air123 Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Hello everyone.... I need some advice.... I was introduced to this women through a mutual friend about 1.5 weeks ago. We talked for about 10mins the first night and I think we had a great connection. Over the past couple of weeks we have continued to talk on text messaging. I asked her out about a week ago and she said yes. We started talking about dates and talked about tonight (monday) or tomorrow night, but she needed to get her work schedule this past Saturday... Since last Friday night I have not heard from her and she has not returned any text messages. I am guessing that she is just busy since her last text to me was flirting with me. I know she starts a new job the end of this week and she was sick all last week. What does everyone think? Am I reading too much into this or is there no hope?? Thanks
marsle85 Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 It's your job to pursue. She doesn't want to see overeager. Or atleast, that's what i'm assuming. Plus, you shouldn't be asking a girl out for that evening or even the next. Try to start asking women out three or four days to a week in advance. It shows you're thinking about her, planning for her-- and that you've got "too much" going on in your own life right now to just drop everything for tonight. You look busy and like you have to "pencil" her in for next week. Andddd-- you guys will look forward to it all week Built up anticipation.
boogieboy Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 SHe was just being nice. SHe doesnt like you enough to agree to a date. She is just using you for text message attention. It's possible that she was interested, but you turned her off somehow in the first few conversations, now she isnt interested anymore. If she was really into you she would provide an alternate date to go out. Even if people work an 80 hour workweek, they make time for someone they want to get to know. Youre giving too much time to a woman who gives you nothing back, dont ever do this. Dont make yourself so available. Next time you get a womans number, you only call her to make a date, no lengthy conversation, and for gods sake, no text messages. And make a definite date and time for her. "Monday at 8, im picking you up and were going (here)." If she hems and haws about it, you dont call her again. Anyone who hesitates isnt interested in you. Write this woman off.
DustySaltus Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 How many text messages have you sent her since Friday? I got by the old 2:1 ratio. If you contact someone (in any form) and they don't get back to you it's perfectly fine to contact them one more time. Anything after that, you start to look desperate. There are FAR to many women out there to get hung up on someone who's already confusing you or is just plain not interested. It happens to all of us. Shake it off.
befreckled Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Several factors: 1. Frequency of texts How often do you text her and how quick is the reply? If the reply is fairly immediate save for this one instance then I would give her a benefit of the doubt. 2. Feedback You mentioned a mutual friend? Is there a way to suss this friend out to see if that person can snope alittle without giving too much away? Recently, I was set up on a date and, the mutual friend who introduced us basically told me that he was interested..if not, I wouldn't have known. I say that give it a couple days (a week max) and send her another text just asking her how her day is etc..and see how that goes..progress from there..if you attempt to ask her out again and she stalls..unless she's working as a secret agent, no one is that busy not to know their schedule or set aside one day to date someone they really liked. Still hope, good luck!
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