thatguy100 Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 I will keep this short and to the end of it. I had gotten back togetherwith my ex girlfriend, we both admited that we still cared alot for eachother and in the sense loved eachother. We dated for a month and a half alright, but she wanted to go grind/dance with other guys at a club. Also she wanted to go out and go to parties and such. She said that she does not want to have to worry about hurting me anymore, and that she just feels like we just worry so much about hurting one another that it causes to get upset and the relationship between us suffers. I told her at first I was fine with her grinding with other guys, I was ok at first but I didn't realize how she would get, and it started to make me feel umcomfortable with her doing that I told her that, she was not going to listen to me, and so I was just like ok as long as you are around my arms i wont mind. So we went clubbing one last time and well again I was not comfortable, and told her this. Which then lead to our little talk which ended our relationship, by her saying "I don't love you anymore". She had told me how great of a guy I am, how we felt during the relationship, and that well I have to say we don't have alot of time for eachother, and well she felt bad that she couldn't always do things with me. We both felt that we didn't have time for each other. I don't know, I have started to move on, but it feels like she dumped me because she didn't have enough time and also that she wanted to experience single life. We do have similar life goals and we are similar people, like we had the right things in common in a relationship, we just had a spark and fell madly in love with eachother. I won't hold out for her ... but I was wondering, say in the future should I give her a second chance? Any opinions??
Ilovecake Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 Well it sounds to me like you both went into the relationship hoping the other person changes to fit their ideal. That's your number one mistake. If you know a girl like to, as you say "grind" on other men and it really bothers you than you should not be dating a person who likes to "grind" on other men. I think you both missed the idea of what you thought your relationship was suposed to turn out to be and it overshadowed what it really was and why you broke up in the fist place. Now you know you're wrong for each other and you can move on.
Author thatguy100 Posted March 1, 2010 Author Posted March 1, 2010 I agree with you, but, she never liked to grind another but the guy she was with until she went clubbing with a friend and her friend got her to grind with another guy. She liked it, and well before we got back together, she had become jealous of me when I grind with another girl. So we went one for one, and well at first I was ok with it but again it was me just trying to adjust for her. She admits that its wrong of her to ask something like that of me, but still she broke up with me, she says she wont be like this forever, she will settle down, and that she would like a guy like myself. She said I am great and that I can give her the world and such. But she wants a bit of freedom to go experience different things, date different guys and such. It just feels like she is just trying to justify her actions. I don't know ... I care a lot for her, I just said sure ok, I did not get angry with her, I just accepted it, and said I was fine with everything and that I understood. I did not fight for her or try to change her mind once she said that she didn't want to be with me. If you remove her grinding with other guys ... and partying ... she is perfect for me. She is want I need/want in a girl, but I have to just accept that she is gone, and since she left me its her choice to come back to me. I might offer in the far future if I feel the need to, but I don't know where I will be in a few years from now.
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