one completely garish like something Elton John would wear. Walk up and ask, "Excuse me, which one of these sunglasses looks better on me?" as you switch them back and forth. Start with the normal ones of course. Follow up with "why do you think so?" as you leave the ridiculous ones on. Yeah, this would work on me. But I am a little weird.
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