alphamale Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 How long do you guys wait to ask a chick out after meeting? If its someone new that i've never met usually i'll ask them out within 15 or 20 minutes. This works well for me. There is less time to build up anxiety and she will say "yes" or "no" no matter when i ask her. It also has the added benefit that you're not looking for friends. Actually, i think the longer you wait to ask a chick out the more likely it is that you'll be rejected.
USMCHokie Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I usually wait about 197 days, give or take a few hours. That gives her plenty of time to forget about me. Also, by that time, I won't remember who she was.
Author alphamale Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 I usually wait about 197 days, give or take a few hours. That gives her plenty of time to forget about me. Also, by that time, I won't remember who she was. -1
marsle85 Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I think that's absolutely the right thing to do. With less time to tarnish your aura of mystery, you secure a date... while looking like you know what you want and you're confident. Plus, after you've secured a date, both parties feel a little more secure and more open flirting, etc. Not to mention, if you're rejected-- you can move on quickly to the next. way to go.
DustySaltus Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Wait a second Alpha...did I just hear you use the word "anxiety"? Lol IMO, the more time you wait the closer you move to the friend zone.
CarrieT Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Now I would almost immediately dismiss a guy who asks me out within the first few minutes of meeting him; shows me he is a player. Then again, like Alpha's other recent rejection (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t223114/), I've got monster bOObs so I don't take any guy seriously that doesn't take the time to TALK to me, look me in the EYES, and get to know me. Anything sooner than that and I can make a pretty accurate assumption that he just wants a t**ty f**k or something.
Author alphamale Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 Wait a second Alpha...did I just hear you use the word "anxiety"? Lol everyone gets anxious before asking someone out...its the amount of anxiety that varies from person to person
Author alphamale Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 Now I would almost immediately dismiss a guy who asks me out within the first few minutes of meeting him; shows me he is a player. upon meeting some new dude most women know within a few minutes whether they'll go out with him or not, sometimes even before he says a word
CarrieT Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 upon meeting some new dude most women know within a few minutes whether they'll go out with him or not, sometimes even before he says a word True. But I would still DECLINE someone who asked after only 15 minutes. Looks desperate and give the appearance that they ask every girl they meet that soon, giving that "throw a lot of pasta at the wall and see what sticks" theory that is a huge turn off.
BobSacamento Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 The longer you wait, the more you reveal about yourself. The more you revela about yourself, the more ammo or reason you give her to reject you. So sooner rather than later.
paleblue Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 depends. girl behind the counter... sir is there anything else i can help you with? me.... ya a number i can text you at : ) usually i'll go in a couple times before i ask. sometimes it works sometimes it doesnt. dont embarass yourself doing it with a line of people behind you
MrNate Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 How long do you guys wait to ask a chick out after meeting? If its someone new that i've never met usually i'll ask them out within 15 or 20 minutes. This works well for me. There is less time to build up anxiety and she will say "yes" or "no" no matter when i ask her. It also has the added benefit that you're not looking for friends. Actually, i think the longer you wait to ask a chick out the more likely it is that you'll be rejected. yep. And plus I think it has the added benefit of being straightforward and having your intentions known from the get go, instead of drawing out this huge strategy on how you plan to ask her out, when by this time you might just have walked right on into the friend zone. I think it saves both parties a lot of time.
Green Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 If you meet a girl who you don't know at all, you probably will only talk for 15 minutes top. heck you might only talk for 5 minutes. So yeah I would ask her out "we should get coffee" or "lets go see that movie we were talking about"... I think its better then just asking for the number... then if they are like yeah X sounds good... they will just give you there number
Hot Carl Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I find it's better to spend a few months making friends and gaining their trust before asking them out. Try to get them to believe I'm not the kind of guy who just wants them for their bodies. And then I think about making my move.
carhill Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Yeah, when I say that I look in the mirror and laugh at the idiot I was Alpha, good on ya for knowing within 15 minutes that a woman is attractive to you. Wish I was wired like you are. They're all two dimensional (yes, even the b00bs part) at that point for me. I interact with dozens on each trip I take and nada. Now, give me a few hours of interesting convo on a plane and things start to change. Anyway, if it works for you, go get em. Hope you have the unlimited text plan
sweetjasmine Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 True. But I would still DECLINE someone who asked after only 15 minutes. Looks desperate and give the appearance that they ask every girl they meet that soon, giving that "throw a lot of pasta at the wall and see what sticks" theory that is a huge turn off. Same for me. It'd weird me out a little. Personal preference, though. YMMV.
make me believe Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I think asking a girl out shortly after meeting her is a good idea, if you do it the right way. Chatting for a few minutes and then saying something like "I'd like to get to know you better. Would you like to go for coffee sometime?" or whatever is totally fine! I mean, usually a woman can tell if the guy has a creepy vibe.
homersheineken Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I find it's better to spend a few months making friends and gaining their trust before asking them out. Try to get them to believe I'm not the kind of guy who just wants them for their bodies. And then I think about making my move. *enters friend zone* Ignore the 1st post which LS won't let me edit
Awesome Username Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I think it could possibly work if you were super-slick...but you would have to be SUPER SLICK.
Intricategirl Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 I would absolutely not go out with someone who asked me out after only 15 minutes. And let's be clear- letting me know he's interested is different than asking me out. If a guy spends time getting to know me before asking me out, it tells me that A) he thinks I'm hot AND fascinating, and B) he is confident enough in himself that he isn't afraid to let me get to know him right back. Besides, there's nothing hotter than a guy that flirts in a subtle way (without any sort of arrogance, but just laughing and having fun), and then leaves me thinking, "Wow!! I've got to see him again!" But any interest I have in a guy comes to a screeching halt if he asks me out too soon.
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