thromback Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Hey I have been dating this girl from holland for about 2 yrs. We dated in America for about a yr, then she went back home and we have been dating ever since. We have been fighting alot lately. She has been acting extremly cold and she is coming to visit me in two days. She is mad I have to go to college when she is here, but she knew ahead of time I had it and I said sorry, but maybe you should have came a different time. She has been signing off when we chat, not staying online, and not respoinding to my emails. She just told me that she is worried about the future and that she is upset I do not want kids and that she wants to marry me, but she likes to travel and will miss her family too much if we do get married. I am pretty confident this has come to a dead end because I am seriously only 20 and I told her that like when I'm done with grad school I would marry her, but only if I wanted to and right now I am not ready. I don't know dude I am just kinda sick of this and have asked her to make time and she hasn't. She told me that its normal to have ups and downs and maybe I can't handle it. Is there any advice? It really does seem hopeless and I am 70 percent sure I am going to break up with her when she comes here.
BettyBoop Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 You're both young and it sounds like she still has some growing up to do in regards to the childish behavior of signing off and ignoring you. LDR do have their ups and downs because eventually one person has to "give up" their country for the other. However, LDRs can only work when two people communicate their problems to each other and make sure to sort things out and not leave arguments be. I don't understand why she would have to give up travelling? You're both young and shouldn't be geting married before living together either way. (I learned that the hard way! ALWAYS live together with someone before you marry them...that is how you learn a lot about them.) Do you feel you want to break up based on her cold behavior recently or it there more to it? I guess my adivce is to find out once and for all on this trip if you think she might be the one for you or if you want to move on.
Author thromback Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 Well she wants to live in America and she can't live with me because shes from Holland. I probably wont even have sex with her when she is here just because shes been so cold and I want her to know i mean business
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