6 months since breakup

[McGrupp]

just noticed this. so weird how time flies...

 

 

in a much better place then here:

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t207664/

Edited March 2, 2010 by McGrupp

[USMCHokie]

just noticed this. so weird how time flies...

 

 

Yep, crazy, isn't it...?

 

 

Good to hear you're doing better.

[McGrupp]

thanks man. wouldnt be here without people like you and all my LS friends.

 

just look at all the love in that post from when i was thinking about ending it.

[Odyssey]

lol. It took plenty of LS ass-kickin' before that reality check kicked in for ya. I'm glad that pity-party is over...its great to hear you're doing well now.

[jlr]

Glad you're still with us McGrupp. And glad I am too. I got pretty bad there for a while too. It was scary.

[Odyssey]

jlr... well it didn't help with all those calls/text from ex either. right? And... the booze. You guys are in a good place now. Don't look back.

[McGrupp]

i think for me i needed a chnage in lifestyle. a lot of the depression came from suddenly coming back to my hometown/job lifestyle that i had left behind when i went and lived with her.

 

not that anything huge has happened but the little steps help you to move on and time and of course NC.

 

in that thread there is an email she sent me, the last, which i posted. at the time i was like looking at the email for hopes and in between each word for a sign, also for LS'ers input.

 

at the time i think i responded with i hope for you the best blah blah blah.

 

now (and not sure if this would be the anger stage lingering) i would say..."SERIOUSLY? STOP FILLING MY INBOX WITH THIS TRITE ****. YOUR JUST TRYING TO APPEASE YOUR ****ING GUILT. I DONT CARE HOW HARD THIS WAS/IS FOR YOU. WHY DONT YOU JUST TYPE "I WANT TO **** OTHER DUDES"

 

WE HAD SUCH GOOD TIMES? SERIOUSLY I DONT GIVE A **** ANYMORE. GO FALL DOWN SOME STEPS AND EAT A LEMON YOU TRAMP!"

 

although i would hope i would just be NC...

 

hahaha that felt good. what a wimp i was..

[McGrupp]

btw a sign the lease for my new place at 5pm tonight.

 

ironic? coincidental?

 

cool as balls? who knows...

[Rearden Metal]

Hey man I just read that whooooooole old thread. Thanks for the update and good on you for snapping out of it. Be well...

[jlr]

Odyssey -

 

Yeah, the calls/emails/contact with her just made it all much worse.

And there was a period where I was thinking bad thoughts about death, and a very brief spell where I was drinking to numb myself. Luckily I snapped out of both of them.

 

While I still have rough days, I'm much better at dealing with them in healthy ways.

[alphamale]

aw there there mcgrupp *pats on back*

[DenverBachelor]

McGrupp,

 

I got a red pill and a blue pill for you. Take the blue pill, wake up, remember nothing -- go to work. Take the red pill -- and I show you how deep the rabbit hole gets.

 

(offers pills)

[McGrupp]

maybe i should move out to denver/boulder area.

 

i heard it is the tits...

[McGrupp]

i think a huge thing is to reframe your victim mentality.

 

we can walk around and hold on to this story as the abandoned victim or we can look at it, realize this breakup doesnt define us anymore than our car/job/clothes/whatever

 

 

too often we hold onto the story, use it for an excuse to not move forward in life, and play the victim.

 

its a good way for your life to not go anywhere and probably the reason they left you in the first place.

[Rearden Metal]

its a good way for your life to not go anywhere and probably the reason they left you in the first place.

 

Super Effin true, my man!

[mickleb]

thanks man. wouldnt be here without people like you and all my LS friends.

 

just look at all the love in that post from when i was thinking about ending it.

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ouf-_IA6gR8&feature=related

 

 

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