My Take on Male Virginity

[Green]

I always enjoy the "I'm a virgin, what do I do" threads. That is why I've decided to make my own thread about the dating world and virginity. My thread will focus on male/female relation. Feel free to argue what I say, Just add onto what I say, or just ask questions.

 

First off I was a virgin untill the end of college. I had very little experience with women through high school and college. In fact I had never even kissed a girl. Senior year of college I got a boost of confidence from supreme hornyness and ended up having my first serious relationship with a girl over the summer.

 

The relationship didn't last, and after the summer I was heart broken. I was a changed man though. I had tasted the fruits of the fairer sex, and it only made me more horny for relationships with women. My testosterone fueled lust for women coupled with the knowledge I was no longer a virgin made me more confident with women and from that point foward I never had any of my previous problems with women.

 

After kissing, and flirting, and going all the way with a girl, I realized that it was no big deal. I realized that all along that I should have confidence, and that I'm just as good as anybody even before I had sex.

 

I had placed women on this untouchable status in my mind through high school and most of college. If a girl would flirt with me, I would make an excuse not to flirt back. If I saw a girl I liked alone, I would not aproach her and flirt with her. I actualy used to freeze up and have trouble talking when a pretty girl would talk to me. I didn't feel good enough to be in a romantic relationship with a woman.

 

That has all changed now, I've had gf's between that first girl. I never fell back into my old ways of being so shy around women I would actualy sabotage anything. I actualy have a gf now that I've been with over a year... almost two.

 

So to you virgin males 13-18 Please realize being a virgin is probably best although kissing girls would be a good first step I never had breaking that physical barrier with the oposite sex. 18-21 this age in my opinion is a good time to lose your virginity if you found the right girl... I would never recomend just sleeping with a girl you didn't atleast find sexy just to lose ur virginity. 22-25 its still not crazy for you to be a virgin, but I would recomend keeping to yourself, I mean its no ones busines... And 25 and beyond well, what are you a priest, be confident let your testosterone drive you.

 

a guy who has sex with 100 women is no better then a guy who had sex with few or none.

 

Most people who have never kissed a girl don't even try. You have to go out there and ask a girl out even if that makes you a creep. When you have a girl go out with you KISS HER. Don't let the date end with out trying to kiss her. Be bold, be the genuine confident version of yourself who kisses, touches, and flirts. Don't be the fake nice guy who doesn't ever try anything cause he is afraid of being rejected.

 

Finaly realize that most men probably suck at sex. So as a virgin its only your confidence and mind set that make you different. DO NOT go in expecting the girl to show you the ropes as some tester girl.

 

GO in confident. Foreplay atleast 20 minutes and make sure she is wet. Make out, touch the breasts, and most important finger her vagina untill she is really wet (in fact orgasm even) When you finger the girl don't put your finger in too deep you just have to gently yet quickly touch the clitoris which means barely putting ur finger in... you put ur finger in like so barely.

 

You can practice this part.... but you roll the condom over your manhood... you do not pull the condom over. keep the lube side on the outside and just roll the condom over.. . its very easy to roll it over you thing... its hard to pull it over.

 

Get your bj before you put the condom on... not durring or after.

 

DO NOT ATTEMPT DOGGY style your first time... it is dificlut ..

 

after the forplay when you know she is good and wet... just make sure you are nice and hard... if you have practiced rolling the condom on you won't lose the hardness. then get her laying on her back legs spread missionary and if you don't get right in there is no shame in telling her to guide you in. Even guys who have had sex alot ask for the guide in to the vagina if they feel like it. You might not be able to go all the way in at first. Just thrust back and forth untill you are all the way in. Once you are all the way in if you are in good shap just get in a push up position and try not to bang ur pelvis on hers... go in and out in a good rythm like a dance... when it feels good to you... it probably feels good to her so just use what rythm feels great to you... don't pull out to far or you will flop out.

 

If you have done that for a while say that you want her to ride you. pull out, then get on your back and have her lower herslef on top of you facing you. All you do is lie back and watch her go up and down. She should know better then to go so high up you flop out. This position is my favorite... it is so lazy to just lie back and enjoy... but your time to shine is when you are pounding her durring the missionary. Also the foreplay which should be atleast 20 min is another real time to shine.. get her nice and wet with the boob touching and fingering... in fact make her orgasm while you finger her... talk dirty (damn you are hot, you are driving me wild)

 

I recomend using an ultra-thin condom and practicing rolling it on till its easy. Rolling it on is really easy. I had problems cumming my first few times having sex. So i had the oposite problem of cumming to soon. You just have to relax and realize that if you are enjoying it the girl is. Women like being enjoyed, so if you are loving the foreplay and loving how you feel when you thrust into her... then chances are she is loving it too. So make sure you don't worry and just enjoy yourself.

 

Remember the basics BE HARD and BE IN SHAPE enough to thrust with a good rythm.

 

If it makes you feel better most guys are lazy and bad at sex. They don't do enough foreplay, and they are out of shape and can't thrust properly. You really don't have alot to live up to. Women also enjoy the entire romance, they rarely focus just on the sex.

 

You don't have to tell the woman you are a virgin. I actually lied and said I wasn't when she asked me if I was a virgin after we had sex. (not that I recomend that)

 

Good luck all, thanks for reading

[dunno_what_i_want]

THANK YOU!!! I have this new guy in my life and he's a virgin (I'm not), and I was kinda getting tense about our first time together. A male perspective is really great. Would you by any chance have any tips for me, like how to treat him in bed?

[Green]

THANK YOU!!! I have this new guy in my life and he's a virgin (I'm not), and I was kinda getting tense about our first time together. A male perspective is really great. Would you by any chance have any tips for me, like how to treat him in bed?

 

how old are you guys? My basic advice would be try not to think about it. You really don't need to do or say anything to him. It would probably be a turn off for you to say stuff to him like "don't worry" or "its ok".

 

Some advice I forgot to right about in my main post is; be gentle when touching nipples and boobs... and make sure your hands are warm

[threebyfate]

IMO, people make virginity out to be a big deal. It's not so telling someone you're a virgin, doesn't have to be an earth-shattering, drama-ridden big deal.

 

Telling them, makes good sense, in that their expectations of your "skill" level will drop to a reasonable level. The more you hide it, the more insecurities crop up on both sides.

 

Also, porn is so fracked up and has people believing all kinds of stupidity, as being the norm or standard to live up to. I call bullshyte. Sexual compatibility will define your interactions, more than some phony and sleazy clip.

[marsle85]

DO NOT ATTEMPT DOGGY style your first time... it is dificlut ..

 

 

 

Hhahahahahhahahhahahahhaha, hilarious.

 

And as for your advice, good job. Even though everyone can still learn more... don't stimulate the clit too much- it's like a girl ONLY focusing on the head of your cock... Not to go medical- but the vagina is an introverted version of the penis. Think about how you'd want a handjob... just just head, not just shaft. Good mix. I think finger penetration with clit grazing/oral is best.

[Green]

IMO, people make virginity out to be a big deal. It's not so telling someone you're a virgin, doesn't have to be an earth-shattering, drama-ridden big deal.

 

I agree virgins are there own worst enemy. They themselves make it out to be a big deal and use it as an excuse to avoid trying romantic things with a girl.

 

I think the earth-shattering thing is when you realize sex itself has no meaning. It's more about the bond you form with some one, and the way all those love songs on the radio start making sense.

 

I think if you are older say 22 and up, it is a good idea to keep your virginity to yourself. I mean do you really want to give a girl lowered expectations. My first time skill wise I was awkward, but I still think the girl really enjoyed it, and it might have added pressure to let her know it was my first time.

 

Hhahahahahhahahhahahahhaha, hilarious.

 

And as for your advice, good job. Even though everyone can still learn more... don't stimulate the clit too much- it's like a girl ONLY focusing on the head of your cock... Not to go medical- but the vagina is an introverted version of the penis. Think about how you'd want a handjob... just just head, not just shaft. Good mix. I think finger penetration with clit grazing/oral is best.

 

Which brings up another good point... avoid hand jobs... its a good way to get your penis hurt. As for giving a girl oral... just lick alot and with good quick motion... try not to drool... and don't be a wimp about it... get in there and enjoy it... but I wouldn't necesarily recomend giving a girl oral on ur first time unless you really want to.

 

and yes lol stay away from doggy style untill misionary and girl on top seem easy. It is just much harder to enter, the girl won't be able to give you much help, and its easy to flop out. Plus you really have to position the girl geometricaly for what works for the two peoples hheights

[MalachiX]

I once felt very shy and awkward as well but the experience of losing my virginity has changed me into the stud you see before you. I still get goosebumps when I remember that fateful night. I stood there, just gazing at her beauty while she lay sprawled out on the ground, a thin stream of drool dribbling out of the side of her mouth and hair matted over a half open eye that rolled back into her head.

 

I lost track of how many times we made love that night. The coroner tells me that she probably didn't fully succumb to the alcohal poising until some time after midnight which makes me fairly confident that she was alive for our first two rounds. When I was a lame old virgin, I'm sure I would have been freaked out by the prospect of intercourse with a corpse but my experience instantly changed me and I now realize that, alive or dead, sex is no big deal.

 

Now, on to the advice:

 

If your first time was like mine, you're going to want to play things carefully when you have sex with a girl that is fully conscious. Try not to panic when she starts moving or making sounds. This is totally natural. The first time a girl started thrusting along with me, I totally freaked out and started hitting her on the head with a candle-stick. Long story short, she became another member of the, "couldn't survive sex with yours truly" club.

 

Oh, another good piece of advice is to try to limit the role of your parents and the rest of your immediate family in the bedroom. Yes, I know you care about these people and they have some very helpful love-making suggestions but I've found that a lot of girls take offense when grandma tells them to stand on their tip toes and "stop screeching like a damn whore."

 

Also, DO NOT ATTEMPT A DONKEY PUNCH WHILE YOUR ARE BOTH FACING EACH OTHER. I know we all get carried away some times but I can't tell you how awkward you're going to feel when you're staring at the poor girl's broken nose and trying to explain to her that she should have known to duck. And then the damn cops get involved and they act like I'm the bad guy!

 

Finally, I'd advise against sex with transvestites unless you're willing to play catcher everyone once in a while. Yes, I know they're very convincing and the Asian ones are frankly hotter than any real woman I've ever been with but I promise you're going to regret it when you can't sit for more than a few minutes the following day.

 

OK kids. I think you guys are ready to face the world now. So, I'll simply leave you with a quote that has meant a lot to me:

 

They say prostitution is a victim-less crime. If that's true, then where's my wallet? Did you take my wallet bitch!?!?

[Green]

hahaha now thats scary.

 

You have a real danger of falling deeply in love with the first girl you have sex with.

 

For the love of god fall in love for the right reasons. Don't go all stalker on a girl because you were a virgin and she had sex with you and now boom, pow your in love.

 

Have sex with the girl cause you love her, not the other way around.

 

And yes if you don't have your own place, go to her place. If neither of you have your own place.. be very quiet at ur place.

[sally4sara]

If you're going to sleep with someone you don't know well, you should wear a condom for all sex acts - including oral.

[Pizzaman81]

I think this whole virginity thing is an inside job... all in your head. It's a confidence issue. and the only people that make it a big deal is the guy himself and other guys who make fun of that guy like they are in middle school.

 

Girls most likely don't even care about that about guys.

[Green]

If you're going to sleep with someone you don't know well, you should wear a condom for all sex acts - including oral.

 

You should never wear a condom during a bj and expect either the girl or guy to enjoy it. You also shouldn't have sex with some one you don't know well even if you have a condom... especialy if its your first time.

[Green]

I think this whole virginity thing is an inside job... all in your head. It's a confidence issue. and the only people that make it a big deal is the guy himself and other guys who make fun of that guy like they are in middle school.

 

Girls most likely don't even care about that about guys.

 

A virgin guy is his own greatest enemies.

 

the girls don't even have to know.

[aroll32]

This is great. After my first time (although I find it a bit of a mistake, not with someone I really cared about or truly had feelings for) I didn't really turn into a "stud" or have more confidence. It was almost like it wasn't that big of a deal. I don't really know why. The thing that gave me more confidence was recently I was using the fingering technique you described (not sure how I came upon it) and I realized how awesome that was to the girl. I finally figured out how I could get a girl hot for me. Also, she said I was a really good kisser haha. That gave me confidence too. I feel like kissing is more of a rhythm thing as well. I'm not sure how to explain it, it just happens if both of you are good at it. If one person's not, it's really awkward kissing them sometimes.

[Art_Critic]

a guy who has sex with 100 women is no better then a guy who had sex with few or none.

 

When I lost mine I was a 3 pump chump...

 

I'm not today

[Pink Cupcakes]

My guy friend who is a 38 year old virgin (39 in May) has an ejaculation just from sitting next to me on the couch, watching a movie, no touching or anything. He got up suddenly to go to the bathroom. Later he confided in me what had happened. I am not interested in him at all and he understands we are only friends.

Anyway, I think he will probably die a virgin and it kills him to think of this fate.

Just something to think about, men. Don't let yourself get to the point of no return.

[Leia]

I enjoyed reading this, Green!

 

Good job.

[marsle85]

My guy friend who is a 38 year old virgin (39 in May) has an ejaculation just from sitting next to me on the couch, watching a movie, no touching or anything. He got up suddenly to go to the bathroom. Later he confided in me what had happened. I am not interested in him at all and he understands we are only friends.

Anyway, I think he will probably die a virgin and it kills him to think of this fate.

Just something to think about, men. Don't let yourself get to the point of no return.

 

 

Girl! You need to set him up on a date, PRONTO!!!

[Pink Cupcakes]

:bunny::bunny:I totally would except I don't know anyone who would go for him. Not that he's unattractive, just nerdy, and not in a hot way. In a "I am 38 years old and work in a comic book store owned by my parents and live in a dumpy apartment above the store" kind of way.

[BUENG1]

I don't think this is much of an issue. Women tend to be reluctant to bring up the # of partners thing for fear of being called a sl$ut etc. I wouldn't bother bringing it up.

[start-fresh]

My guy friend who is a 38 year old virgin (39 in May) has an ejaculation just from sitting next to me on the couch, watching a movie, no touching or anything. He got up suddenly to go to the bathroom. Later he confided in me what had happened. I am not interested in him at all and he understands we are only friends.

Anyway, I think he will probably die a virgin and it kills him to think of this fate.

Just something to think about, men. Don't let yourself get to the point of no return.

 

You've told that story at least a dozen times that I've seen and each time is as pointless as the last. It's like you keep regurgitating how pathetic the guy is to feel better about yourself or something.

[Green]

This is great. After my first time (although I find it a bit of a mistake, not with someone I really cared about or truly had feelings for) I didn't really turn into a "stud" or have more confidence. It was almost like it wasn't that big of a deal. I don't really know why. The thing that gave me more confidence was recently I was using the fingering technique you described (not sure how I came upon it) and I realized how awesome that was to the girl. I finally figured out how I could get a girl hot for me. Also, she said I was a really good kisser haha. That gave me confidence too. I feel like kissing is more of a rhythm thing as well. I'm not sure how to explain it, it just happens if both of you are good at it. If one person's not, it's really awkward kissing them sometimes.

 

kissing is definetly a timing thing. Glad to hear you stumbled upon how easy it can be to make some girls orgasm with your finger.

 

When I lost mine I was a 3 pump chump...

 

I'm not today

 

Three Pump Chump - 1 definition - A man who has absolutely no sexual skills, stamina, or timing. He has erectile dysfunction, or he's just incompet...

 

My guy friend who is a 38 year old virgin (39 in May) has an ejaculation just from sitting next to me on the couch, watching a movie, no touching or anything. He got up suddenly to go to the bathroom. Later he confided in me what had happened. I am not interested in him at all and he understands we are only friends.

Anyway, I think he will probably die a virgin and it kills him to think of this fate.

Just something to think about, men. Don't let yourself get to the point of no return.

 

This man has a big crush on you. He probably will never make a move on you though. He could get a girl any time though. He made his own prison and now he lives in it. you did make him jzz in his pants though

 

I enjoyed reading this, Green!

 

Good job.

 

Thanks. If you enjoyed this then you would definatly enjoy the program "the 650lb virgin" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AnAc0ImuxqU

 

Girl! You need to set him up on a date, PRONTO!!!

 

would you have the balls to set some one up with a 38 year old virgin. The man himself has to set himself up. I'd love it if that guy came and posted on here. Usualy you give them great advice, they just don't have the confidence or the drive to do any of it.

 

I don't think this is much of an issue. Women tend to be reluctant to bring up the # of partners thing for fear of being called a sl$ut etc. I wouldn't bother bringing it up.

 

$lut is just one of those words. People have a right to privacy man or woman.

 

You've told that story at least a dozen times that I've seen and each time is as pointless as the last. It's like you keep regurgitating how pathetic the guy is to feel better about yourself or something.

 

Its the guys own fault if he is pathatic, he could change his present any time. He lives in a cage he made himself. In the end the present is all that matters... its just fear of the future.... and pain from the past seem to find its way into our present.

 

I enjoyed hearing her story though, and I never heard it. I'm glad she shared this was the right thread for that story.

 

Why did that hit such a nerve with you? Are you a virgin? If so how old...

[PJKino]

Im coming up on 30 and havent gotten laid yet..Dont really see it in the future either..Women havent been attratced to me for last 30 years why is it all of a sudden gonna change?

[Green]

Im coming up on 30 and havent gotten laid yet..Dont really see it in the future either..Women havent been attratced to me for last 30 years why is it all of a sudden gonna change?

 

whens the last time you asked a girl out? when is the last time you tried to kiss a girl?

 

What about the other things in your life? Have you taken care of your body? Do you have a career you are proud of that you worked hard to get to.

[PJKino]

whens the last time you asked a girl out? when is the last time you tried to kiss a girl?

 

What about the other things in your life? Have you taken care of your body? Do you have a career you are proud of that you worked hard to get to.

 

Rarely ask women out figure their gonna say no..Ive heard what some people say behind my back about the way i look..Never have had a women express interest in me never had a friend Man or women try to hook me up..I can see the writing on the wall with all that that im not desirable to women..

 

My bodys ok..Havent worked out in a few months but im not in awful shape..Im 5'8 170

 

My careers ehh..Make decent money not crazy about my job like allot of people..

[Pink Cupcakes]

Amistad, that was the first time to share that on here. Must be some other poster who knows him or anoher late 30s virgin. I'm sure once this guy met someone and got some practice he'd be fine, but the problem is getting to that point. Hey I wish the guy the best.

 

Nothing wrong with being a virgin, we are all one before we lose it.