ms.ac Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 (edited) So it has been over 3 months since I have seen him, over 2 months since I had last talked to him. Long story short (see previous threads for long story) I was with him for almost 5 years, we broke up, he came back but was talking to someone else behind my back, he picked her over me, threw it in my face, said mean things, and hurt me really bad... He called me for the first time a month ago.. i didnt answer, he called me again 3 weeks later.. i didnt answer but called back the next day and no answer, he called me two days ago and i finally answered.. I am to the point where i just dont care much anymore, i miss him a lot as a person but not as wanting him in a relationship anymore, im at a good place right now. well anyway i answer while im out to eat with my family and tell him ill call him later i wanted him to hear it loud there and no im out doing things and happy.. i debated calling him back but i did.. he stood on the phone with me for about a half hour.. despite me trying to cut it short 3 times.. i acted as happy as can be.. like my life was great and i was the happiest i have ever been.. the other girl was not brought up or what he did wasnt brought up... we laughed.. he told me this is wat he needed.. to talk to me... i dont get it.. in no way im a hoping he comes back.. it would never work.. i resent him for what he did to me.. i want him to regret everything and i think he may be?? I may have gotten what i wanted.. but the thing is it is bugging me that he can call as if he did nothing... I didn't want to be mad at him or show how much everything has effected me.. did i do the right thing?? I dont it to make him feel good and lift a weight off his shoulders for what he did.. Edited March 2, 2010 by ms.ac
drew86 Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 My guess is that it's either not working out for him and this other women or he just doesn't want to feel guilty about what he did. More than likely both, but regardless I think you handled that like a pro. If you were to show him that you were actually still mad or cared it would just give him an ego boost. You did well
lunar_rabbit Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I also agree in thinking that it didn't work out with him and the other woman, in which case, you're exactly right in smiling through the phone call and then forgetting about him
GrayClouds Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 did i do the right thing?? I dont it to make him feel good and lift a weight off his shoulders for what he did.. Yes it seems he wanted to use you for what he needed, to talk to you. That is fantastic, but didn't he already tell you that was not so important when he picked the other girl? He was a selfish guy the way he walked away and he is still a selfish guy using you as the emotional pick me up. Do let let yourself be used. It is great to be needed by those who you care about, it is better to be inspired, this guy is not inspiring. Keep walking.
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