Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I'm not kidding. I've literally been losing sleep over this. I haven't dated in so long or even gotten a phone number and it's starting to mess me up. I want to meet someone tomorrow. I'll drive to the State U and walk around campus if I have to in the early afternoon, the mall in the late evening and the city at night. Just please tell me, what are some ways I can start a conversation with a girl who's pretty and I want to get to know? And I don't mean generic suggestions; what is the first thing I should say to her? What should I ask or say after wards? What should we talk about? For how long? What can I say to get her to see me as a unique and ambitious and caring guy? What can I do so she doesn't get wierded out and walk away? And please don't say "There are no magic words." If there weren't, then there wouldn't be any harm in suggesting them, would there?
mushmush Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 For a start you can start by not acting desperate and not approach girls like you are trying to pick up. You really need to work on yourself so you are not lonely and don't need to meet someone. Fill your life with activities, have hobbies, keep yourself busy. When you are on these activies you might meet people you like and maybe the odd attractive girl or two..
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 For a start you can start by not acting desperate and not approach girls like you are trying to pick up. You really need to work on yourself so you are not lonely and don't need to meet someone. Fill your life with activities, have hobbies, keep yourself busy. When you are on these activies you might meet people you like and maybe the odd attractive girl or two.. My life is filled with activities already. That's why I want to meet someone. If I see a girl who is pretty, just walking around doing whatever, and I want to get to know her, how do I meet her?
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 Do you attend the state U? No I don't. I graduated last year, but the lectures are open to the general public. I'm going to grad school in 2 years so I'm dropping in on the grad courses to get a head start and get an idea for what I'm in for.
counterman Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I would say you could visit some of your old lecturers and, then when you see a girl that you are interested in, just go up to her and talk.
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 Okay then that is REALLY creepy. Why? Why is it wrong to want to meet someone? Maybe if you attended a class and started talking to a girl in the class it could be okay, but if I was walking around campus and a man approached me and started hitting on me, then said that "nah, I don't go here any more, just tryna pick up some coed college chicks :cool:" Okay, first off, do you REALLY think I'd be stupid enough to say that? I would probably pepper spray you if I had any on me and call campus police. Just sayin'. It's like going back to high school to pick up high school chicks. Ummm, no, not at all. I'm 23. I knew a few people in college who were older than me. Second of all, high school girls are illegal. College girls are adults.
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 Step 1: Obtain an adorable puppy. Someone had suggested that before, but I'm not convinced. When I was in school, there was this one guy who always brought his puppy to campus. He was a pretty normal looking young guy, and the puppy really was cute, but ALL of the girls knew why he was bringing that puppy and none of them ever talked to him. In fact, I met a lot of girls who would make fun of that guy when he wasn't around.
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 I would say you could visit some of your old lecturers and, then when you see a girl that you are interested in, just go up to her and talk. Like I said before I'm not kidding. I've literally been losing sleep over this. I haven't dated in so long or even gotten a phone number and it's starting to mess me up. I want to meet someone tomorrow. I'll drive to the State U and walk around campus if I have to in the early afternoon, the mall in the late evening and the city at night. Just please tell me, what are some ways I can start a conversation with a girl who's pretty and I want to get to know? And I don't mean generic suggestions; what is the first thing I should say to her? What should I ask or say after wards? What should we talk about? For how long? What can I say to get her to see me as a unique and ambitious and caring guy? What can I do so she doesn't get wierded out and walk away? And please don't say "There are no magic words." If there weren't, then there wouldn't be any harm in suggesting them, would there?
Awesome Username Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Someone had suggested that before' date=' but I'm not convinced. When I was in school, there was this one guy who always brought his puppy to campus. He was a pretty normal looking young guy, and the puppy really was cute, but ALL of the girls knew why he was bringing that puppy and none of them ever talked to him. In fact, I met a lot of girls who would make fun of that guy when he wasn't around.[/quote'] I, as a woman, would fall for a man with a puppy faster than a puppiless man.
Els Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Why? Why is it wrong to want to meet someone? It's just weird that you're going around trying to pick up any random chick as long as she's pretty. It'll weird the pretty ones out even more because they've experienced lots of guys like you doing just that - and they know from what you're doing, that you're just talking to them because they're pretty and you're desperate. Join a club or something and start getting to know the women there as people, first. They'll respect you more that way.
IrishCarBomb Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I don't mean generic suggestions; what is the first thing I should say to her? "It puts the lotion on it's skin, or else it gets the hose again." She'll get the message, loud and clear.
mushmush Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 My life is filled with activities already. That's why I want to meet someone. Is there no pretty girls doing these same activities that you can talk to?? Enjoy Tennis? Join a Tennis club. Enjoy cooking? Join a cooking class. Want to learn a new language? (or how to spell like me haahah) join a spanish class. Just giving examples. Best way to start up a conversation is to have a common interest. You might be having trouble with a certain recipe or a certain phrase that you are trying to learn. All you have to be is genuine.
TheWatcher Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 (edited) As a man you'll have lots of difficulty meeting someone or making some sort of connection. Women have no trouble meeting men;their problem is meeting someone that they like or "gel" with. Also if you come across someone you find attractive,intelligent,fun,etc...you're not the first guy that's noticed that in her & she most likely is already attached. Also contrary to popular belief...you will not meet anyone in a supermarket,bookstore,cafe or some sort of class (that is related to your interests).If you do decide to approach a random woman make sure you've practiced beforehand,smile like you've won the lottery & try not to stumble/fumble on any of your words;one comma out of place & you'll be dismissed. If you can try not to show any signs of timidity, awkwardness,apprehension or hesitation.Women are generally turned off by these. Good Luck. Edited March 2, 2010 by TheWatcher
BettyBoop Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 One of my exes was as desperate as you were after I ended it with him. He didn't want to be alone. He started a blog telling the world how desperate he was for love with a banner that said "Want to date me? Add me on facebook and we'll talk!" - and he also always went for pretty girls. "No fat chicks" etc... He is creepy beyond creepy - but he is actually getting dates that way. So if you're desperate enough you could always try that. Some girls like "famous" guys. =P
annxxdisaster Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Someone had suggested that before' date=' but I'm not convinced. When I was in school, there was this one guy who always brought his puppy to campus. He was a pretty normal looking young guy, and the puppy really was cute, but ALL of the girls knew why he was bringing that puppy and none of them ever talked to him. In fact, I met a lot of girls who would make fun of that guy when he wasn't around.[/quote'] You don't take the freakin' puppy to the campus. You take the puppy out for walks down busy little city streets or around the block. Seriously, puppies work. ...they totally sucker me into relationships anyway. Nothing can trump the puppy card. Except for maybe allergies and phobias. But we don't pay mind to those people.
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 OH MY GOD! WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE?! Why can't you just suggest a simple introduction, question and conversation topic? STOP ALL THIS ANALYZING!
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 And PLEEEEEASE don't tell me "join activities/clubs/whatever" I've explained before that's not an option. Just please tell me, what are some ways I can start a conversation with a girl who's pretty and I want to get to know? And I don't mean generic suggestions; what is the first thing I should say to her? What should I ask or say after wards? What should we talk about? For how long? What can I say to get her to see me as a unique and ambitious and caring guy? What can I do so she doesn't get wierded out and walk away? And please don't say "There are no magic words." If there weren't, then there wouldn't be any harm in suggesting them, would there?
annxxdisaster Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 And PLEEEEEASE don't tell me "join activities/clubs/whatever" I've explained before that's not an option. Just please tell me, what are some ways I can start a conversation with a girl who's pretty and I want to get to know? And I don't mean generic suggestions; what is the first thing I should say to her? What should I ask or say after wards? What should we talk about? For how long? What can I say to get her to see me as a unique and ambitious and caring guy? What can I do so she doesn't get wierded out and walk away? And please don't say "There are no magic words." If there weren't, then there wouldn't be any harm in suggesting them, would there? It depends on the scenario. "Hi" is usually a good opener. But really, when someone approaches me outside of an activity/club/whatever, I'm not as likely to be open to a long conversation and going on a date is even less likely. Unless there is something incredibly charming about the guy, it's more a funny story to share with my roomie as soon as I get home.
Els Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 (edited) And PLEEEEEASE don't tell me "join activities/clubs/whatever" I've explained before that's not an option. Just please tell me, what are some ways I can start a conversation with a girl who's pretty and I want to get to know? And I don't mean generic suggestions; what is the first thing I should say to her? What should I ask or say after wards? What should we talk about? For how long? What can I say to get her to see me as a unique and ambitious and caring guy? What can I do so she doesn't get wierded out and walk away? And please don't say "There are no magic words." If there weren't, then there wouldn't be any harm in suggesting them, would there? There was no overanalysing - the simple answer to your question is NOTHING. No woman in her right mind will think that a guy who goes around hitting on random chicks just because they're pretty and he's desperate, is unique, ambitious and caring. Even if you manage to hide the fact that you're desperate and hitting on random pretty chicks, you're already dooming the relationship from the start. Trust me. I'm not even all that hot, but the random conversations by strangers is just creepy, funny, and weird. It just reeks of 'I'm desperate, and I can't even talk to girls at work/class so I have to hang around here and try to pick up random women'. And I'm not standoffish - I'm perfectly open to a classmate or someone whom I just know somehow, starting a conversation with me. Unless of course you don't quite care if the woman is in her right mind or not. In which case, you might try the 'Hey, gorgeous!' with a wink, and see if she feels like having a ONS tonight. Edited March 2, 2010 by Elswyth
Els Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Edit: Alright, for your sake, I've thought of a way that just miiiiiiiight work. Just stopping a woman anywhere to say something is definitely not gonna work. But if you're actually doing something - like bowling or whatever, you might strike up a conversation with the girl in the next lane. Or if you see a woman who needs help, you could help her first and then start talking about random stuff later (Wow, where are you going with all this stuff?). Or on a long bus ride or something, could eventually strike up conversation about the game she's playing on her PSP or such. Something natural.
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