SomewhatExperienced Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 To women, how aware are you of your personal space with men. I've always assumed you're acutely aware of it, as I am when a girl gets within just a certain distance. Do you use it to flirt, like just getting a little bit closer when talking or walking beside a guy? If you have no interest in a stranger will you make sure you keep your space to yourself? What about physical contact, like hand contact when handing something to eachother, or standing just close enough so your arms are touching? Add anything else you want. I'm just wondering when these sort of things are signs that a girl is interested and it's okay to pursue or escalate the flirting.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I flirt when I'm comfortable with the guy. When I'm comfortable there's alot of physical contact such as light touching, shoulder leaning, hugging, or placing my head on their shoulders.
tigressA Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 When I'm really into a guy, I always try to get closer to him. I'll lean forward when we're talking, brush against him innocently, etc. If I get up from where we're sitting to go to the bathroom or something, I'll come back and plop down closer to him than I was initially. If we're walking together I'll kind of bump into him every now and then, and I verbally tease a lot--it gives me an excuse to nudge him or tousle his hair. I'll usually try to bring up hair or hands in conversation, mostly by way of a compliment or an observation--"You have such nice hair", or "You must do a lot of hard work; your hands look a bit rough" because it gives me an opening to give him a head rub or grab his hands and play with his fingers. If I'm not interested in a guy, I show no physical interest at all. I keep my hands to myself, sit a good distance away, and will avoid any opportunity for touch. I'm also not very talkative; I'll give yes or no answers to any questions, etc.
threebyfate Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 You have to be careful with assuming that all women use physical contact as a form of flirting. Sometimes we touch, when we're platonically comfortable with the guy, especially touchy people. Watch for the rest of the signs. Eye contact and facial expressions are drivers, as well as body language. There will also be verbal cues.
tigressA Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 You have to be careful with assuming that all women use physical contact as a form of flirting. Sometimes we touch, when we're platonically comfortable with the guy, especially touchy people. This is true--I used to do this, but stopped when I found that guys took it to mean I was attracted to them when I really wasn't. That doesn't mean other girls will do the same...
marsle85 Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 These girls really said it pretty well. While I know I am a touchy-feely kinda person (with people I enjoy, men or women) you pose a very good question. A huge amount of communication is subliminal and nonverbal. Within a few minutes of meeting someone, you can count on eye contact, even many polite smiles. She'll want to seem completely open, but not imposing her interest at ALL. She wants you to do the pursuing. Additionally, her shoulders and body will be open to you, feet facing in your direction. If her arms or crossed or she's holding something in front of her, that's not a good sign. She might throw he head back and laugh. It's a stance of "come and get me". She'll use tools around her to reveal her interest- maybe linger on a straw in her drink or playing with her hair. When courting (I can only speak for myself) she will want to be "protected'. Maybe give a little squeal when she may "slip" on some ice. All signs of "I could sooo use your attention right now, etc." SHE WANTS YOU TO OPEN THE DOOR. Let me say this again. SHE WANTS YOU TO OPEN THE DOOR. Pretty basic signals. As for uninterested-- women have to be very careful about attention they display. There are a LOT of creeps out there that thrive off the smallest postive signal, so if a woman is uninterested, often she will conduct herself in the DIRECT opposite of proposed behavior above. She will NOT make eye contact more than once, point her body away from you, sit as far away as reasonable in a social situation, her comments are polite and nice. She isn't looking to make "that connection". No lingering eyes, romtantic smile, very little teasing is likely. Crossing her legs away from you. Hope I was a help!
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