nineyearsgone79 Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Hey Guys, So my boyfriend of 9 years broke up with me 6 months ago via email and said to not contact him. We were long distance and I wrote him over a span of 3 months trying to find out why he broke up with me .. I was really heart broken over it. Anyway the day before Thanksgiving he wrote me with his reasons etc. and told me he was writing me to not hear from me again. I wrote him one final letter to close that chapter of my life but told him that I would like to have friendship if he ever opened himself up to it down the road etc. Anyway I have been no contact for the last 3 months going about my life moving on etc. However, I recently had a birthday and out of dumb curiousity I saw that he put up 2 songs on his page for my birthday.. writing out lyrics from one of them: "She has one friend, he lives next door...He knows how many freckles she's got." Now I don't know why I went to his page that day.. I guess to see if he had forgotten me.. who really knows... But anyway.. he is still no contact with me of course and I haven't contacted him either.. but what do u all think is the deal with these 2 songs put up on my birthday. He hasn't posted to this music site in a long time so I know the song postings are intentially for my bday.. they are bday songs and my favorite singers.. Anyway .. thoughts .. sometimes i feel like he's just playing with me. It was bitter sweet.. sweet that he thought of my birthday but also heartbreaking..being that we use to be best friends as well and I miss that friendship! ... <sigh>
nowomanocry Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 It's over hun You should stop wondering about him, visit his page on site etc. , because the slightest thing that happens seems like a hope to you - which is not! Very exceptional that a relationship has continued after such a long break If I were you I would forget about it, and move on with your own life. concentrate on yourself. TC
Author nineyearsgone79 Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 isn't it strange though.. why put up songs for me.. whats the point of it for him?
nowomanocry Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Well, in that case why did my ex ask me to keep her grandma's ring which I know is very valuable to her? What I am trying to say is that, you should not shake the trees to see what comes out or that there is something behind it... Sometimes we do things that even us do not why we did I think that alone putting your songs up there on the site does not indicate anything... I am sorry but this is what I think Good luck with your moving on, hope you find the person you deserve hun
foxy roxy Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 me thinks you should email him and ask him why he did so you never know he may reply and he may still have feeling for you i never give up hope x
nowomanocry Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 me thinks you should email him and ask him why he did so you never know he may reply and he may still have feeling for you i never give up hope x Yeah, take this route for more hopes without results ending in disappointment and grief
Ilovecake Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 You didn't mention how you knew these songs were about you. Is it possible he was talking about some other girl and the fact that it was your birthday was just a coincidence? He didn't put them on your page right? He put them on his page. You might just be reading a bit too much into this. It's been three months, he's asked you not to contact him. It's time to start moving on and stop looking for hiddean meaning in his actions, you'll just drive yourself crazy doing that.
Author nineyearsgone79 Posted March 4, 2010 Author Posted March 4, 2010 I knew about the songs because the singer.. bjork.. is my favorite and I introduced him to her. Also.. the song references freckles and he use to count my freckles and would always talk about them. Also, he had stopped putting music up at the end of december. In his letter to me he mentioned one of my songs because it was from eternal sunshine of the spotless mind. I told him i was reading his music wall to see how he was doing.. music was always a big thing between us. So in the letter he mentioned the song on my wall. Also.. in jan he just put up 1 song.. a growing pains open hehe. It was sorta an inside thing with us since we watched a marathon during his last visit to me. Since that song.. he just put up the 2 songs on my birthday.. which i believe are for me. We were each others first loves.... never had much relationship experiences before us and were together for 9 years. We also were each others best friends and really only friends until we broke up. I just don't know what to think of these songs he puts up once a month. It makes me sadder .. because I miss the friendship we had.
bluestraps Posted March 5, 2010 Posted March 5, 2010 Sounds really dumb to me . Why dont you contact him and ask what the hell it means. Long distance relationships can be hard. How far do you live apart
nowomanocry Posted March 5, 2010 Posted March 5, 2010 Hi again hun, Hope ya doing OK I've had a LDR and believe me, if in the end you do not come to an arrangement where you live together with him, it is useless... In addition, I gather that being apart you do not have too much to share either. So why being friends? What will be your gain / his gain out of this? In addition, he says he does not want you to contact him / and he doesn't contact you either..which is very rare amongst us males. So I think he means it Don't visit his pages on the net - you will end up being a weirdo / stalker lol As I recommend in most cases like yours (really hopeless ones) go and SD him lol I do not think he is playing with you - why would he as he ended the whole thing and why would he post that song (to hurt you) even not knowing whether you browsed his page or not lol You should not say 9 years gone / wasted woteva... should say still got x-9 years to live.. New hopes, new friends, new lovers, new hobbies, a brand new life.... Move on hun
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