drew86 Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 My ex texted me after about 2.5 months of solid NC. It was a very generic message along the lines of "Hey, I know you probably still don't want to talk to me, but I was wondering how you were doing... Text me back if you want". I almost texted back saying "no thanks" or even "Lol". There is nothing to say to her though. The person I was in love with doesn't even exist anymore. So I didn't reply at all. That was a couple weeks ago. Today was a weak day for me and I don't know why. I felt like crying yet it's so nice and Spring-like outside... I really miss who she was and what we had. I don't get it, I've been feeling really good lately and then I just get hit like this.
Scooter25 Posted March 1, 2010 Posted March 1, 2010 (edited) Man, I really feel ya bro. I remember that I went a long time (8months) where the ex would text me here and there out of the blue and it would drive me nuts and I never once responded either. I would get the Happy Holidays texts, or the the can you give me the recipe to this text or she would text me about the World Series. Mind you I never texted back and most times I wouldn't read them but it drove me nuts. Even though I told her not to contact me. I got a similar text on New Years Day. She wished me a Happy New Year etc...and I just went about my day knowing in the back of my head that I wanted to just scream and laugh in her face or just say I made it this far with out you wishing me a single thing. Leave me alone. Well, it wasn't until a week later that it sank in and I realised it was over and it hurt. I wanted to curl up into a ball and do nothing, but I honestly kept busy and just tried my hardest to improve myself. It sounds corny but just keep your head and life in motion for awhile. For me it was working out 7 days a week and my job. Needless to say I got a second job bartending job which helped a lot. I made many great new friends at work that weren't part of our circle and that helped a lot too. Good Luck, but you'll be fine. It sounds like your just going through the phases which is perfect and normal. Edited March 1, 2010 by Scooter25
Author drew86 Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 in the back of my head that I wanted to just scream and laugh in her face or just say I made it this far with out you wishing me a single thing. Leave me alone. That's exactly what I'm feeling too, but yeah, actually doing that wouldn't change a thing. I'm at the gym everyday too and it has been great (even if a part of the fuel for me to keep going is so that she might see how good I look and regret what she did even more...hah) Thanks for the post man, I appreciated it
Scooter25 Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Like I said there are the phases: Sad, Mad, and Glad. Sometimes you go through them a bunch of times till you feel better. For me a part of me wished I had texted her but a major part of me is glad I didn't. I feel like if I did, I would of regreted it more. Don't get me wrong you'll defininitely still think about her from time to time but eventually you stop. For me it was doing things with new girls I remembered my ex and I did, but I honestly just move forward.
DenverBachelor Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 I would text her back as if you got the number mistaken ... "Hey <insert random name that isn't your ex's> !!!" I owe you from last night I'll see you at the coffee shop on Thursday, expresso queen!" That will really throw your ex for a loop. And when she writes back just text, "Sorry, thought you were someone else!"
Author drew86 Posted March 3, 2010 Author Posted March 3, 2010 I would text her back as if you got the number mistaken ... "Hey <insert random name that isn't your ex's> !!!" I owe you from last night I'll see you at the coffee shop on Thursday, expresso queen!" That will really throw your ex for a loop. And when she writes back just text, "Sorry, thought you were someone else!" Haha! That's so evil... I love it
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