MalachiX Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 PJKino, if you think it's so hopeless that you'll get laid then why not start approaching sex/romance like you've got nothing to lose? Take some crazy risks. Ask out women even if you think they'll say no. As out chicks who aren't your type just to get comfortable dating. Go to clubs and try to meet people. I don't know if any of this will work but, if nothing else, it'll probably lead to some kind of interesting adventures or antidotes to tell your friends about. Once again, you've got nothing to lose so why not take some risks?
sweetjasmine Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 You should never wear a condom during a bj and expect either the girl or guy to enjoy it. Have fun with your STDs.
PJKino Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 PJKino, if you think it's so hopeless that you'll get laid then why not start approaching sex/romance like you've got nothing to lose? Take some crazy risks. Ask out women even if you think they'll say no. As out chicks who aren't your type just to get comfortable dating. Go to clubs and try to meet people. I don't know if any of this will work but, if nothing else, it'll probably lead to some kind of interesting adventures or antidotes to tell your friends about. Once again, you've got nothing to lose so why not take some risks? Fair point..I just hate being rejected and feel like if i go to a bar or club and get rejected the womens gonna go back to her friends and say some unattractive guy came and hit on em and laugh..
purgatori Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 I'm a 28 year old virgin and it's not really the status of 'virgin' that bothers me so much as the fact that I've yet to have the experience of being emotionally intimate with a woman. This whole cavalier attitude to sex, and advice about 'getting a bj' and not attempting 'doggy style the first time' does not resonate with me at all, because I do not regard sex as the ultimate goal; I'd be perfectly happy being with a girl who never wanted to engage in sexual intercourse. That's why I don't feel much solidarity or sympathy with other 'male virgins', or those who have magaged to 'break the drought.'
Author Green Posted March 3, 2010 Author Posted March 3, 2010 Rarely ask women out figure their gonna say no..Ive heard what some people say behind my back about the way i look..Never have had a women express interest in me never had a friend Man or women try to hook me up..I can see the writing on the wall with all that that im not desirable to women.. My bodys ok..Havent worked out in a few months but im not in awful shape..Im 5'8 170 My careers ehh..Make decent money not crazy about my job like allot of people.. Women are going to say no. Do you have any idea how much some women get asked out. They can't just be saying yes to every one. I have had many girls say no, and or call me a creep in my life. I've actually ended up making out with some of these girls who orignally said no and called me a creep. Be confident, don't be scared of some girl saying no and calling you anoying. Women may have expressed interest in you, it is often very subtle when a woman expresses interest and if you are not looking for it... you miss it. You shouldn't wait till a woman openly expresses interest. Women often get their interest from the actions of the man trying to date them. You shouldn't feel eh about your career. You would be alot happier and confident if you went after your dream what ever that is. Obviously if your dream is to play in the NFL it might be imposible.. but you could try to start a business about Football merchandise or what ever.... and if your dream is to be a doctor or a video game maker or what ever you should just try to do something you are proud of. and that you love. You don't need to wait until you've made it either. Even if you are just trying for your goals the benefits will be imeadiate. I suggest you talk to girls on the internet, and ask them out for real life dates. I suggest you talk to pretty girls you see while shopping at Target or whatever and ask them out by flirting first then suggesting coffee or whatever... who cares if you creep them out. YOu don't even try, and yet you feel bad about your situation. The girl of your dreams is out there, and you just let her suffer because you are so afraid of being rejected. Come back. Post about how you tried. Think of it as fun adventure stories. Amistad, that was the first time to share that on here. Must be some other poster who knows him or anoher late 30s virgin. I'm sure once this guy met someone and got some practice he'd be fine, but the problem is getting to that point. Hey I wish the guy the best. Nothing wrong with being a virgin, we are all one before we lose it. Don't you dare let any of the angry people on this forum make you feel bad about anything you wrote. I feel you wrote it just because it is a funny story. PJKino, if you think it's so hopeless that you'll get laid then why not start approaching sex/romance like you've got nothing to lose? Take some crazy risks. Ask out women even if you think they'll say no. As out chicks who aren't your type just to get comfortable dating. Go to clubs and try to meet people. I don't know if any of this will work but, if nothing else, it'll probably lead to some kind of interesting adventures or antidotes to tell your friends about. Once again, you've got nothing to lose so why not take some risks? If he went into it with a nothing to lose attitude he would have a gf by the end of the week. It is an interesting story to talk about how you tried to romanticaly woo a girl even if it fail horribly. Heck failling horibly is even more interesting some times. Some times it starts out failing, like the girl says she thought the guy was a loser, and then the guy wins the girl over. Have fun with your STDs. Condoms are only effective in preventing those STD's that are transmitted by seminal fluids and by skin to skin contact in the areas that are actually covered by the condom. Diseases like syphilis, herpes, and genital warts, can be transmitted by contact with lesions that are not covered by the condom. Additionally, condoms are not 100% effective as protecting those areas that they do cover. Sometimes condoms do fail. So, the notion that using a condom will make you safe from the consequences of promiscuity is really a lie. ~answerbag.com Seriously I wasn't suggesting people be promiscuous to lose their virginity in a one night stand either. I also recomend getting tested for STD's. I will never recomend wearing a condom for a bj. DONT SLEEP AROUND. take is serouse. Fair point..I just hate being rejected and feel like if i go to a bar or club and get rejected the womens gonna go back to her friends and say some unattractive guy came and hit on em and laugh.. If you go to a bar or club... go to drink and have fun. Go to dance with a pretty girl. Sure hit on them but don't expect anything out of it. You have a much better chance at flirting with and asking out girls you meet at parties, or weddings, or a park or the beach or at the mall ect. also don't rely on internet dating, but go ahead and sign up for a free site and ask girls out and suggest real life quick coffee place meetings. The internet adds an extra step to dating becuase you don't meet in real life until after you've talked online. after you meet in real life at a cofee place just ask the girl out again. Remember don't rely on internet dating alone, go out and flirt with girls you meet at the bank or what ever. Then when you get ur first date YOU MUST go in for a kiss before the date is over. STOP caring if a woman finds you anoying or unnatractive and tells her friends. A girl who does that is a loser. Seriously if a woman really upsets you it is very easy to upset them back. I think it is childish to get mad at a woman even if she is rude. BUTTT in the past I have been childish... like when a girl yelled at me for asking her out ... I was like "jeez you're a bch." Seriously ur better of just walking away but if you say something back to a girl they practicaly come to tears... so they are just as fragile as u never forget that. So for the most part just walk away and don't even care if a woman rejects you. Most women will in one way or another reject you. Its not like I could just walk up to a woman and say "lets go out" and just expect a yes.... a girl might say "get out of here you ugly creep rapist" and seriously the more outrageouse the rejection the funnier a story it is. Says more about her then you. It wouldn't be as big a deal if some women wouldn't make such a big deal about dating older virgins. Too many people demand drama in their relationships. It doesn't matter if women make a big deal about it. They never have to know. I'm a 28 year old virgin and it's not really the status of 'virgin' that bothers me so much as the fact that I've yet to have the experience of being emotionally intimate with a woman. This whole cavalier attitude to sex, and advice about 'getting a bj' and not attempting 'doggy style the first time' does not resonate with me at all, because I do not regard sex as the ultimate goal; I'd be perfectly happy being with a girl who never wanted to engage in sexual intercourse. That's why I don't feel much solidarity or sympathy with other 'male virgins', or those who have magaged to 'break the drought.' You've closed yourself off emotionally. You have to go put yourself out there for rejection if you want to form an emotional bond with a woman. A kiss is a big deal to most every women I've known. If you go out on a date and you don't even TRY to kiss her, she probably won't be interested in you. Go out there and try! Make that connection with some one special. It is great. How many times are you going to contradict yourself in one message? Only posted it once? :lmao: You claim there's nothing wrong with being a virgin, but you clearly have something against older virgins. I'm a 36 year old virgin and I don't act crazy like the guy "friend" you keep mentioning. Are virgins in thier 30s supposed to act like that? You wonder who so many older virgin men are afraid to tell. :mad: She is not the problem with her virgin friend or older virgins in general. This isn't a court room and you can't impeach her. Seriously so she said it 3 times instead of 1 who cares. Virgin men don't even have to tell any one, so why be afraid. Its not like you would go around telling people you have a really long pubic hairs.... Virginity isn't some bad thing you have to warn every girl you date about. For the sake of romantic mood it may be worth not telling. Seriously lack of confidence will be the only thing that shows they are a virgin. And they shouldn't use the fact they are a virgin as a crutch to be unconfident.
Author Green Posted March 3, 2010 Author Posted March 3, 2010 Men aren't as good at reading people as women are and older virgins are often the worst at reading people. This so called advice does nothing. Oh well. The virgins already know what they should do. They just arn't confident to face rejection so they don't try to kiss, they don't try anything. She's bashing older virgins and needs to be told it's not amusing. If you or her don't like it, report me. She's not bashing any one. The guy in her story jzzed in his pants. She is part of the problem. You can say that all you want thay you don't have to tell, but in the other thread a woman cried all night when she found out her boyfriend was a 26 year old virgin. What if he was a 36 year old virgin? I don't even want to know what that rection would be like. If he was a 36 year old virgin I would suggest he not reveal this fact to a woman right when they were about to have sex.
Dark-Farmer Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 I lost my virginity when i was 22. It was with a girl i fell in love with. I had similar problems with girls too. Had a hard time approaching them and what not. It is just confidence that will attrach someone though. And being in a situation where i did not have confidence with women i can say i didn't even know what confidence truly was at that time. At first i thought it would be the attitude "I will get this girl" but that DOES NOT work. Confidence is actually the opposite. More of an attitude "i like that girl, i'm going to talk to her, who cares what happens" You have to be calm and most importantly yourself. Don't care what others think of you, do everything because YOU want to and with NO other expectation other than that. Just enjoy yourself. No expectation is very important. If you expect something you will either walk away shamefully (which is not attractive) or try way too hard when your chance is long gone and seem creepy (also unattractive). Like Green said just ask them out even if they call you a creep. Just keep grace and they will find it attractive. For example if you ask them out and they reject you, you can say something like "well you're a beautiful girl, it was a pleasure to meet you" smile and walk away (that is confidence, even you know you got rejected and girls even if it's not that girl WILL take notice) And don't care who will laugh at you (you will probably never see any of them again, and even if you do they probably will not remeber you) The real moral is practice make perfect, no matter where you are at, you will NEVER get better unless you try.
Author Green Posted March 3, 2010 Author Posted March 3, 2010 I lost my virginity when i was 22. It was with a girl i fell in love with. I had similar problems with girls too. Had a hard time approaching them and what not. It is just confidence that will attrach someone though. And being in a situation where i did not have confidence with women i can say i didn't even know what confidence truly was at that time. At first i thought it would be the attitude "I will get this girl" but that DOES NOT work. Confidence is actually the opposite. More of an attitude "i like that girl, i'm going to talk to her, who cares what happens" You have to be calm and most importantly yourself. Don't care what others think of you, do everything because YOU want to and with NO other expectation other than that. Just enjoy yourself. No expectation is very important. If you expect something you will either walk away shamefully (which is not attractive) or try way too hard when your chance is long gone and seem creepy (also unattractive). Like Green said just ask them out even if they call you a creep. Just keep grace and they will find it attractive. For example if you ask them out and they reject you, you can say something like "well you're a beautiful girl, it was a pleasure to meet you" smile and walk away (that is confidence, even you know you got rejected and girls even if it's not that girl WILL take notice) And don't care who will laugh at you (you will probably never see any of them again, and even if you do they probably will not remeber you) The real moral is practice make perfect, no matter where you are at, you will NEVER get better unless you try. Practice putting yourself in social situations does help. You can learn more from your failures then sucess. People need to live their life.
yeex Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Yeah, i agree, being afraid of rejection is the first thing you got to get over and realize it is a natural part of the process of finding somebody. It happens to everybody and is normal. You can almost look at scoring with a girl as a reward for overcoming/tolerating rejection from other girls. Just keep trying. The more you get rejected, the easier it is to deal with and you won't care as much. As long as you learn from those experiences, the closer you will get to your goal. And it is a numbers game. As the man you will have to put yourself out there and risk/experience rejection. There is no way around that so might as well get used to it sooner than later. Once you realize this, you will find a girl and will lose that virginity. Also why tell them your a virgin? As an excuse for not being good in bed? Just research some techniques online and use them. Even a lot of experienced guys are not at there best when hooking up with a new girl for the first time. Either nerves, or ejaculating too soon, etc.. For me it takes a couple of rounds with a new girl before I am at my best.
sweetjasmine Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Condoms are only effective in preventing those STD's that are transmitted by seminal fluids and by skin to skin contact in the areas that are actually covered by the condom. Diseases like syphilis, herpes, and genital warts, can be transmitted by contact with lesions that are not covered by the condom. Additionally, condoms are not 100% effective as protecting those areas that they do cover. Sometimes condoms do fail. So, the notion that using a condom will make you safe from the consequences of promiscuity is really a lie. ~answerbag.com What does that have to do with anything? Encouraging people to not use condoms is incredibly irresponsible, regardless of the fact that condoms don't protect you 100%. Would it be okay for me to advise someone to pick their partner wisely but have sex without a condom because it feels better? Hey, as long as you're not promiscuous, nothing bad's going to happen, and by the way, condoms don't protect you 100% from STDs, anyway! Seriously I wasn't suggesting people be promiscuous to lose their virginity in a one night stand either. I also recomend getting tested for STD's. I will never recomend wearing a condom for a bj. DONT SLEEP AROUND. take is serouse.j It doesn't even have anything to do with promiscuity. If you and your partner haven't been tested, you have no idea whether one of you has something. Some STDs can be asymptomatic, and with HIV there's no way of knowing whether you're infected unless you've been tested or diagnosed as HIV+ or as having full-blown AIDS. Your partner could have slept with just one person in their life, and if that person was carrying something and didn't know it, your partner could easily be infected and then pass it on to you.
purgatori Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 You've closed yourself off emotionally. You have to go put yourself out there for rejection if you want to form an emotional bond with a woman. A kiss is a big deal to most every women I've known. If you go out on a date and you don't even TRY to kiss her, she probably won't be interested in you. Go out there and try! Make that connection with some one special. It is great. I'd like to remain free of any sexual harassment charges or restraining orders -- which would surely be filed if I tried to kiss someone. I'm sure that making 'a connection with someone special' is great -- in fact there's nothing I'd like better -- but time and experience have proven to me that I am barred from forming such a connnection.
Ross PK Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Green, where do we get the confidence from? I mean you got your confidence from actually getting a girl, but that isn't an option for some people like myself since we can't get one. It's a catch 22.
Ross PK Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 I think this whole virginity thing is an inside job... all in your head. It's a confidence issue. and the only people that make it a big deal is the guy himself and other guys who make fun of that guy like they are in middle school. So then it is a big deal right, if that's how most people see it?
Ross PK Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 My guy friend who is a 38 year old virgin (39 in May) has an ejaculation just from sitting next to me on the couch, watching a movie, no touching or anything. He got up suddenly to go to the bathroom. Later he confided in me what had happened. I am not interested in him at all and he understands we are only friends. Anyway, I think he will probably die a virgin and it kills him to think of this fate. Just something to think about, men. Don't let yourself get to the point of no return. Why don't you help the poor guy out. I mean surely him dying a virgin must be a 100 times worse for him than how bad it'd feel for you to have sex with him?
Ross PK Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Its the guys own fault if he is pathatic, he could change his present any time. He lives in a cage he made himself. Do you know him personally or something?
Ross PK Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 You can say that all you want thay you don't have to tell, but in the other thread a woman cried all night when she found out her boyfriend was a 26 year old virgin. Hey BlueSupernova, can you give me a link to that thread?
Pink Cupcakes Posted March 4, 2010 Posted March 4, 2010 Sorry, I don't do pity f**ks. OK I did bring it up a few times, but it was threads where it was very relevant and pertinent. I am really telling guys that if you are waiting and putting off your virginity because of confidence issues, get over it. I mean, this friend of mine is really miserable
MalachiX Posted March 4, 2010 Posted March 4, 2010 I'd like to remain free of any sexual harassment charges or restraining orders -- which would surely be filed if I tried to kiss someone. I'm sure that making 'a connection with someone special' is great -- in fact there's nothing I'd like better -- but time and experience have proven to me that I am barred from forming such a connnection. Sounds like you've become fairly comfortable in being alone. I think a lot of people end up embracing their isolation because they've known it so long. I realize your comment about sexual harassment charges was probably a joke but it still shows a really fractured mindset. I'm not saying any of this stuff is easy. It's not. I'm just saying that if you're not willing to take a risk and try again then you'll never escape from your difficulties. Don't accept them. Most people on these boards have some sort of issue in their love life. No one comes on here if they're 100% healthy. Just read some of the posts from various guys on these boards. Look at all the frustration and insecurity you find. Look at how many are awkward dorks. Hell, look at the guy who created this thread. Do you really think he'd spend so much energy posting sex-advice if he wasn't still somewhat insecure and demonstrated how much he'd grown over the years? Everyone is awkward about this stuff. The one thing that cheers me up about these boards is how many people are willing to keep trying. Like I said, you really have nothing to lose except the frustrated love-life you're living now. Do you really want to keep it?
Author Green Posted March 4, 2010 Author Posted March 4, 2010 Yeah, i agree, being afraid of rejection is the first thing you got to get over and realize it is a natural part of the process of finding somebody. It happens to everybody and is normal. You can almost look at scoring with a girl as a reward for overcoming/tolerating rejection from other girls. Just keep trying. The more you get rejected, the easier it is to deal with and you won't care as much. As long as you learn from those experiences, the closer you will get to your goal. And it is a numbers game. As the man you will have to put yourself out there and risk/experience rejection. There is no way around that so might as well get used to it sooner than later. Once you realize this, you will find a girl and will lose that virginity. Also why tell them your a virgin? As an excuse for not being good in bed? Just research some techniques online and use them. Even a lot of experienced guys are not at there best when hooking up with a new girl for the first time. Either nerves, or ejaculating too soon, etc.. For me it takes a couple of rounds with a new girl before I am at my best. agreed with all you wrote. If you are giving bold confident effort with every girl you like you will get a gf. People like to treat virginity like the "I'm New" badge you see a new cashier wearing some times. When you are trying to set a romantic mood, using virginity as an excuse to lower expectations is a bad idea. Getting a girl is all about raising her expectations. What does that have to do with anything? Encouraging people to not use condoms is incredibly irresponsible, regardless of the fact that condoms don't protect you 100%. Would it be okay for me to advise someone to pick their partner wisely but have sex without a condom because it feels better? Hey, as long as you're not promiscuous, nothing bad's going to happen, and by the way, condoms don't protect you 100% from STDs, anyway! It doesn't even have anything to do with promiscuity. If you and your partner haven't been tested, you have no idea whether one of you has something. Some STDs can be asymptomatic, and with HIV there's no way of knowing whether you're infected unless you've been tested or diagnosed as HIV+ or as having full-blown AIDS. Your partner could have slept with just one person in their life, and if that person was carrying something and didn't know it, your partner could easily be infected and then pass it on to you. What is your point? People should stay single if they are so afraid of STD's. Don't get a bj and just have condom sex if you want. Seriously this condom bj's almost needs its own thread at this point. I'd like to remain free of any sexual harassment charges or restraining orders -- which would surely be filed if I tried to kiss someone. I'm sure that making 'a connection with someone special' is great -- in fact there's nothing I'd like better -- but time and experience have proven to me that I am barred from forming such a connnection. I have remained free of sexual harassment charges/ restraining orders yet I have tried and suceeded in kissing girls. How have time and experience proven this to you? Have you ever tried to kiss a girl? You need to make moves on a girl in order to get a girl. You can't just expect a girl to chase you and kiss you and do all the work. Green, where do we get the confidence from? I mean you got your confidence from actually getting a girl, but that isn't an option for some people like myself since we can't get one. It's a catch 22. Good question. I got my confidence from testosterone. I'm very hairy, and have a very deep voice. I was a coward, but my hornyness made me face my fears. I also drank alchol and was very buzzed when I kissed for the first time. And then yes, actualy getting a girl is the best confidence. Thats why guys who do well with girls from a young age often go on to do well with more girls later on. I don't know how you get the confidence. Maybe if you just force yourself. Maybe if you just stop caring and go up to a girl you like and try to flirt with her the best you can. You just have to try. Little steps are fine. You could also go on some kind of quest. You know like a trip around the world or something big like that. Something difficult that you always wanted to do. That might give you confidence. But really I cannot answer your question. In my opinion only you can. Sorry, I don't do pity f**ks. OK I did bring it up a few times, but it was threads where it was very relevant and pertinent. I am really telling guys that if you are waiting and putting off your virginity because of confidence issues, get over it. I mean, this friend of mine is really miserable Seriously no one should. It would only hurt the guy in the end. Also why should you sacrifice yourself. You are already helping him out alot just by being his friend and making him more social and comfortable with women. I think its kind of rude that he tells you he jzzed in his pants, unless u don't mind. Sounds like you've become fairly comfortable in being alone. I think a lot of people end up embracing their isolation because they've known it so long. I realize your comment about sexual harassment charges was probably a joke but it still shows a really fractured mindset. I'm not saying any of this stuff is easy. It's not. I'm just saying that if you're not willing to take a risk and try again then you'll never escape from your difficulties. Don't accept them. Most people on these boards have some sort of issue in their love life. No one comes on here if they're 100% healthy. Just read some of the posts from various guys on these boards. Look at all the frustration and insecurity you find. Look at how many are awkward dorks. Hell, look at the guy who created this thread. Do you really think he'd spend so much energy posting sex-advice if he wasn't still somewhat insecure and demonstrated how much he'd grown over the years? Everyone is awkward about this stuff. The one thing that cheers me up about these boards is how many people are willing to keep trying. Like I said, you really have nothing to lose except the frustrated love-life you're living now. Do you really want to keep it? I'm posting the sex advice because it was fun. But yes of course even I am still insecure about things and life. Like I said I'm no different now then I was before I had sex. The confidence to do things and face rejection is key. Its not easy or comfortable to face rejection. You meet a girl and you like her and you want it to work out.. some times it seems easier to just not try at all. You have to try people, you have to stop doing what seems comfortable and do what you always wanted. Just ask yourself what would I do if I wasn't scared... and do that.
counterman Posted March 4, 2010 Posted March 4, 2010 I enjoyed the posts, Green. A lot of people, and I am one of them, don't do certain things because of fear. This leads to us not even trying and basically leaving us with no chance to succeed. Better to just go out there and do it, without being tentative.
sweetjasmine Posted March 4, 2010 Posted March 4, 2010 What is your point? People should stay single if they are so afraid of STD's. Don't get a bj and just have condom sex if you want. Seriously this condom bj's almost needs its own thread at this point. My point is that you shouldn't be encouraging people to have UNPROTECTED SEX if they and their partner haven't been tested. It's irresponsible to do so.
Author Green Posted March 4, 2010 Author Posted March 4, 2010 I enjoyed the posts, Green. A lot of people, and I am one of them, don't do certain things because of fear. This leads to us not even trying and basically leaving us with no chance to succeed. Better to just go out there and do it, without being tentative. Thanks. A lot of people do let fear stop them. There still are things in my life that scare me (like working hard). So, yeah basicaly we all need to stop procrastinating, because it is really tiring having unfinished business to think about. My point is that you shouldn't be encouraging people to have UNPROTECTED SEX if they and their partner haven't been tested. It's irresponsible to do so. I'm not encouraging anything. Are you telling me you gave a blow job with a condom?
purgatori Posted March 4, 2010 Posted March 4, 2010 Sounds like you've become fairly comfortable in being alone. I think a lot of people end up embracing their isolation because they've known it so long. I realize your comment about sexual harassment charges was probably a joke but it still shows a really fractured mindset. I'm not saying any of this stuff is easy. It's not. I'm just saying that if you're not willing to take a risk and try again then you'll never escape from your difficulties. Don't accept them. Most people on these boards have some sort of issue in their love life. No one comes on here if they're 100% healthy. Just read some of the posts from various guys on these boards. Look at all the frustration and insecurity you find. Look at how many are awkward dorks. Hell, look at the guy who created this thread. Do you really think he'd spend so much energy posting sex-advice if he wasn't still somewhat insecure and demonstrated how much he'd grown over the years? Everyone is awkward about this stuff. The one thing that cheers me up about these boards is how many people are willing to keep trying. Like I said, you really have nothing to lose except the frustrated love-life you're living now. Do you really want to keep it? I was half-joking; I don't know if a woman would actually resort to litigation if I were to try something with her, but I'm sure that it would provoke a slap, or a look of disgust, at the least. Maybe not from all girls, certainly, but from the oens I'm attracted to. In truth, I find solitude very hard to endure, but to an extent you are right, because it's something that I am resigned to. @Green: No, I have never tried to kiss a girl. I would have to be 100% sure that a girl liked me before I tried anything like that, and I've never even been 20% sure
MalachiX Posted March 4, 2010 Posted March 4, 2010 I was half-joking; I don't know if a woman would actually resort to litigation if I were to try something with her, but I'm sure that it would provoke a slap, or a look of disgust, at the least. Maybe not from all girls, certainly, but from the oens I'm attracted to. Funny story. Several times when I've felt very frustrated during a dry spell, I've grabbed a friend and said, "lets get some drinks thrown in our faces." The idea is that we'll attempt to pick up women without the goal of actually getting laid but with the goal of having an adventure and maybe getting slapped like in old comedies. The thing is, having had this adventure three times now, I've NEVER gotten slapped or a drink thrown in my face. Havn't really got laid out of it either but the point is it was a fun experience. I really think that's how you have to look at things when you're not experienced. Start asking out women and going to parties just for practice. Treat it like a research project. Don't expect any success and make your only goal to get more experience. Believe me when I say there are far less attractive men than you who have been kissed and gotten laid.
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